Less attracted post nose job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG if this was about a woman, everyone on here would be defending her, saying that she was probably bullied about her big nose and was super self conscious about it her whole life, and it's very brave of her to make that change to help improve her self confidence.

Instead, it's a man, and you are calling him vain and selfish for not telling you, who he is not even dating. Grow up, OP.

You are right. But women are expected to be a bit vain and value their preceived attractiveness. No one wants to date a vain man though.

Vanity is a a character flaw make or female

[Anonymous]

For the pps who are making up scenarios ( bullying and deviated septums) none of this was mentioned as the reason so why not stick to the information at hand instead of making up scenarios?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually like larger noses on men. Men with really nice noses according to “western Caucasian” beauty standards just don’t do it for me (e.g. Ben Affleck and Josh Duhamel).

You being up a good point. If this surgery was had for purely cosmetic reasons that means he has a strong adherence to Western Caucasian Beauty standards. What about kids in the future?

There is a strong chance the kids would have his original nose . Would you want to raise kids with someone who thought part of them was ugly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I usually like larger noses on men. Men with really nice noses according to “western Caucasian” beauty standards just don’t do it for me (e.g. Ben Affleck and Josh Duhamel).

You being up a good point. If this surgery was had for purely cosmetic reasons that means he has a strong adherence to Western Caucasian Beauty standards. What about kids in the future?

There is a strong chance the kids would have his original nose . Would you want to raise kids with someone who thought part of them was ugly?

Who’s vain now?

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are not interested you aren’t. You both don’t want a long distance thing anyway. Trust me, someone else will find him attractive and he will move on.

[Anonymous]

I love a large nose on a man too. And I judge people for nose jobs unless their nose is clearly totally wonky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG if this was about a woman, everyone on here would be defending her, saying that she was probably bullied about her big nose and was super self conscious about it her whole life, and it's very brave of her to make that change to help improve her self confidence.

Instead, it's a man, and you are calling him vain and selfish for not telling you, who he is not even dating. Grow up, OP.

That’s because it’s true. I was an “ugly” girl growing up. I was bullied nonstop because of my physical features. The boys were left alone.

Sorry to hear about the nose job though. I love big noses on men and women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love a large nose on a man too. And I judge people for nose jobs unless their nose is clearly totally wonky.

Same. I like big noses on both though. The plastic noses are horrid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I usually like larger noses on men. Men with really nice noses according to “western Caucasian” beauty standards just don’t do it for me (e.g. Ben Affleck and Josh Duhamel).

You being up a good point. If this surgery was had for purely cosmetic reasons that means he has a strong adherence to Western Caucasian Beauty standards. What about kids in the future?

There is a strong chance the kids would have his original nose . Would you want to raise kids with someone who thought part of them was ugly?

Who’s vain now?

Still the person who got the nose job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are not interested you aren’t. You both don’t want a long distance thing anyway. Trust me, someone else will find him attractive and he will move on.

Is this supposed to be some sort of burn,? Someone else will find him attractive bff. I'm sure someone else will find op attractive too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the pps who are making up scenarios ( bullying and deviated septums) none of this was mentioned as the reason so why not stick to the information at hand instead of making up scenarios?

The "information at hand" is almost nothing. New poster but I defend those noting that possibly he had a medical issue that needed fixing. We don't know, and clearly, neither does OP, since OP doesn't even seem to know him well. I"m not even clear that he and OP have met in person -- OP refers to "not wanting to do long distance" so are they just on Zoom or what? Pretty skimpy on details. I bet if he had a medical issue he wouldn't have told her but of course he can't hid the change to his nose.

So, OP, did he come right out and say he did it for looks or did he mention any other reason? And do you two actually meet in person or via screens?

As for "making up scenarios," PP above, how is it not merely "making up scenarios" when other posters insist he's vain? For all they actually know he's not, and getting this done wasn't a matter of vanity. They don't know any more than those saying maybe it's medical. You're preaching a double standard if you think it's fine for some PPs to insist he's vain but it's not fine for other PPs to suggest he might have had other reasons to do this.

None of us actually knows. Not sure even OP actually knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love a large nose on a man too. And I judge people for nose jobs unless their nose is clearly totally wonky.

Wow, you judge people for nose jobs? Do you judge boob jobs and all other forms of plastic surgery too? I hope so, because otherwise you're inconsistent in your purely appearance-based judgements.

[Anonymous]

The PPs asserting how they prefer large noses are being so ridiculously general. Is a huge nose with a bulbous tip that dominates the whole face really what what you mean? I'm betting not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love a large nose on a man too. And I judge people for nose jobs unless their nose is clearly totally wonky.

Wow, you judge people for nose jobs? Do you judge boob jobs and all other forms of plastic surgery too? I hope so, because otherwise you're inconsistent in your purely appearance-based judgements.

Not po but yeah I judge all forms of plastic surgery not done out of medical necessity or reconstructive. People who would undergo surgery for vanity have character flaws and as noted by pp would teach those to future children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the pps who are making up scenarios ( bullying and deviated septums) none of this was mentioned as the reason so why not stick to the information at hand instead of making up scenarios?

The "information at hand" is almost nothing. New poster but I defend those noting that possibly he had a medical issue that needed fixing. We don't know, and clearly, neither does OP, since OP doesn't even seem to know him well. I"m not even clear that he and OP have met in person -- OP refers to "not wanting to do long distance" so are they just on Zoom or what? Pretty skimpy on details. I bet if he had a medical issue he wouldn't have told her but of course he can't hid the change to his nose.

So, OP, did he come right out and say he did it for looks or did he mention any other reason? And do you two actually meet in person or via screens?

As for "making up scenarios," PP above, how is it not merely "making up scenarios" when other posters insist he's vain? For all they actually know he's not, and getting this done wasn't a matter of vanity. They don't know any more than those saying maybe it's medical. You're preaching a double standard if you think it's fine for some PPs to insist he's vain but it's not fine for other PPs to suggest he might have had other reasons to do this.

None of us actually knows. Not sure even OP actually knows.

You're saying a whole lot of nothing. Ops are making up scenarios to find reasons to attack and shame op.

Probably because you and they have had their now nose jobs and are triggered that an SO might not be into it... insecurity the same trait that lead to the nose job not a trait people love in partners. If you doubt this see the recent thread on turn offs