Sensitive topic: dating someone intersex

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Anonymous wrote:Are you open to being accepting of this?

If so ask questions. Ask what types of things he gains pleasure from. Ask him his preference for pleasing his partner. I think of his response will allow you to make an educated judgment of if you want to move forward with sex. It would eliminate a lot of surprises and potential embarrassment “in the moment”.

Thanks for your kind response.
I think I am. I mean I really like him as a person. But I admit I'm nervous about it not something I ever really thought about before.

I get the impression that he's had some unpleasant experiences surrounding this.

I'd like to give us a chance.

I agree. Ask him what brings him pleasure. If you feel comfortable you can ask if he’d be ok sharing what happened before, high level, so you can help avoid that.

I think before you get into this, you need to understand what “intersex” means for his body. The term is used to cover a lot of different things that may have an impact on your sex life.

I think you're both right, just not sure how to go about that. Though I suppose him telling me was opening the conversation

I would tell him that you appreciate him opening up to you, and that the fact that he trusts you with this means a lot. Ask him if it’s been hard for him in the past. Let him talk about his full experience. Say, do you mind if I ask you… what this means for you in your intimate relationships, as in what feels good for your body?

[Anonymous]

I never really looked into that condition until now and it seems there are a whole lot of variations (some you’d never really notice)so I think it’s just going to take time until you figure out what sex means to him and what it can mean to you when you’re with him. You sound like a nice person.

[Anonymous]

Does he have an innie or an outtie? Let’s start from there.