Helicopter / Pandemic Dad

[Anonymous]

My husband has changed since becoming a Dad. He used to be fun. Would take me out and enjoy all that life has to offer. Since becoming a Dad he now scowls and judges me on anything I suggest for baby. Because DC is 2 and too young for Covid vaccine, he doesn’t allow anyone to see her without checking their Covid test. People are over it. Its starting to wear on me. Anyone else have a paranoid significant other or just me? Am I being too lenient with wanting to take child out or having others come visit? What can I do? I have pandemic fatigue and kind of regret having a child because of him. I cant go on living like this.

[Anonymous]

Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has changed since becoming a Dad. He used to be fun. Would take me out and enjoy all that life has to offer. Since becoming a Dad he now scowls and judges me on anything I suggest for baby. Because DC is 2 and too young for Covid vaccine, he doesn’t allow anyone to see her without checking their Covid test. People are over it. Its starting to wear on me. Anyone else have a paranoid significant other or just me? Am I being too lenient with wanting to take child out or having others come visit? What can I do? I have pandemic fatigue and kind of regret having a child because of him. I cant go on living like this.

Maybe he feels you need to step it up and entertain him at some point?

[Anonymous]

This was 16 years ago and long before the thought of a pandemic but DH became the most protective and paranoid father on the planet. We were living in NYC and he was in law enforcement the time.

- he put a bike helmet on the baby whenever we took the subway.
- he wouldn’t let anyone near her in public (fear of colds).
- we never once went out without her as he didn’t trust babysitters
- he hauled her crib and changing dresser up to the roof of our building to “off-gas”

He was nuts. I just let him do what he needed to do and he eventually calmed down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has changed since becoming a Dad. He used to be fun. Would take me out and enjoy all that life has to offer. Since becoming a Dad he now scowls and judges me on anything I suggest for baby. Because DC is 2 and too young for Covid vaccine, he doesn’t allow anyone to see her without checking their Covid test. People are over it. Its starting to wear on me. Anyone else have a paranoid significant other or just me? Am I being too lenient with wanting to take child out or having others come visit? What can I do? I have pandemic fatigue and kind of regret having a child because of him. I cant go on living like this.

You need to go out on your own, OP. Forcing your husband to your comfort level isn’t going to do anything but create conflict and bad feelings. But you do you and take yourself out and your DH can stay home with his child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

+1 Some of you were throwing your kids to the daycare wolves regardless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

+1 Some of you were throwing your kids to the daycare wolves regardless.

Oh, stop. Some parents had no choice but to use daycare. Stop being a jerk.

[Anonymous]

I echo the above that you need to go out and live your life on your own. Right or wrong, he’s not comfortable with your child’s risk level regarding Covid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

+1 Some of you were throwing your kids to the daycare wolves regardless.

Oh, stop. Some parents had no choice but to use daycare. Stop being a jerk.

You had a choice. And you chose daycare with crossed fingers.

[Anonymous]

We are vaccinated, but vaccines only protect against hospitalization so we aren't seeing a lot of people, no one indoors. I cannot handle being sick and most people lie about their behavior/exposure so its not worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

But he’s not you and is not where you are.

+1 Some of you were throwing your kids to the daycare wolves regardless.

Oh, stop. Some parents had no choice but to use daycare. Stop being a jerk.

You had a choice. And you chose daycare with crossed fingers.

No, I’m a SAHM. The doctors, nurses, police officers, and other essential personnel didn’t have a choice. Be grateful they were there for you and shut up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid was born before vaccines at the height of pandemic. Can you not understand why he's paranoid? I'm guessing you were too. Lots of people have PTSD from seeing 1 million Americans die in 16 months. Hopefully your husband will be 'over it' by the time you decide to go for a second child.

Oh please! Plenty of us have pandemic babies that have been going to daycare and other activities with precautions. We’re not in 2020 or 2021 anymore.

Correct. We are now in 2022 and these babies are still not vaccinated. People are still dying and getting sick people are just pretending they aren’t. I think Dad is right on this one. OP needs to be ok with that.

But where does it end? Do you need the baby isolated until they are 5 and can get vaccinated? Because I don’t see the under 5s getting vaccinated any time soon. I am saying this as a mom of a 2 year old.