Am I the only one who never gets away?
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Anonymous
| We’ve had a couple weekend getaways. |
Anonymous
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It was the same for us when our kids were little. Our first time away without the kids was when our oldest was ten.
I know it's hard. |
Anonymous
| I'm a single parent (24/7/365). I've never gotten time away from my child because I don't have the money. There are worse things in life. |
Anonymous
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Dh and I go away on adult trips with friends but have yet to go on a couple trip with others since we have been married.
I go on 1-3 girlfriend trips. It may be a local driving trip like Salamander or Philadelphia for a night or a flying trip to Florida or Arizona. Dh typically goes on 1-2 work related but totally social conference trips and maybe 1 guy trip per year. He has gone to super bowl, golf, milestone birthday trips. In the 15 years we have been married, I think we have been away just us maybe 4 times. We have 3 kids now and it hard to leave them all. I do not think couple only trips are common, at least not in our circles. My friends and I love our mom break getaways though. |
Anonymous
Pp here. I just reread and you wrote away with SO or even as couples. When we had 1 or 2 kids, we did get away infrequently. I have tagged along to DH’s work conference. When we had one child, my mom watched him for the weekend with my dad. When we had 2 kids, we went away twice. Both times my FT nanny worked and my parents came. If you pay your nanny enough, she can hire/get her own childcare. It will be expensive. |
Anonymous
| Say you normally pay your nanny $25/hr. If you offered her $2 or 3k for the entire weekend, I bet she would do it. |
Anonymous
This was us for years and years. No one to watch them, not comfortable with random babysitter. We just got used to it. |
Anonymous
| We have been nowhere. Def don’t have a nanny either. |
Anonymous
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It doesn’t help you go on a couples trip, but have you mentioned this to friends? We have friends whose parents all live in another country. We have offered to take their kid for 1-2 nights when they are ready - they are very covid cautious.
We have local grandparents and know how nice 1 night away can be, so it’s a small favor to do for a good friend. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
| I was like you. Had some girl trips. Husband had some guys trips. Our first weekend trip just the two of us was our 15th anniversary. Our kids were like 9 and 11. We are still happily married and enjoying our time together now that the kids are gone. Weekends away are nice but not a requirement for a happy, healthy, long lasting marriage no matter how much people here insist the contrary. |
Anonymous
| Find a sitter. Let kids acclimate. We've had the same one since 2016 - through Care.com - and since last June, have gone to 3 overnight getaways without the kids. It's amazing. |
Anonymous
| No, I travel alone every once in a while for work, but we have never had a couples get-away or anything like that. We live far from family, unfortunately, and don't have a sitter/close friend network where we currently live that I would feel comfortable leaving on a trip. It would be nice, but I think social media makes it look more common than it really is for most couples. |
Anonymous
| No, you're not the only one. Stop with the self-pity and suck it up or figure it out. Start looking for new weekend sitters now and get your kids used to them so that eventually the sitter can stay overnight. Make it clear when hiring that this is your goal. |
Anonymous
| You have so many advantages and are completely oblivious to them. |