Helicopter / Pandemic Dad

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

I think OP needs to be okay with her her co-parenting partner’s feelings about something like this as long as it’s not hurting their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

But where does it end? Do you need the baby isolated until they are 5 and can get vaccinated? Because I don’t see the under 5s getting vaccinated any time soon. I am saying this as a mom of a 2 year old.

We all don’t have to make the same choices or have the same comfort level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

But where does it end? Do you need the baby isolated until they are 5 and can get vaccinated? Because I don’t see the under 5s getting vaccinated any time soon. I am saying this as a mom of a 2 year old.

We all don’t have to make the same choices or have the same comfort level.

Pp here - agree we don’t have to make the same choices. But I feel bad for the children in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Well it’s spring now and there’s plenty to do outside for the next 6 months. Is your husband ok doing things outdoors and seeing people outdoors with your 2 year old?

FWIW we have been very strict with Covid because I was pregnant when it hit, then spent the first 8 months of our baby’s life unvaccinated, and then we foolishly thought Covid was going away after the glorious vaccinated summer of 2021 and got pregnant again. And then delta hit and then omicron. And we have an unvaccinated toddler. So I get where your husband is coming from but it sounds like he’s more risk averse than me even (and I feel crazy sometimes), but even the most risk averse can enjoy the outdoors the 6 warm months we get a year here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

But where does it end? Do you need the baby isolated until they are 5 and can get vaccinated? Because I don’t see the under 5s getting vaccinated any time soon. I am saying this as a mom of a 2 year old.

Vaccine under 5 coming out this summer

https://apple.news/Aua6766bcSTazdvBlHMWzPA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

He has no right to unilaterally force his paranoia on the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

But where does it end? Do you need the baby isolated until they are 5 and can get vaccinated? Because I don’t see the under 5s getting vaccinated any time soon. I am saying this as a mom of a 2 year old.

We all don’t have to make the same choices or have the same comfort level.

Pp here - agree we don’t have to make the same choices. But I feel bad for the children in this situation.

I don’t. My older child gained a lot in being just with nanny or us from 14 months to 2 years and 10 months. The socialization he missed he quickly made up for in preschool. My 19 month old does outdoor music class and an outdoor library storytime and plays in the park with other kids. She’s never been on an airplane or gone anywhere we couldn’t drive to but she seems no worse for wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

He has no right to unilaterally force his paranoia on the family.

He’s not. OP can do as she pleases. I’m assuming he isn’t barring her from the home when she comes back fro seeing the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was 16 years ago and long before the thought of a pandemic but DH became the most protective and paranoid father on the planet. We were living in NYC and he was in law enforcement the time.

- he put a bike helmet on the baby whenever we took the subway.
- he wouldn’t let anyone near her in public (fear of colds).
- we never once went out without her as he didn’t trust babysitters
- he hauled her crib and changing dresser up to the roof of our building to “off-gas”

He was nuts. I just let him do what he needed to do and he eventually calmed down.

Agree with you in the sense that covid is a red herring here. There has always been differences in parenting styles and risk tolerance that parents need to negotiate. It’s not easy, but your ability to navigate your way to compromise, to be respectful of each of your viewpoints, to feel heard and acknowledged, etc are all key to successfully coparenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

He has no right to unilaterally force his paranoia on the family.

He’s not. OP can do as she pleases. I’m assuming he isn’t barring her from the home when she comes back fro seeing the world.

She wants to to take their kid out and have company. It’s hard to do as she pleases in this regard unless she ignored his feelings, which isn’t good for marriage. They need to compromise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

+1 Some of you were throwing your kids to the daycare wolves regardless.

“Daycare wolves.” Ok now that’s funny. Sad for you, but still pretty funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

He has no right to unilaterally force his paranoia on the family.

He’s not. OP can do as she pleases. I’m assuming he isn’t barring her from the home when she comes back fro seeing the world.

She wants to to take their kid out and have company. It’s hard to do as she pleases in this regard unless she ignored his feelings, which isn’t good for marriage. They need to compromise.

She can have company from what I understand and she was complaining about her DH not taking her, the adult mother, out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

But where does it end? Do you need the baby isolated until they are 5 and can get vaccinated? Because I don’t see the under 5s getting vaccinated any time soon. I am saying this as a mom of a 2 year old.

Vaccine under 5 coming out this summer

https://apple.news/Aua6766bcSTazdvBlHMWzPA

They said that six months ago too…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

+1 Some of you were throwing your kids to the daycare wolves regardless.

Oh, stop. Some parents had no choice but to use daycare. Stop being a jerk.

You had a choice. And you chose daycare with crossed fingers.

No, I’m a SAHM. The doctors, nurses, police officers, and other essential personnel didn’t have a choice. Be grateful they were there for you and shut up.

+1.

[Anonymous]

It’s a shame that a vaccine is not out for parent’s mental health sake. It’s wearing on some people’s mental health. Glad it’s getting warmer but Im sure OP is probably at her wits end.