I am overly jealous or being gaslighted?
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Anonymous
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I don't think the swiping is the main issue, though, since you weren't fully back together. The fact that you are leaving the decision up to him is concerning. You say, "I would like us to be exclusive, how do you feel about that?" He answers yes/no and you stay or move along....Writing long letters? That is odd....
You should be with someone who is excited to be with you. |
Anonymous
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Who ended the relationship, OP?
I ask because I know a couple in a similar situation (although she is working FT and studying for her masters) and while she says she wants to "rebuild slowly" she makes time for others but not the guy she is "rebuilding" with. He was the one to end the relationship and it seems she is still angry about that and at times it seems like she wants him to "pay" for the hurt, which is not going to end up building a relationship. Could the guy in your situation be dealing with similar baggage? If so it may factor into your decision to stay. It's difficult to get past something like that and he can't do it until he's ready. |
Anonymous
She isn’t making demands, she is asking him if he is swiping so she can know if he is serious, and she planned on moving on if he was still active on dating apps. But then this guy hit her with the “you’re jealous” statement, which makes it sound like he thinks they can explore getting serious in their relationship while he is still swiping, and she’s jealous if she doesn’t agree. |
Anonymous
| You were right, he's trippin'. |
Anonymous
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Do not feel low OP ❤️🩹, you did everything right here.
Your guy told you that this person was not being totally honest w/you so you let him go. It may hurt now - but not as much as it would have had you continued on w/this guy, then found out later what a cheater + liar he was. |
Anonymous
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