How to turn off romantic feelings for colleague

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picture him farting.

Farting, shitting, pissing, burping, not taking out the trash, scratching, breathing loudly, snoring, eating cereal with a bit of a slurp. Remember his bad morning breath, the zits he has on his back, his somewhat saggy and smelly balls.

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've worked with someone for over a decade and we always got along but there was never anything romantic between us. Suddenly I feel a very irritating distracting attraction. We are both married and I am good friends with his wife. I love my husband. I wouldn't ever cross any lines, I'm just wondering how to go back to not having any hormonal reaction to this person. i've tried focusing on real or perceived shortcomings and that seems to help some but not completely. Maybe this is just a result of not seeing people for two years and now that we're back in offices getting used to it? Sigh.

Read the bolded over and over and over again. You have no idea the depth of trauma that infidelity/affairs cause a spouse, and for it to be with a good friend...that betrayal is even more magnified.

Keep that in mind with every single interaction going forward. Don't cause irreparable trauma to someone else.

I agree with you, hence my question is not about cheating. There's next to zero chance of that. I'm not a narcissistic idiot. It's just distracting. It's not about him, it's about me turning off my own chemicals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've worked with someone for over a decade and we always got along but there was never anything romantic between us. Suddenly I feel a very irritating distracting attraction. We are both married and I am good friends with his wife. I love my husband. I wouldn't ever cross any lines, I'm just wondering how to go back to not having any hormonal reaction to this person. i've tried focusing on real or perceived shortcomings and that seems to help some but not completely. Maybe this is just a result of not seeing people for two years and now that we're back in offices getting used to it? Sigh.

Read the bolded over and over and over again. You have no idea the depth of trauma that infidelity/affairs cause a spouse, and for it to be with a good friend...that betrayal is even more magnified.

Keep that in mind with every single interaction going forward. Don't cause irreparable trauma to someone else.

I agree with you, hence my question is not about cheating. There's next to zero chance of that. I'm not a narcissistic idiot. It's just distracting. It's not about him, it's about me turning off my own chemicals.

Take care of yourself before work.

[Anonymous]

I don’t believe time will necessarily help. When you have insane chemistry with someone it does not in my experience go away. My advice is to avoid him and change jobs if necessary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Picture him farting.

This and they smell awful

[Anonymous]

He’s probably feeling the same thing.