And the fact that the recipe is not possible for most kids, yet so many keep trying to make it work anyway is why we have the stress epidemic we have today. You can't force yourself to get a 5 in Calc BC. You can't force yourself to get all A's in the toughest courses your school offers. You can't will your way to being a Division 1 athlete. And that's okay. |
This sums up most of the issue. |
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I dunno it couldn’t have been less stressful for my DC. They did well in school, didn’t win any national awards, didn’t solve world hunger, got average grades on the SAT, applied ED to a target and got into a top 25 school in December. Game over. I think it has to start with setting expectations. DC knew from the start they were not looking at Ivys, mostly because their score was too low. If they had gotten a much higher score I am sure that would have entered into the equation but thankfully it level set them.
Kids have to be realistic and understand the top schools are literally a lottery at this point. DC also had an EA acceptance with a ton of money from a mid tier SLAC in pocket when got the ED acceptance. Just was not hard. |
What do you mean "except for recruited athlete". That is on the list and is important. How is the kid that is not the recruited athlete going to compete with the recruited athlete? They have to replace it with some other standout accomplishment that is "recruitable"......published work, national recognition in another discipline like science or writing or music, etc. These T10 schools are choosing among all the dancers, and scientists and writers etc. Kid has to be the best one of those to get in. |
in And if your student has not already directed a prize winning film on high school or it's equivalent that is fine. There are many excellent colleges. |
+1 All of this. We have a college junior and a high school sophomore. DS is in a perfectly fine public university that we can afford. He’s happy. Our sophomore has much more in terms of academic ability and has the potential to go to a top tier school. But there’s no way in hell we’re ever going to push her in a way that impacts her mental health. I’m confident she will land in a great school that meets her needs. |
Did your DC submit SAT score(s) to this top 25 school? If so what was the range? 25th percentile? |
| It's possible, though far from a sure thing, that the supremes will restrict affirmative action. |
Yes, they were right on the median |
Funny thing is that in your list there's really only one hook: recruited athlete. As college admissions to selective colleges are bearing out, you need a hook. It doesn't have to be a recruited athlete, but it has to be something that distinguishes you from the pack, aside from high stats and great ECs. |
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Selectivity ≠ quality
How many kids whose dream school is Michigan really will hit the academic (or social or whatever) ceiling at Kansas (admit rate >90%)? 1%? 5%? Surely not 10%. Same is true for Williams rejects at St. Lawrence (admit rate almost 50%) or Whitman (admit rate >50%). Or Vandy rejects at Miami of Ohio (admit rate >90%). Or Carleton rejects at Wooster (admit rate >60%). Etc., etc., etc. Kids (and especially their parents!) just need to recognize that they can be admitted to a school that will fit them and offer a great education--and get over that it might not appear on the first page of some ridiculous "ranking" list. |
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This post really should be a header on DCUM. There are very smart and driven kids at every single institution. My husband and I went to third tier schools. We had MANY very smart and driven peers. Some went on to top graduate/medical schools, some did not and entered the workforce out of undergrad. If you look at them on paper now, they are indistinguishable from our peers/friends who went to top20 schools. My husband and I (with our third tier degrees) are sitting here this morning in upper NW DC, in a multi-million dollar home with kids at a top DC private. You can't tell the difference between us and our Ivy league neighbors, friends, fellow school parents and colleagues. |
Thanks. Glad everything worked out for your DC! |
+1m My kids had acceptances from two of those lower ranked schools you listed with huge $ and would’ve been happy to go. Ended up getting into their top choice so didn’t but you can’t have an attitude about the rankings. Those are all solid schools you listed. |