Can you ever politely ask your in laws to stop buying the kids clothes?

[Anonymous]

My mom used to buy a bunch a clothes that weren't my style so I bought a few sizes ahead whenever there was a clearance sale...
Then when asked I would say we already have quite a bit in the current size and next size. She got the hint and stopped buying.

[Anonymous]

Just accept them graciously and then do with them what you wish. Keep some if they’re practical and donate the rest. Try to donate with tags still on vs work once or twice.

[Anonymous]

Accept, say thank you and donate anything you don’t want. Don’t take photos because it encourages more buying. It will stop in a few years. They won’t want to wear clothes grandma picked out.

I vividly remember when my daughter started telling MIL herself about her own style. It took a while but she stopped buying clothes for her when she was about 9. DD would say thank you but stopped wearing the clothes many years before that.

[Anonymous]

Have them become the daycare clothes, painting clothes, roll around in the mud clothes.

[Anonymous]

Theyre 2 and 3. They don't care what they're wearing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say be happy someone loves your kids and wants to spoil them with gifts. It’s not about the clothes but the thought and love. Be gracious and grateful, let girls wear few times then donate. If someone mentions sameness, pinkness or Disneyness, tell them these are priceless tokens of grandma’s love.

Well hello, Overbearing Grandma! Glad you stopped by.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would let the kids wear them once or twice around the house, take photos when they do, keep a few items for visits with in laws, and donate everything else. Plenty of people would love gently used kids’ clothes. Win win.

If you send them photos of the kids in it, it reinforces it and gives mixed messages.

Some people can handle honesty and some can't. If she can, have husband politely tell her the truth and thank her for the thought behind it. If she cannot handle the truth you could think of which therapeutic lie would shut it down.

Do not however ever say how much your kids love it or send photos of them in the clothes unless you want even more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say be happy someone loves your kids and wants to spoil them with gifts. It’s not about the clothes but the thought and love. Be gracious and grateful, let girls wear few times then donate. If someone mentions sameness, pinkness or Disneyness, tell them these are priceless tokens of grandma’s love.

Well hello, Overbearing Grandma! Glad you stopped by.

+1. Love is not purchased. Unwanted clothing is not a token of love and much of that clothing is made by exploiting children in other countries. Truly gross to equate that with love. Exploiting foreign children to give stuff to your grandchildren that is unwanted is love? Maybe just be loving when you see them and respect parental boundaries. That is love.

[Anonymous]

Donate donate donate! Move out the old stuff and move in the new stuff.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. It isn't worth it. Doesn't sound like they live close?
So it would be easy to just accept it and donate it. Don't make a big deal about it when it's gifted, just say thank you and leave it in the bag. Maybe she will get the hint.

[Anonymous]

I'd be annoyed at MIL's lack of taste and thoughtless dumping (which in itself is rude, even though a lot of people on DCUM do not understand this), so my husband would step up and tell his mother to only buy a couple of pieces of year, because we don't have the room and wish to buy our own children clothes too.

[Anonymous]

We just put all of the crappy gifts in the donation bag.

[Anonymous]

Let the kids wear them a few times, then donate, kids outgrow clothes so quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


Ps it's not about the volume it is about the pink and Disney or you would not have mentioned it and it's about your inability to shutdown busybody parents

Wow. Nasty. Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say be happy someone loves your kids and wants to spoil them with gifts. It’s not about the clothes but the thought and love. Be gracious and grateful, let girls wear few times then donate. If someone mentions sameness, pinkness or Disneyness, tell them these are priceless tokens of grandma’s love.

Well hello, Overbearing Grandma! Glad you stopped by.

+1. Love is not purchased. Unwanted clothing is not a token of love and much of that clothing is made by exploiting children in other countries. Truly gross to equate that with love. Exploiting foreign children to give stuff to your grandchildren that is unwanted is love? Maybe just be loving when you see them and respect parental boundaries. That is love.

Love is not purchased but giving is a love language.