Quitting Job Before Major Event

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Welp, people are giving you reasons why it is bad idea and you are dismissing those reasons saying you don't care. So I guess you've made your mind up and I am unclear why you were asking for opinions.

+1

It's three weeks. I would judge you if you left.

[Anonymous]

I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

In her defense, when you've been undervalued for a long time, your attitude tends to become "No one cares, so why bother." Speaking from experience here. I did great work before that job, I did great work at that job for half of it, and then I went on to a new job where I've done great work, but once you feel devalued your morale is a goner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

In her defense, when you've been undervalued for a long time, your attitude tends to become "No one cares, so why bother." Speaking from experience here. I did great work before that job, I did great work at that job for half of it, and then I went on to a new job where I've done great work, but once you feel devalued your morale is a goner.

This is where I am now. I feel demoralized and undervalued. A new supervisor yelled at me during a meeting in front of the head of the department and two other witnesses and the head honcho didn’t try to mollify the new supervisor. He seemed to think it was acceptable behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

In her defense, when you've been undervalued for a long time, your attitude tends to become "No one cares, so why bother." Speaking from experience here. I did great work before that job, I did great work at that job for half of it, and then I went on to a new job where I've done great work, but once you feel devalued your morale is a goner.

This is where I am now. I feel demoralized and undervalued. A new supervisor yelled at me during a meeting in front of the head of the department and two other witnesses and the head honcho didn’t try to mollify the new supervisor. He seemed to think it was acceptable behavior.

Ok, but the best revenge leaving for a new and better job. Storming out is only for movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

In her defense, when you've been undervalued for a long time, your attitude tends to become "No one cares, so why bother." Speaking from experience here. I did great work before that job, I did great work at that job for half of it, and then I went on to a new job where I've done great work, but once you feel devalued your morale is a goner.

This is where I am now. I feel demoralized and undervalued. A new supervisor yelled at me during a meeting in front of the head of the department and two other witnesses and the head honcho didn’t try to mollify the new supervisor. He seemed to think it was acceptable behavior.

So rather than quit, why don't you just stand up for yourself. If a new supervisor yelled at you during the meeting, then stand by your work. You can say that the new supervisor has not been there long enough to truly understand the value that you added to the project and to the company. And it is inappropriate for a new supervisor to yell at employees in an open meeting. If they have a problem with your work, they can behave civilly and professionally and discuss it with you off-line instead of publically in a large meeting with management in attendance.

You don't care if they fire you, but you can stand up and show that your work is good and that the supervisor is unprofessional. He's new and you'd be lauded by others for standing up to a bully especially if you can correct his behavior before he starts doing the same to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

In her defense, when you've been undervalued for a long time, your attitude tends to become "No one cares, so why bother." Speaking from experience here. I did great work before that job, I did great work at that job for half of it, and then I went on to a new job where I've done great work, but once you feel devalued your morale is a goner.

This is where I am now. I feel demoralized and undervalued. A new supervisor yelled at me during a meeting in front of the head of the department and two other witnesses and the head honcho didn’t try to mollify the new supervisor. He seemed to think it was acceptable behavior.

Ok, but the best revenge leaving for a new and better job. Storming out is only for movies.

Thank you. I will now be focused on getting out of there. I actually loved this job for the first couple years but now see that there is no improvement in sight. The workload is unsupportable unless I work 10-12/hours day, including weekends. I did it the first couple of years but there is no benefit except a low paycheck (for my experience and level of effort).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

In her defense, when you've been undervalued for a long time, your attitude tends to become "No one cares, so why bother." Speaking from experience here. I did great work before that job, I did great work at that job for half of it, and then I went on to a new job where I've done great work, but once you feel devalued your morale is a goner.

This is where I am now. I feel demoralized and undervalued. A new supervisor yelled at me during a meeting in front of the head of the department and two other witnesses and the head honcho didn’t try to mollify the new supervisor. He seemed to think it was acceptable behavior.

So rather than quit, why don't you just stand up for yourself. If a new supervisor yelled at you during the meeting, then stand by your work. You can say that the new supervisor has not been there long enough to truly understand the value that you added to the project and to the company. And it is inappropriate for a new supervisor to yell at employees in an open meeting. If they have a problem with your work, they can behave civilly and professionally and discuss it with you off-line instead of publically in a large meeting with management in attendance.

You don't care if they fire you, but you can stand up and show that your work is good and that the supervisor is unprofessional. He's new and you'd be lauded by others for standing up to a bully especially if you can correct his behavior before he starts doing the same to others.

I’d actually like to see him do it to others so that he can get fired or others leave. I did document this incident with HR to put it in his file. There will be no immediate consequences but given that the new supervisor can’t control his emotions in a professional setting, it will probably happen again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also find it ironic that you're saying that your work is undervalued and you're basically reinforcing that your work in not valuable by dipping out of a significant event just because you don't feel like going.

In her defense, when you've been undervalued for a long time, your attitude tends to become "No one cares, so why bother." Speaking from experience here. I did great work before that job, I did great work at that job for half of it, and then I went on to a new job where I've done great work, but once you feel devalued your morale is a goner.

This is where I am now. I feel demoralized and undervalued. A new supervisor yelled at me during a meeting in front of the head of the department and two other witnesses and the head honcho didn’t try to mollify the new supervisor. He seemed to think it was acceptable behavior.

Wow. That is unacceptable and I'm sorry that happened to you.

[Anonymous]

Don't hurt yourself financially op. Put the benjamins first. Get whatever $ out of this job now. Can you leave the event early?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what is so bad about this event that you would quit rather than attend. That seems like a disproportionate reaction.

If attending is really that bad, can you call out sick that day instead?

I'm op and it involves several days of travel. It's a gala in another state. I don't want to deal with it.

The
"being sick" idea isn't a bad one.

Will the company want you to go if you announce you are quitting right before anyway? Especially if your main role isn't being there, it's the prep?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what is so bad about this event that you would quit rather than attend. That seems like a disproportionate reaction.

If attending is really that bad, can you call out sick that day instead?

I'm op and it involves several days of travel. It's a gala in another state. I don't want to deal with it.

The
"being sick" idea isn't a bad one.

Will the company want you to go if you announce you are quitting right before anyway? Especially if your main role isn't being there, it's the prep?

Op here and I toyed with that idea - my former boss who jumped ship last month said that they probably wouldn't want to pay for my flight and hotel for two days.

The being sick idea isn't great. I could just see someone asking for proof.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a bad situation that you are ready to get out of, but I would NOT quit before you have another job lined up, unless you are okay with the possibility that you will need to go a little time without work. If you have waited this long, why not wait another week or so?

I don't understand what's so bad about the big event. If the timing works out for you, you'll get an offer a week or so beforehand and can offer your two weeks to the current employer, and you can go to the event if they still want you there feeling like it really doesn't matter, so who cares?

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn't quit before I had another job lined up, though this is market is so good you probably don't have to worry about it if you have some savings to pull you through a month or two if needed.

However, why don't you put your 2 weeks notice in the week before the conference? If you're really not needed, I doubt the company would want to foot the bill for your trip costs.

And if you really are needed, then you're not screwing over your boss.

[Anonymous]

It depends on your financial situation and your desire not to travel OP. If there are specific reasons you don't want to travel (fragile child or parent, don't want Covid exposure) couldn't you just ask not to travel?