Emotional disconnect from sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is sweet, attractive, funny and a great dad. He is a friendly neighbor and conversational dad on the sidelines during games. I respect him a lot and we have a great partnership. But in the bedroom, he is all about just getting off. Very little foreplay and zero intimacy during the act. His objective is to get us both off as quick possible- always me first and then himself right after. After 14 years… I’m bored and finding myself uninterested in sex. He will just directly say “can we have sex?”. That’s as creative as the intimation gets. I’m so attracted to him in other ways but our sex life leaves so much to be desired.

OMG. At least after 14 years he's still putting you first. Most men can't even do that consistently. Signed, wife of 17 years.

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[Anonymous]

Most men are going to be thrilled to be told to spend more time on foreplay and having sex. Should be an easy solution if you talk with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried talking to him about it? Have you told him your needs and suggested other approaches to intimacy?

See above. OP, it's hard to address the issues you bring up unless we know if you have talked to him about it. If you've come here before talking to him, are you seeking ideas on how to bring up the subject? If you have talked to him, how did he react and was he open to discussion or insulted or balky or...?

+1 Cannot give feedback without this context.