Quitting After 3 Months

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DON’T SAY ANYTHING NEGATIVE OR REALLY ANYTHING AT ALL AT YOUR EXIT INTERVIEW

There is absolutely no upside for you. Just script something like “I’ve really appreciated my time at the company but an opportunity came up at another company that I feel I need to pursue.”

Say it over an over like you’re a POW and it’s your name and rank until you walk out the door.

There is never any reason to say anything substantive in an exit interview. HR is not your friend. Management is not your friend. They have eyes and ears and anything you want to tell them they will figure out if they want to.

Agree 100% with this.

I disagree with other posters who are urging you to say something. Do NOT. Mgmt either knows how your boss is and does not care, or they don’t know, which makes them idiots. Saying anything about it MIGHT make you feel good for a few minutes (and it might not). But I’d bet you could later regret it - it gives the supervisor more of a reason to trash you. Let it go, besides, you never know where you and she will eventually end up.

Tempting as it is, do not burn bridges. Take the high road and treat yourself to something for rising above it.

And good luck on your new job!

Fully agree! It's a small world, and if you say something negative about your supervisor there's always a chance it could come back to bite you. Let the company find out the problem from other people --although chances are that they already know and won't do anything because she's a workhorse. Either way, it's not your problem to solve. Congratulations on getting out of there!

[Anonymous]

Not worth it OP. Just move on. They will figure it out when no one lasts more than 3-6 months.

[Anonymous]

I've worked for workaholics and it doesn't get better. Boundaries are important, but if you decide to not work nights/weekends you'll feel overwhelmed/underwater during the week and if you're like me it will be stressful.

I would either try to leave now, change managers (if that seems possible), or leave after a year...If you leave before 6 months then you can leave it off your resume without issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a boss that wanted to check every email and correct it before sending it out from our team. It was maddening because she was only changing small things, nothing of consequence. If there’s an opportunity to say something, I would.

Ugh I had a boss like this. She was foreign, too, and English wasn’t her first language, so when she rearranged the sentences in the emails, the messages never made sense to the readers. And she made me send them through my email account, so it made me look like an idiot.

I left after 4 months. F that.

This is terrible and I'm sorry you dealt with that but honestly this made me laugh out loud PP. Glad you could leave soon!

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, and everybody who has switched jobs knows this, you will be blamed for many things that were not your fault once you've left. That said, I usually just take the high road when I leave.

[Anonymous]

Definitely leave. And I have never met a HR department that cared why anyone was leaving so I would stick with "found an opportunity that is a better fit for me."

[Anonymous]

here.

Today, she:

-told me to do something that I thought was a poor decision so I ran it by her manager who said "no way, bad idea". She then claimed I misunderstood her instructions.
- asked me to draft a termination letter for a crappy vendor we had and then rewrote everything I wrote and told me to start over. When all that is actually needed is "Contract not renewed.'
- accused me of being "unresponsive" in front of colleagues because I had not yet responded to a non urgent email from 10pm last night, by 11am this morning.


So I put in notice.

I tried to keep my mouth shut but I did say I spent more time answering to her complaints then I did actually working so I wasn't a good fit for the mission.

[Anonymous]

*OP here

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP. It was a good comment to make. And sorry you had to experience working with her. Been there done that. Life is better on the outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New job just sucks.

I was assigned a manager who works 70 hour weeks and has insane production expectations. She called me at 8 pm this Friday to ask why I hadn't sent a reminder email about a meeting next Friday. I said I would on Monday and she said "Unacceptable." She replies to my emails to change language that is of no consequence, just preference. That's two anecdotes of 50 in the last 3 months.

Anyway- I'm going to another company in the same industry.

Exit tips?

Do I let HR know it's 90% because of her or do I just say I'm not happy hear and I found a better fit?

You clearly ARE unhappy. :eyeroll:

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP.

Life is short and your manager will die at her desk.

[Anonymous]

Good on you OP. The job market is really amazing right now. You’ll find something soon. Just hope you had something lined up and/or can afford to not work for a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, and everybody who has switched jobs knows this, you will be blamed for many things that were not your fault once you've left. That said, I usually just take the high road when I leave.

NP here. So true. I had an awful manager for two years who was incompetent and retaliated by sabotaging projects. I left more than a year ago and she's still there. I did hear that she blamed me for the failure of one major project. It was just fine and on the road to completion until she stuck her paws into it and threw so many monkey wrenches into it that there was no way anyone could make sense of the materials-- think creating multiple versions of one file and saving them in three different places so no one could figure out where and what the most updated versions were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: here.

Today, she:

-told me to do something that I thought was a poor decision so I ran it by her manager who said "no way, bad idea". She then claimed I misunderstood her instructions.
- asked me to draft a termination letter for a crappy vendor we had and then rewrote everything I wrote and told me to start over. When all that is actually needed is "Contract not renewed.'
- accused me of being "unresponsive" in front of colleagues because I had not yet responded to a non urgent email from 10pm last night, by 11am this morning.


So I put in notice.

I tried to keep my mouth shut but I did say I spent more time answering to her complaints then I did actually working so I wasn't a good fit for the mission.

Nice.

I quit a job like this once. I printed out 600 pages of analysis I’d been asked to do, brought them to my boss’ boss and explained I was quitting because the right answer was on page 1, and my boss had made me spend months on useless and poorly thought out analytics because he didn’t like the answer and that my talents were being wasted. My boss boss’ hemmed and hawed about turning over every stone and the like and I just told him to go ahead look himself, and I’d be shocked if he concluded anything other than my boss was pretty incompetent.

Three months later I heard my boss had been fired.

I spared someone else their idiocy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: here.

Today, she:

-told me to do something that I thought was a poor decision so I ran it by her manager who said "no way, bad idea". She then claimed I misunderstood her instructions.
- asked me to draft a termination letter for a crappy vendor we had and then rewrote everything I wrote and told me to start over. When all that is actually needed is "Contract not renewed.'
- accused me of being "unresponsive" in front of colleagues because I had not yet responded to a non urgent email from 10pm last night, by 11am this morning.


So I put in notice.

I tried to keep my mouth shut but I did say I spent more time answering to her complaints then I did actually working so I wasn't a good fit for the mission.

Nice.

I quit a job like this once. I printed out 600 pages of analysis I’d been asked to do, brought them to my boss’ boss and explained I was quitting because the right answer was on page 1, and my boss had made me spend months on useless and poorly thought out analytics because he didn’t like the answer and that my talents were being wasted. My boss boss’ hemmed and hawed about turning over every stone and the like and I just told him to go ahead look himself, and I’d be shocked if he concluded anything other than my boss was pretty incompetent.

Three months later I heard my boss had been fired.

I spared someone else their idiocy.

At least your former boss got fired. The bad boss I worked for is still there and likely to be promoted soon so she can cause more distress.