Do I Buy Expensive Home To Make My Wife Happy?

[Anonymous]

OP here. The home is within our means and we can afford it, but I set a budget at a smaller amount because we are financially conservative.

Our budget was $1.5 and the home is $1.8. The house is very nice but a little large with 5bd 5.5ba and 4500qft. We were originally looking for a 4bd with around 3,000sqft. We will use the space with grandparents flying in to visit every couple of months and for holidays.

My wife is a wonderful wife and mother. She is extremely selfless and does so much for me and our two young kids and never asks for anything in return. I feel like I should buy the home because I know she takes pride in having a nice house and she rarely buys anything expensive for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much more is it? It’s okay to stretch a little if you can afford it, but only if both of you agree. Will the higher price mean cutting out vacations, date nights, driving old cars? It’s no fun being house poor. However, moving stinks and if you can see yourselves in this house for many years, it might make sense to spend more for the house you really want.

OP here. We can afford all of these expenses with the home she wants. I just believe in living more frugally and not spending a bunch of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much more is it? It’s okay to stretch a little if you can afford it, but only if both of you agree. Will the higher price mean cutting out vacations, date nights, driving old cars? It’s no fun being house poor. However, moving stinks and if you can see yourselves in this house for many years, it might make sense to spend more for the house you really want.

OP here. We can afford all of these expenses with the home she wants. I just believe in living more frugally and not spending a bunch of money.

What is your HHI?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The home is within our means and we can afford it, but I set a budget at a smaller amount because we are financially conservative.

Our budget was $1.5 and the home is $1.8. The house is very nice but a little large with 5bd 5.5ba and 4500qft. We were originally looking for a 4bd with around 3,000sqft. We will use the space with grandparents flying in to visit every couple of months and for holidays.

My wife is a wonderful wife and mother. She is extremely selfless and does so much for me and our two young kids and never asks for anything in return. I feel like I should buy the home because I know she takes pride in having a nice house and she rarely buys anything expensive for herself.

Sounds like you should buy it. It’s not like she is a big spender in other areas, she’s probably saved you money over the years.

[Anonymous]

Buy the house. You will be using the space for extended family. Our houses have been our best investments.

[Anonymous]

A house is not like a car. Odds are very strong you’ll get your money back and more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much more is it? It’s okay to stretch a little if you can afford it, but only if both of you agree. Will the higher price mean cutting out vacations, date nights, driving old cars? It’s no fun being house poor. However, moving stinks and if you can see yourselves in this house for many years, it might make sense to spend more for the house you really want.

OP here. We can afford all of these expenses with the home she wants. I just believe in living more frugally and not spending a bunch of money.

What is your HHI?

OP here. About $550k.

[Anonymous]

Do it. Congratulations!!!

[Anonymous]

I call troll. This and the “Girlfriend Changed Her Mind” thread are both about women who want a more expensive home, and both capitalized every letter in the title. Sounds like a bored guy trying to “prove” women are materialistic.

[Anonymous]

May be he is trying to access same situation from different angles without giving away too much information but yeah could a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much more is it? It’s okay to stretch a little if you can afford it, but only if both of you agree. Will the higher price mean cutting out vacations, date nights, driving old cars? It’s no fun being house poor. However, moving stinks and if you can see yourselves in this house for many years, it might make sense to spend more for the house you really want.

OP here. We can afford all of these expenses with the home she wants. I just believe in living more frugally and not spending a bunch of money.

What is your HHI?

OP here. About $550k.

Wow. then go for it.

[Anonymous]

Happy wife, happy life.

However if it would be a struggle for you financially, no one will be happy.

If you can afford it, make your wife happy.

[Anonymous]

How big is the mortgage on 1.8m? That would make me extremely uncomfortable at 550K if it's over 1.5m mortgaged.

[Anonymous]

No. It's just a house. Your marriage should be strong enough where a house choice wouldn't be a deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call troll. This and the “Girlfriend Changed Her Mind” thread are both about women who want a more expensive home, and both capitalized every letter in the title. Sounds like a bored guy trying to “prove” women are materialistic.

OP here. I capitalize because it’s easier to see among the other threads. I didn’t want to capitalize all the letters and it seem aggressive. This has nothing to do with being materialistic.