Siblings

[Anonymous]

No, I am working hard to set boundaries and grey rock. Unfortunately my sister is all about rivalry and controlling every relationship. She actually pushed me into a bookcase recently. She probably has undiagnosed borderline personality disorder but at this point it’s her DH’s problem. I have a loving, happy family and don’t need that in my life.

[Anonymous]

They’re the best. Love them.

Talk to my sister often. She lives very far away. Precovid saw her about once a year.

Brother is about a days drive away. Text sometimes. Call rarely. But visit several times a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I am working hard to set boundaries and grey rock. Unfortunately my sister is all about rivalry and controlling every relationship. She actually pushed me into a bookcase recently. She probably has undiagnosed borderline personality disorder but at this point it’s her DH’s problem. I have a loving, happy family and don’t need that in my life.

OMG. My sister has never been aggressive with me in adulthood, but she is incredibly controlling. She also had an obsession with using gifts as weapons-sending me broken items, clothes with holes and telling me she sent me a gift card-it never arrives-I mention it, never comes and cycle continued until I finally realized it was another game. She tries to control my relationship with our mom, by complaining that i didn't thank her for the broken item or something. i used to fall for it and tell mom I found it strange to receive a used broken item in the mail and then mom would say I was ungrateful and it probably broke in the mail and then somehow I was the bad guy. This is why I panic if anyone gives me a gift. My whole life I have gotten these strange mean gifts where I am the jerk if I don't say thank you.

[Anonymous]

I have three siblings. One is my best friend and we talk or text daily. I appreciate the other two, we are on good terms, but not particularly close. Not sure how much we will see each other once my parents pass away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three siblings. One is my best friend and we talk or text daily. I appreciate the other two, we are on good terms, but not particularly close. Not sure how much we will see each other once my parents pass away.

From my own experience I would say one factor is how your parents age, how many emergencies and issues there are and how the division of labor turns out and how well you work together. I have so much resentment over things done and said to me (and how they were said) that I think it's best to go our separate ways for the sake of peace.

[Anonymous]

My parents divorced, several times each. So my sibling and I sort of folded in to our spouses’ families since ours is so dysfunctional and we don’t really have the common household of our parents anymore. Then add in half siblings and step siblings and things get even more complicated. Hardly ever hear from them, which is ok with me

[Anonymous]

Love my little sister (my only sibling). She is one of my favorite people in the world and my best friend. We only see each other a few times a year but text almost daily and talk on the phone about once a week.