“WFH” for SAHMS

[Anonymous]

I’m a SAHM and I don’t care what people think. I’m secure with my choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are people making this switch? If not, they should. Saying “stay at home mom” has always been only slightly better than “housewife” or “homemaker”. It’s such a disrespectful title that fails to acknowledge the massive role of primary caregivers in our little human section of the universe.

Anyway, I think we should just switch to “work from home”. Whether a woman is sitting in her “office/den/pantry” and ensuring that the section headings are properly aligned and consistently formatted for an insurance company’s lawsuit OR she’s playing with the her in the backyard, either way she’s working from home. Just working on different things.

This also means, in my view, that WFH has the potential to be incrementally anti-patriarchy if it can provide a practical and non-awkward way to blur these lines a bit so women’s choices aren’t so politicized.

What??? Lol no. Playing with my kids in the backyard is not WORK. it is what I do on the weekends, you know my days away from my job...

But if a nanny did that, you would say she was working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are people making this switch? If not, they should. Saying “stay at home mom” has always been only slightly better than “housewife” or “homemaker”. It’s such a disrespectful title that fails to acknowledge the massive role of primary caregivers in our little human section of the universe.

Anyway, I think we should just switch to “work from home”. Whether a woman is sitting in her “office/den/pantry” and ensuring that the section headings are properly aligned and consistently formatted for an insurance company’s lawsuit OR she’s playing with the her in the backyard, either way she’s working from home. Just working on different things.

This also means, in my view, that WFH has the potential to be incrementally anti-patriarchy if it can provide a practical and non-awkward way to blur these lines a bit so women’s choices aren’t so politicized.

What??? Lol no. Playing with my kids in the backyard is not WORK. it is what I do on the weekends, you know my days away from my job...

But if a nanny did that, you would say she was working.

Right. She earns a salary and has a boss. It’s a job with an income.

[Anonymous]

OP this is the worst DCUM forum for SAHMs. I agree with you in a way, and I work a paid job.

[Anonymous]

I work but I don't think SAHM is a derogatory word. It is what it is

[Anonymous]

Your contempt for successful working women is palatable and unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

*palpable, not palatable. Definitely not palatable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a job. You don’t earn a paycheck and don’t have a boss. But you could get a job if you wanted to! Just go back to work.

dp So it is only work if you get paid for it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a job. You don’t earn a paycheck and don’t have a boss. But you could get a job if you wanted to! Just go back to work.

dp So it is only work if you get paid for it?

Raising a family is work but something is a job or career if you get paid for it.

[Anonymous]

This is squarely in the category of women who call themselves a “domestic engineer with specialties in interpersonal conflict management, transportation coordination, and nutrition support”. Then they screenshot their LinkedIn profile and pasted it on Facebook.

I mean, anyone can call themselves anything they want, but it seems like deep insecurity and defensiveness.

[Anonymous]

Just stop.

Everyone knows what you mean when you’re a SAHM. Own your life. Changing titles doesn’t mean anything. Saying you’re a SAHM sounds like housewife because that’s the new word for housewife. And it was fine then and it’s fine now. If you’re unhappy with how people view you, that’s your issue. Plenty of people have disparaging things to say about women who work. Or men who stay home. Or men who work. Or women who work part-time.

When people say work they mean a job that pays money. They don’t mean you’re sitting home eating bon bons.

Or maybe they do.

It doesn’t matter what they think.

[Anonymous]

Women work no matter what. Stay at home. Work from home blah blah blah. Almost all of us do the majority, if not all the housework. In my culture, men don't do sh**. I think it's stupid to say you're a stay-at-home mom when you work from home. You're cutting yourself short or women who work part-time and who say they are a stay at home moms. It's easier for me to work PT than be a FT stay-at-home mom, but that's because my husband doesn't do sh** except bring home a paycheck. Every day is the same thing. The dishes, cooking, diapers, screaming. Women should support each other. Nasty people aren't genuinely happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are people making this switch? If not, they should. Saying “stay at home mom” has always been only slightly better than “housewife” or “homemaker”. It’s such a disrespectful title that fails to acknowledge the massive role of primary caregivers in our little human section of the universe.

Anyway, I think we should just switch to “work from home”. Whether a woman is sitting in her “office/den/pantry” and ensuring that the section headings are properly aligned and consistently formatted for an insurance company’s lawsuit OR she’s playing with the her in the backyard, either way she’s working from home. Just working on different things.

This also means, in my view, that WFH has the potential to be incrementally anti-patriarchy if it can provide a practical and non-awkward way to blur these lines a bit so women’s choices aren’t so politicized.

No. Sounds stupid. If you are staying home taking care of your children you are just fulfilling a parental obligation that benefits no one except for your family. Working at a job is different and you know this.

[Anonymous]

MNy of the SAHP I know would never want anyone to think they *gasp* had to work! They would be horrified to let on that perhaps they didn’t marry correctly.

[Anonymous]

When I was a sahm I don’t think most people looked down on it at all, especially people who are parents and have an idea of what it’s like to be home with kids 24/7. I had 3 kids under 5 so it really was hard work. If someone doesn’t understand or respect that that’s not my problem, I don’t think a title change is going to help them get it.