Boyfriend’s ex is coming to party- normal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No siree bob! That is not appropriate. Ex needs to mind her own beeswax

If it’s the ex’s time with their child, there is no way his family could have included his child in the party without inviting the ex. Also, some people split up amicably and manage to continue to have positive relationships for their former in-laws.

Mature adults can handle this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For everyone saying their relationship is too soon, does it make a difference if there was the year separation period? I think it does.

I think if there was a year separation period OP wouldn't say they "broke up" six months ago. Maybe divorce was finalized or something. Broke up means stopped being together, not got the final letter from the court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For everyone saying their relationship is too soon, does it make a difference if there was the year separation period? I think it does.

She said they broke up six months ago, not that their divorce was finalized six months ago.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. I hope you know how birth control works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For everyone saying their relationship is too soon, does it make a difference if there was the year separation period? I think it does.

She said they broke up six months ago, not that their divorce was finalized six months ago.

Right, I don’t think they were married....

[Anonymous]

I’d be fine with ex coming with the child.

I would not be ok with not being invited.

[Anonymous]

Stupid question.

OP did you expect your BF would not see his ex? He will see her. And you trust him or you don’t.

You subject is misleading. He didn’t invite her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for 5 months. He broke up with his ex 6 months ago, and they share a 4yo son.

Boyfriend mentioned that his family friend is throwing a pool party next weekend, and his ex will be bringing his son to the party. I have plans, but was not invited (and didn’t expect to be).

Do I have any reason to feel weird about this? Or is this a normal thing?

Need more info:

--Were they married?

--Why didn't you expect to be invited? Because she's coming, or because you haven't met the kid yet?

--Who cares if it's normal? How do you feel about it?

[Anonymous]

It depends. My friend is really close with his ex wife and they don’t share kids. Her new BF has been fine with them remaining friends but he’s had trouble finding a girlfriend that is okay with it. If they are really close which they will most likely be since they have a kid together, you are either okay with it or not. If not, move on. I’m assuming you weren’t invited because he’s not ready to introduce his kid to you (which I hope is the case because it’s still too soon IMO).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No siree bob! That is not appropriate. Ex needs to mind her own beeswax

Mother of BF's child can and should be a welcome part of BF's life forever. Disagree with above poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s very normal and a sign of two people who are acting like mature adults and putting their child first imo.

Sometimes. Often it means the exes are still banging or the friend is messy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s very normal and a sign of two people who are acting like mature adults and putting their child first imo.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s very normal and a sign of two people who are acting like mature adults and putting their child first imo.

Sometimes. Often it means the exes are still banging or the friend is messy

Um no.

[Anonymous]

So many red flags:
- You started dating your BF only one month after he broke up with his ex, the mother of his child.
- It sounds like he had a child with a woman he was dating but didn't marry. I've seen it many times before and these men ALWAYS have severe issues. The women always have very low self esteem and are manipulative.
- You're interfering with your BF's relationship with his child because you want to be priority #1, even though the child should be priority #1.

OP, end the relationship and get yourself therapy. No self respecting woman with a working conscience would make the choices you have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No siree bob! That is not appropriate. Ex needs to mind her own beeswax

really, the mother of his child? you're so full of sh*t.