Quitting After 3 Months

[Anonymous]

New job just sucks.

I was assigned a manager who works 70 hour weeks and has insane production expectations. She called me at 8 pm this Friday to ask why I hadn't sent a reminder email about a meeting next Friday. I said I would on Monday and she said "Unacceptable." She replies to my emails to change language that is of no consequence, just preference. That's two anecdotes of 50 in the last 3 months.

Anyway- I'm going to another company in the same industry.

Exit tips?

Do I let HR know it's 90% because of her or do I just say I'm not happy hear and I found a better fit?

[Anonymous]

I come from the "you don't owe them anything" school.

Because you don't.

They'd have to be blind to this outcome as they surely know she works those hours.

They might try and offer you some boundaries you can place with her, but at that point the die is cast.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you've already taken care of what I would have recommended, which is to get the heck out of there.

As for the process of getting the heck out of there: give notice, do an exit interview if you want, give them some bland platitudes about the new job being a better fit/opportunity, and then evict them from your head once you're gone. They aren't going to change anything because you're leaving, so there's no point in even trying—or in thinking about it once you're gone. Just enjoy the new job.

[Anonymous]

100% be truthful. I left a job for the same reasons and regret not being honest with HR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you've already taken care of what I would have recommended, which is to get the heck out of there.

As for the process of getting the heck out of there: give notice, do an exit interview if you want, give them some bland platitudes about the new job being a better fit/opportunity, and then evict them from your head once you're gone. They aren't going to change anything because you're leaving, so there's no point in even trying—or in thinking about it once you're gone. Just enjoy the new job.

All of this. And the part about evicting them from your head. Congrats on a new position!!

[Anonymous]

I had a boss that wanted to check every email and correct it before sending it out from our team. It was maddening because she was only changing small things, nothing of consequence. If there’s an opportunity to say something, I would.

[Anonymous]

DON’T SAY ANYTHING NEGATIVE OR REALLY ANYTHING AT ALL AT YOUR EXIT INTERVIEW

There is absolutely no upside for you. Just script something like “I’ve really appreciated my time at the company but an opportunity came up at another company that I feel I need to pursue.”

Say it over an over like you’re a POW and it’s your name and rank until you walk out the door.

There is never any reason to say anything substantive in an exit interview. HR is not your friend. Management is not your friend. They have eyes and ears and anything you want to tell them they will figure out if they want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a boss that wanted to check every email and correct it before sending it out from our team. It was maddening because she was only changing small things, nothing of consequence. If there’s an opportunity to say something, I would.

+1

These type of managers are so small minded to think that only way of doing something is their way.

[Anonymous]

Send the reminder email on Monday anyway.

She sounds like she micromanages and/or doesn't trust you. Can you tell her diplomatically remind her that things like saff communications is part of your responsibility and you'll take care of it . Please allow me to do this.

[Anonymous]

This sounds infuriating. I have a boss like this but who is more passive aggressive about it and would never actually say "unacceptable" - would just make me feel like it. I totally get where you are coming from.

I think it's clear from your exit after only a short time that there was something wrong. Maybe some people will assume there was something wrong with you that made it a bad fit, but anyone who knows this manager is going to understand pretty quickly that it was her. Probably this has happened before you.

After a while, maybe they will approach her about this. It's a tough situation and totally sucks. But as others have said, I don't think you really benefit from saying something to HR, sadly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DON’T SAY ANYTHING NEGATIVE OR REALLY ANYTHING AT ALL AT YOUR EXIT INTERVIEW

There is absolutely no upside for you. Just script something like “I’ve really appreciated my time at the company but an opportunity came up at another company that I feel I need to pursue.”

Say it over an over like you’re a POW and it’s your name and rank until you walk out the door.

There is never any reason to say anything substantive in an exit interview. HR is not your friend. Management is not your friend. They have eyes and ears and anything you want to tell them they will figure out if they want to.

Agree 100% with this.

I disagree with other posters who are urging you to say something. Do NOT. Mgmt either knows how your boss is and does not care, or they don’t know, which makes them idiots. Saying anything about it MIGHT make you feel good for a few minutes (and it might not). But I’d bet you could later regret it - it gives the supervisor more of a reason to trash you. Let it go, besides, you never know where you and she will eventually end up.

Tempting as it is, do not burn bridges. Take the high road and treat yourself to something for rising above it.

And good luck on your new job!

[Anonymous]

They already know your manager is horrible. You aren't bringing any new information to the table. They will find the next sucker to deal with her so they don't have to.

Make things as easy on yourself as possible. If you really don't mind burning a bridge, leave a review on Glassdoor after you are gone.

[Anonymous]

Definitely go with Not happy / found a better fit. It's even possible that HR won't ask you why you're leaving.

I quit after 3 months at my 2nd job. It was a disaster, somewhat like yours - boss / manager wanted me to follow his schedule (work noon to 10 PM) and had no respect of personal time outside the office.

I gave my two weeks. Said goodbye.

They clearly knew why. Others had left. That position was constantly open for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Just say you found a job that is a better fit. And move on. Keep it professional. And move on. You don’t owe them anything at all. Gotta do what’s best for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a boss that wanted to check every email and correct it before sending it out from our team. It was maddening because she was only changing small things, nothing of consequence. If there’s an opportunity to say something, I would.

Ugh I had a boss like this. She was foreign, too, and English wasn’t her first language, so when she rearranged the sentences in the emails, the messages never made sense to the readers. And she made me send them through my email account, so it made me look like an idiot.

I left after 4 months. F that.