Husband twisting himself into a pretzel to avoid my mom

[Anonymous]

I think it's important to know what the bad blood is about. If your mother was racist toward your DH then it's crazy to expect him to go visit. If it was a row about the wedding or money or something, then they have to move on. What happened?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you're married to a man-child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The main problem is that he feels he can't express his feelings rationally. He really should, to gain some clarity for himself. In practice, he's perfectly right that he should not attend. Leave him at home.

Is he always that immature; does he feel he cannot have a real conversation about this issue because you've argued so much about it in the past; or does he react like a toddler because he knows he's in the wrong?

My husband and mother have clashed in the past, mostly due to my mother's craziness, and it's interesting that my husband can rationally express himself on the subject, but my mother cannot. It's like she knows her behavior was terrible, even though she will claim to her dying day that she's an innocent victim.

Agree with all of this. OP, is he emotionally mature and able to communicate with you honestly in general? If not, you have a bigger problem than his absolutely ridiculous “can’t mask on a domestic flight” rationalization.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why everyone is blaming the husband here. Sounds like both don't like each other so why force the issue. Why is it on the husband to bury the hatchet and not the Mom?