Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance

[Anonymous]

Look up “wake windows.” At 4 mos a baby is only up 2 hrs or less per stretch. 90 mins is within average.

Understanding wake windows is very helpful as they grow. Most people keep babies awake too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look up “wake windows.” At 4 mos a baby is only up 2 hrs or less per stretch. 90 mins is within average.

Understanding wake windows is very helpful as they grow. Most people keep babies awake too long.

100%. The schedule sounds pretty close to what we did with my son and we tried to stick to age appropriate wake windows. He was also a good sleeper and has no issues. Sounds well within the range of normal to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So... How much is your baby sleeping and eating?

OP here. Here is his schedule that he had been on since 3 months. It has changed because she used to sleep even more.

Wakes at 6:30/7am

Eats 6:30/7am - 6oz, 9:30/10 - 6oz, 12:30/1 - 6oz, 3:30/4, 6oz, and 6:30/7 - 8oz

Naps: 8/8:30 - 9:30/10 - 90 minutes, 11/11:30 - 12:30/1 - 90 minutes, 2/2:30 - 3:30/4, 90 minutes, and 5/5:30 - 30 minutes

Bedtime is 7:30/8 and he sleeps until 6:30/7am - 11 hours

He can’t stay up for more than 90 minutes unless bedtime which is usually about 2 hours. He does 90 minutes up, 90 minutes down. Some days he won’t sleep well but that is usually maybe once a week. He sleeps 15-16 hours a day.

He had always been a big sleeper. He was sleeping 18-20 hours for the first month and eating 10-12 times a day, then dropped down to 17-18 hours between 1-2 months with 10 feeds, then 16-18 hours with 7-8 feeds between 2-3 months. Then he started sleeping 11 hours after his 3 month growth spurt and started eating 5 times a day.

OP here. Besides her saying he sleeps a lot, she has said most babies his age stay up for 2-3 hours between naps. He can’t really do more than 90 minutes before he starts getting tired.

There’s literally a book called “The 90-Minute Baby Sleep Program” by Dr. Polly Moore. Yes, talk to your doctor, but it sounds like your baby is an on-the-clock 90 minute sleeper. You should get the book, it’s good!

[Anonymous]

Op, your kid eats and sleeps beautifully.

[Anonymous]

Sounds normal and great. Nannies are wonderful but she is not a doctor and i’m certain your doctor will tell you your baby is doing great.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure your nanny isn’t just used to older babies or kids? Sometimes it’s easy to forget how much a young baby sleeps and eats.

[Anonymous]

Sounds completely in line with my son at 4 months. Around 4 months sleep is going to start changing but his awake windows are totally normal. His feeding sounds normal too.

[Anonymous]

Sounds right to me! My kids are all big sleepers. Two of them averaged around 18 hours a day from 1 month to around 6 months. They are 2, 5 and 7 and they all routinely sleep 12+ hours with the 2 year old still getting around 14 hours a day.

[Anonymous]

Sounds fine, nanny is probably used to crap sleepers/eaters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So... How much is your baby sleeping and eating?

OP here. Here is his schedule that he had been on since 3 months. It has changed because she used to sleep even more.

Wakes at 6:30/7am

Eats 6:30/7am - 6oz, 9:30/10 - 6oz, 12:30/1 - 6oz, 3:30/4, 6oz, and 6:30/7 - 8oz

Naps: 8/8:30 - 9:30/10 - 90 minutes, 11/11:30 - 12:30/1 - 90 minutes, 2/2:30 - 3:30/4, 90 minutes, and 5/5:30 - 30 minutes

Bedtime is 7:30/8 and he sleeps until 6:30/7am - 11 hours

He can’t stay up for more than 90 minutes unless bedtime which is usually about 2 hours. He does 90 minutes up, 90 minutes down. Some days he won’t sleep well but that is usually maybe once a week. He sleeps 15-16 hours a day.

He had always been a big sleeper. He was sleeping 18-20 hours for the first month and eating 10-12 times a day, then dropped down to 17-18 hours between 1-2 months with 10 feeds, then 16-18 hours with 7-8 feeds between 2-3 months. Then he started sleeping 11 hours after his 3 month growth spurt and started eating 5 times a day.

OP here. Besides her saying he sleeps a lot, she has said most babies his age stay up for 2-3 hours between naps. He can’t really do more than 90 minutes before he starts getting tired.

There’s literally a book called “The 90-Minute Baby Sleep Program” by Dr. Polly Moore. Yes, talk to your doctor, but it sounds like your baby is an on-the-clock 90 minute sleeper. You should get the book, it’s good!

+1! There is so much research behind 90- and 180-minute sleep windows that I am shocked your nanny doesn’t know about this. Even when babies are “catnappers,” they usually sleep 45 minutes—as in one half of an infant sleep cycle—because they haven’t yet learned to connect two sleep cycles into 90 minutes. Read that book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, your kid eats and sleeps beautifully.

+1

My kids were like this. I was a devotee of Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child by Dr Weisbluth. He would be so proud! Your child is the poster child for Weisbluth. His tagline is “sleep begets sleep.” Sounds like your kid is doing great.

[Anonymous]

Sounds totally normal, just on the high range of amount of hours for the day. My friend’s baby was like this. Everything sounds very typical though and he’s eating an incredibly normal amount. I just thank your lucky stars holy moly (my kids were NOT like this despite me killing myself to try to follow wake windows and do all the things) and feel good mama!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, your kid eats and sleeps beautifully.

+1

My kids were like this. I was a devotee of Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child by Dr Weisbluth. He would be so proud! Your child is the poster child for Weisbluth. His tagline is “sleep begets sleep.” Sounds like your kid is doing great.

Just for any moms out there trying this but not getting the same results - it’s ok it’s also sometimes the baby. I did all.the.things. And still very much ascribe to the sleep begets sleep philosophy even with my 1 and 4 year old who are now good sleepers but man I have really crappy newborn baby sleepers! I mean within normal range, but woof! This is only a note in case another mom of a newborn is reading this going omg what am I doing wrong my baby doesn’t take 3 1.5 hr a day naps!! It’s ok, keep using the tools, follow wake windows, and know that some babies take a little more time. And some need more sleep than others.

[Anonymous]

Your nanny is wrong. Most every suggested schedule/routine you look up for a 4 month old will say 1.5-2hr wake windows. 2-3 hours isn’t really til 6 or 7 months for many babies, so don’t worry. It sounds like he sleeps and eats great, I would really not worry!

[Anonymous]

You have what’s called an easy baby. Thank the stars. My second one slept 20 hrs a day, waking only to eat and poop. He’s now a strapping 6’5” college kid studying nuclear physics.