Nanny jealousy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

$28 for 2 kids is mediocre

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

$28 for 2 kids is mediocre

It’s good with a $300 a month stipend for healthcare insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In all honesty, OP, sometimes it’s just luck.

We found our first nanny on care.com and she was an older woman (54 at the time) and a college graduate. She engaged my son and taught him so much. And they were always bonded. After he started preschool, she left our employ but never left my son. To this day, (he’s nine now) she still sees him once a week (refusing payment) and they FaceTime a couple nights every week. When I got pregnant with my second, nanny was a year into another position with a child she loved too and not available. So we used the same process with more money and got a nice but mediocre nanny for my second child. She was fine but never engaged her or found places to take her. She took care of my child but that was it. We ended up sending our second to daycare at 18 months because she was so behind where our son was at that age with the great nanny.

Luck of the draw, I suppose.

I love “she left our employ but never left my son”. She sounds like a wonderful woman.

+2.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you get really lucky. I had an amazing part-time housekeeper I found on Craiglist because I was desperate. Her longtime employer had placed an ad on Craigslist because he was relocating. She was phenomenal and we have never had someone so awesome again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my best mom-friends from my kid’s preschool has the best nanny. I see the nanny at pick up with the one-year-old and she is engaged and so loving. Their preschooler runs to the nanny and has so much to say to her. According to my mom friend, this nanny has never once been late and never called in sick (but did take off a planned day after her second vaccine). This nanny has been with them since the preschooler was a month old and clearly loves the kids.

Why can’t I find someone like her?! We are a nice, normal family (two kids) who pays well. We’ve been through three nannies in 3.5 years - one quit, one was let go after two miserable weeks, and the one we have now is mediocre at best and doesn’t seem to enjoy being with my kids.

Three nannies in as many years. Look in the mirror and you will see your problem:. YOU. You probably do not pay enough, nickle and dime her, micromanage, job creep, and generally make their lives miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

$28 for 2 kids is mediocre

It’s good with a $300 a month stipend for healthcare insurance.

No, it isn't. Cheap. You get what you pay for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

$28 for 2 kids is mediocre

It’s good with a $300 a month stipend for healthcare insurance.

No, it isn't. Cheap. You get what you pay for.

Stop embarrassing yourself, PP. You don’t even know where OP lives or what educational level she’s requiring. $28 an hour is a great rate here in NW DC for a nanny without a degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

$28 for 2 kids is mediocre

It’s good with a $300 a month stipend for healthcare insurance.

No, it isn't. Cheap. You get what you pay for.

Who ever got you certainly got more than they paid for. More ugliness, that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

Do you work from home and are you guaranteeing 40hrs? Nannies have full time bills. Unfortunately now since covid, Nannies have the upper hand. $28 was great prior to covid, but now you need to be $30+ full health insurance, Pto, etc. It’s not a plus if you work from home and ‘can help out’. When parents work from home, rates are higher because nannies can pick and choose right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

$28 for 2 kids is mediocre

It’s good with a $300 a month stipend for healthcare insurance.

Not today. I’m in Los Angeles so rates are higher, but right now it’s basically $35-40 and nannies aren’t jumping at the chance to work for a 1.5 year old and a 5 year old (for example) when families with guarantee 40hrs for elementary kids.

[Anonymous]

If you're in the DC area, I do not think you are underpaying.

[Anonymous]

I am paying $18/hour for an incredible nanny (40 hrs guaranteed, 6-8 weeks PTO but no health stipend) so definitely not overpaying. Complete luck of the draw. Found on care.com and also only interviewed two. The other nanny we interviewed was also really warm and lovely, and I wouldn’t have hesitated to choose her either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

$28 for 2 kids is mediocre

+1

We paid that a LONG time ago!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

Do you work from home and are you guaranteeing 40hrs? Nannies have full time bills. Unfortunately now since covid, Nannies have the upper hand. $28 was great prior to covid, but now you need to be $30+ full health insurance, Pto, etc. It’s not a plus if you work from home and ‘can help out’. When parents work from home, rates are higher because nannies can pick and choose right now.

Yep - I think the hours you're offering could be the problem. If you're only offering 5.5 hours a day / 27.5 hours a week, you're not going to get the best / most professional candidates. Our old nanny and our family friends' amazing nannies are looking to work between 50-60 hours a week, so that they're making close to $75/80k. We lost our amazing nanny of three years when we cut her down to 40 hours -- even though she genuinely loved the kids, she couldn't take the 30% pay cut.

If you need less than 30 hours, try an au pair and be VERY picky in the interview process. That's where we have landed and ours is incredible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pay above market and offer generous benefits and you'll find someone good who wants to stay.

We do. OP here and $28 an hour plus healthcare stipend ($300 a month) and all holidays off plus two weeks vacation and five days PTO. My preschooler is in school five hours a day and I do drop off so she just has the little one for 5.5 hours a day. I think that’s good, right?

Do you work from home and are you guaranteeing 40hrs? Nannies have full time bills. Unfortunately now since covid, Nannies have the upper hand. $28 was great prior to covid, but now you need to be $30+ full health insurance, Pto, etc. It’s not a plus if you work from home and ‘can help out’. When parents work from home, rates are higher because nannies can pick and choose right now.

Yep - I think the hours you're offering could be the problem. If you're only offering 5.5 hours a day / 27.5 hours a week, you're not going to get the best / most professional candidates. Our old nanny and our family friends' amazing nannies are looking to work between 50-60 hours a week, so that they're making close to $75/80k. We lost our amazing nanny of three years when we cut her down to 40 hours -- even though she genuinely loved the kids, she couldn't take the 30% pay cut.

If you need less than 30 hours, try an au pair and be VERY picky in the interview process. That's where we have landed and ours is incredible.

maybe I misunderstood, but I think op meant nanny has only one kid for 5.5 hr and then both kids the rest of the day, not that the entire shift was 5.5 hrs.