Recently separated, keep thinking about sex! What gives

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Anonymous wrote:A few months since I left dh and haven't slept with anyone but can't get out of this headspace. Is this what they mean when they say women reach their sexual peak in their late 30's and early40's? Is this what it's like for men 24/7? I keep finding myself eyeing strangers and thinking, I could hit that. I don't even know how this is possible when the divorce process has been so agonizing... What is wrong with me?! Had anyone else been through this? What do you do to deal??

Yes.

Although in fairness, it's more like multiple times a day, and anytime we pass an attractive woman, rather than a true 24/7. Hard to control, aint it?

To be honest, I feel bad for y'all... it's annoying!

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OP your situation is very typcial. When men complain that their wives don't want sex, the truth is that their wives don't want sex with THEM. Every divorced woman I know had a miracle level increase in her sex drive. Im not divorced but close to 50 and I totally get what you are going through!!

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Man here. Just walking around town this week, I've noticed women staring at me. It's been weird. I think maybe it's the season.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. Just walking around town this week, I've noticed women staring at me. It's been weird. I think maybe it's the season.

Op here.
That is weird... Take note, men. Shoot your shot!
It does help to know I'm not alone. I guess. I'm not in a mental space to put myself out there on an app or anything like that though so I guess my next question is, what at-home toys would you recommend??? Ha!

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Idk why but this sketch came to mind when reading this thread.

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Some women just like D and like to get plowed.

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Same and I'm married. I don't know lately all I can think about is sex. I feel like I'm 25 and I'm 43 lol I'm not interested in cheating but I can't help checking out guys thinking, yeah he's f'able. what is wrong with me?!?

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Anonymous wrote:Same and I'm married. I don't know lately all I can think about is sex. I feel like I'm 25 and I'm 43 lol I'm not interested in cheating but I can't help checking out guys thinking, yeah he's f'able. what is wrong with me?!?

Nothing. Nothing is wrong with you. You are healthy and alive and also of strong moral fiber. However, someone will be right along to call you a trash bag or some such throwaway phrase.

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Anonymous wrote:Same and I'm married. I don't know lately all I can think about is sex. I feel like I'm 25 and I'm 43 lol I'm not interested in cheating but I can't help checking out guys thinking, yeah he's f'able. what is wrong with me?!?

48 year old woman here and this totally happened to me around that age. It’s your hormones last hurrah - telling you to reproduce while you still can. Try to enjoy it - I hope your husband shows up for you!

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Anonymous wrote:Same and I'm married. I don't know lately all I can think about is sex. I feel like I'm 25 and I'm 43 lol I'm not interested in cheating but I can't help checking out guys thinking, yeah he's f'able. what is wrong with me?!?

48 year old woman here and this totally happened to me around that age. It’s your hormones last hurrah - telling you to reproduce while you still can. Try to enjoy it - I hope your husband shows up for you!

Last hurrah at 43? I dunno, my 55 year old single female neighbor is having some fun times as we speak/type...

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Op here. Discovered a fun fact that they sell women's playthings on normal department store websites...some even look rather artistic and classy. who knew!

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Anonymous wrote:OP your situation is very typcial. When men complain that their wives don't want sex, the truth is that their wives don't want sex with THEM. Every divorced woman I know had a miracle level increase in her sex drive. Im not divorced but close to 50 and I totally get what you are going through!!

This! I’m separated and am like this. The thought of sex with my husband is ew.

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Anonymous wrote:Just think about how annoying those guys will be after you have sex with him. Quite similar to your husband, even. They're only hot until you get to know them!

but all the more reason for fantasizing about NSA, no?

Oh, please. This isn’t the bathhouse. NSA always, always end with strings. That’s why it’s called fantasy and not reality.

+100

Usually a tether you need to take a hatchet too. They often end up the craziest —trying to keep you, pressure you.

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Anonymous wrote:Same and I'm married. I don't know lately all I can think about is sex. I feel like I'm 25 and I'm 43 lol I'm not interested in cheating but I can't help checking out guys thinking, yeah he's f'able. what is wrong with me?!?

48 year old woman here and this totally happened to me around that age. It’s your hormones last hurrah - telling you to reproduce while you still can. Try to enjoy it - I hope your husband shows up for you!

Reproduce? Or how bout having sex just because sex is fun

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same and I'm married. I don't know lately all I can think about is sex. I feel like I'm 25 and I'm 43 lol I'm not interested in cheating but I can't help checking out guys thinking, yeah he's f'able. what is wrong with me?!?

48 year old woman here and this totally happened to me around that age. It’s your hormones last hurrah - telling you to reproduce while you still can. Try to enjoy it - I hope your husband shows up for you!

Reproduce? Or how bout having sex just because sex is fun

No one is saying that you can’t keep having fun at any age. But the hormonal / libido surge in your early 40’s is a biological fact - your reproductive system flares up before it peters out. Our bodies are wired to drive reproduction, just like all living things.