Husband complaining about my food

[Anonymous]

My husband was like this and has become much more appreciative since he took over grocery shopping. I still cook dinner because I like to cook, but I'm no longer receiving vague requests for 'better snacks' or 'more breakfast options' and his diet really hasn't changed much.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you now insist on splitting meal duties 50-50, and ask hmn which he'd like to take on. You'll even take 11 each week to his 10, at least in the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, do you make the same things? You said you rotate through the same things for breakfast, lunch, and snacks. That has got to be boring. Share what you make so we know if he is right.

OP here. This is what we eat

Breakfast: Food choices are eggs, oatmeal, yogurt, smoothie, or cereal. I try to make the eggs different with veggie scrambles and eggs muffins. I switch up the toppings of the oatmeal and yogurt. We have a variety of frozen fruit for smoothies.

Lunch: I make enough for leftovers with most dinners. If not, we do a sandwich or salad with a side of chips.

Snacks: I keep if variety of snacks like yogurt, fruit, veggies and hummus, crackers and cheese, nuts, protein bars, etc.

Dinner: I do chicken is salmon with a side of veggies and a salad or potatoes, pasta, stuffed peppers, meatloaf, tacos, Salisbury steak, etc. I try to mix dinner up but we do fall into having the same things depending on the week. If I don’t cook, we eat leftovers or order takeout.

I don’t have time to cook elaborate things for breakfast and lunch. I keep it quick and filling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him you now insist on splitting meal duties 50-50, and ask hmn which he'd like to take on. You'll even take 11 each week to his 10, at least in the beginning.

OP here. He doesn’t cook but he does do all the dishes, putting food away, and cleaning the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do most of our cooking as well. If my DH said that to me (and sometimes he does complain) I tell him to shut the F up or he can cook for himself. I HATE knowing that I have to cook for my family EVERY DAY FOR ETERNITY. I would prefer to eat the same thing every day, which I used to do before when I was single.

Same, girl, same. Every single word is my life exactly.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but this is ridiculous. I do all the cooking and I always ask if there's something he'd like. If he says "I don't know" then he gets to eat whatever I make without complaining. Totally childish to complain with no suggestions.

[Anonymous]

get hello fresh for some new ideas. you can do it together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him you now insist on splitting meal duties 50-50, and ask hmn which he'd like to take on. You'll even take 11 each week to his 10, at least in the beginning.

OP here. He doesn’t cook but he does do all the dishes, putting food away, and cleaning the kitchen.

So what, unless you are complaining about how he cleans up.

The issue isn't who cooks, but the nerve of not cooking AND complaining about what is cooked for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him you now insist on splitting meal duties 50-50, and ask hmn which he'd like to take on. You'll even take 11 each week to his 10, at least in the beginning.

OP here. He doesn’t cook but he does do all the dishes, putting food away, and cleaning the kitchen.

And when he cooks, you can do that.

"He doesn't cook" is such a cop out. Can he read? Is he of at least below average intelligence. Then he can plan a meal and prepare it. No one's asking him to be Escoffier or Thomas Keller. Or even Guy Fieri.

[Anonymous]

Your food sounds perfectly fine. Some people like more variety, in which case they are more than welcome to cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him you now insist on splitting meal duties 50-50, and ask hmn which he'd like to take on. You'll even take 11 each week to his 10, at least in the beginning.

OP here. He doesn’t cook but he does do all the dishes, putting food away, and cleaning the kitchen.

And when he cooks, you can do that.

"He doesn't cook" is such a cop out. Can he read? Is he of at least below average intelligence. Then he can plan a meal and prepare it. No one's asking him to be Escoffier or Thomas Keller. Or even Guy Fieri.

+1 I didn't know how to cook until I was about 40. I pulled out a cookbook and google to figure it out. Took me a while to get decent at it, but it's not rocket science. I still hate cooking, though, but I do it because it needs doing, and I want my kids to eat healthy and a home cooked meal. I don't always like what DH cooks, so I will cook meals that I like.

For DH's part, he is a real trooper. He never complained when I was learning to cook and the food didn't turn out well. He knew if he complained I would've stopped cooking completely. LOL

[Anonymous]

My husband doesn't complain. He won't eat it, so we waste a lot of food. My kids won't eat a lot of the food either. It sucks, and he complains about take out like pizza because its $$$

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, do you make the same things? You said you rotate through the same things for breakfast, lunch, and snacks. That has got to be boring. Share what you make so we know if he is right.

OP here. This is what we eat

Breakfast: Food choices are eggs, oatmeal, yogurt, smoothie, or cereal. I try to make the eggs different with veggie scrambles and eggs muffins. I switch up the toppings of the oatmeal and yogurt. We have a variety of frozen fruit for smoothies.

Lunch: I make enough for leftovers with most dinners. If not, we do a sandwich or salad with a side of chips.

Snacks: I keep if variety of snacks like yogurt, fruit, veggies and hummus, crackers and cheese, nuts, protein bars, etc.

Dinner: I do chicken is salmon with a side of veggies and a salad or potatoes, pasta, stuffed peppers, meatloaf, tacos, Salisbury steak, etc. I try to mix dinner up but we do fall into having the same things depending on the week. If I don’t cook, we eat leftovers or order takeout.

I don’t have time to cook elaborate things for breakfast and lunch. I keep it quick and filling.

You cook him breakfast, lunch and dinner?? He sounds like a spoiled brat. Do you have kids? do you work? I would just stop cooking all that for him. He can eat cereal or crackers for all I care.

[Anonymous]

Get him a subscription to a simple cooking type of magazine, and he can bookmark the recipes he wants you to make, and you'll make it on a day you feel like it.

If you feel like it, watch a cooking show together or browse some website with food options, and discuss what sounds appetizing.

Otherwise, every time he says it, just ask him for ideas, if he says I don't know, it's the end of that conversation, and you keep it moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, do you make the same things? You said you rotate through the same things for breakfast, lunch, and snacks. That has got to be boring. Share what you make so we know if he is right.

OP here. This is what we eat

Breakfast: Food choices are eggs, oatmeal, yogurt, smoothie, or cereal. I try to make the eggs different with veggie scrambles and eggs muffins. I switch up the toppings of the oatmeal and yogurt. We have a variety of frozen fruit for smoothies.

Lunch: I make enough for leftovers with most dinners. If not, we do a sandwich or salad with a side of chips.

Snacks: I keep if variety of snacks like yogurt, fruit, veggies and hummus, crackers and cheese, nuts, protein bars, etc.

Dinner: I do chicken is salmon with a side of veggies and a salad or potatoes, pasta, stuffed peppers, meatloaf, tacos, Salisbury steak, etc. I try to mix dinner up but we do fall into having the same things depending on the week. If I don’t cook, we eat leftovers or order takeout.

I don’t have time to cook elaborate things for breakfast and lunch. I keep it quick and filling.

You cook him breakfast, lunch and dinner?? He sounds like a spoiled brat. Do you have kids? do you work? I would just stop cooking all that for him. He can eat cereal or crackers for all I care.

OP here. I work PT and have one infant. I do cook us breakfast and dinner if we don’t go with the tiger options like yogurt or smoothies. He heats up or makes his own sandwich and salad for lunch and gets his own snacks.