2 WFH parents or 1 SAHM/1WFH spouse

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM with a WFH dad. It’s nice! Office has a door and he’s tolerant of noise. If he has a meeting or something where he needs quiet we just clear out.

OP here. You all have described exactly how I feel sometimes, it's the best of worlds but the lack of alone time, lack of having the house to oneself for a minute and having to be quiet for meetings are definitely frustrations at times.

But good call on the laundry, dishes, and flexibility with schedules.

[Anonymous]

Two WFH here, at least for the majority of the pandemic. Both started going back a bit in the fall (him more than me), and that was also nice.

We do only have on proper home office, so it is a bit annoying to be the one at the kitchen table (we trade off depending). There was a point where I had to set some boundaries, like just because I'm at the kitchen table doesn't mean I'm available for a chat. (He wouldn't do it often, but just enough.)

I could do it forever, and it is fine and sometimes even nice - but there are times when I get annoyed that I'm never truly alone.

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2 WFH parents, life is much calmer without the craziness of two commutes.

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SAHD + WFH 3 days/week mom. It mostly works for us now but it was BRUTAL in 2020 at the height of stay at home orders.
Note the kids are back in person full time, it’s… doable. I think mostly because i -the hybrid spouse - am also out of the house 2-3 days/week.
The nice parts are that i get to wfh multiple days/week, see my kids in the AM which i did not used to get to do, and on a slow day (ha) can sneak out for lunch or a beer with dh. And he still handles the drop offs and pickups and probably half of the days off school.
The bad parts are: he is always home. And doesn’t understand why my job doesn’t lend itself to afternoon quickies or interruptions every five minutes because he saw a funny looking squirrel. I mean if i was looking for interruptions all day i would have gone to the office!
That said, this works well for our family. Like i said the 2-3 days that i am also gone might be the key to success here.

And YES people find out word on a snow day or random day off when i can’t join the day drinking sahp’s… sorry, the snow day on the calendar and now i have 8 hours of meetings worth people who don’t have young kids at home…

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I should add that we have now seen each other’s work personas and that’s been eye opening.
DH never takes off speakerphone. If we were coworkers i would KILL him.
and he’s finally figured out why i don’t want to talk when i get home. I talk ALL DAMN DAY and now he gets it

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WFH husband and mostly SAHM (I work on some weekends).
I miss having the house to myself so much. He never leaves, ever!

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If either of us ended up having to go full time, other one may become a stay full time home parent. We didn’t even know this is something we would ever consider but pandemic showed us a new way of life, much relaxed version.

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SAHM and WFH father. 2 grown kids. I am surprised how much my DH works! The meetings start from morning and continues till late evening. I am glad he likes his work but I think of it as extremely boring.

I am happy they are home and I do not miss my people-free days. I do miss not having my twice a week cleaning lady and having a completely cleaned and gleaming house, twice a week. Still things are quite manageable and it has not turned into a pigsty.

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My husband and I now both WFH permanently. I used to go into the office 4 days a week and WFH 1, my husband used to WFH all the time unless he had to go to meetings.

Once COVID hit I came home and I convinced my boss not to ever make me go back. It's been AMAZING. Not only do I love working from home, but we get to have lunch together almost every day while the kids are at school. We are also both home when the kids get home (we had a nanny prior to this but she moved in September 2021 and we decided to try without one since kids take bus to and from school).

I hope it never changes!

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I would 100% be divorced if we both worked from home. There is no way we would be able to handle that much together time.

My husband and I each have an office in our house so we literally don't see each other except for at lunch or if one of us decides to come see the other. Our offices are on separate floors of the house, and I honestly forget he's here most days. I guess if our offices were closer it would be a lot different.

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Anonymous wrote:2 WFH parents and a nanny with two kids. We’ve definitely made it work in a pretty small space. I could go on like this forever! No commute and no bra!

This is us too, and I love it. We have a large house that can accommodate all.

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Sahm with wfh DH, it’s nice to have DH home and kids love to see him home after school, DH can help watch kids when I’m busy on something if he’s not busy at work or at meeting. DH is usually at his bedroom office with door closed while I do house chores and listening to music etc, we each have our own things to do.

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Both DH and I have gone back to the office 2x a week, and we purposely rotated our schedules so that one of us is M/W and the other is T/TH. We are both WFH on Fridays.

I like this set up better than the first 18 months when we were both WFH every day (and the first year when DS was school from home too). Our house is small. We converted one bedroom in to a true office, but that means one person has to work from the kitchen table.

However, I LOVE always having one person home. It's made errands, house work, child care, dinner prep, etc. so much better. Whoever is home is responsible for getting kids at the end of school and starting dinner prep. We usually throw in laundry and take out the trash, etc. too, so there is a lot less of a scramble each evening. I do not see a future where we are both working in an office 5x a week.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM with a WFH dad. It’s nice! Office has a door and he’s tolerant of noise. If he has a meeting or something where he needs quiet we just clear out.

OP here. You all have described exactly how I feel sometimes, it's the best of worlds but the lack of alone time, lack of having the house to oneself for a minute and having to be quiet for meetings are definitely frustrations at times.

But good call on the laundry, dishes, and flexibility with schedules.

DH is full-time WFH and I am part time WFH/SAHM. It’s exhausting! I never, ever have quiet or the apartment to my self. I have to go out to be alone. And we live in a very busy, bustling, noisy neighborhood so even then there’s no quiet.

At the same time, we did this intentionally because neither of us liked being latchkey kids and were lonely being home alone so much. I love that there is always someone around for our son if needed. We can also easily host play dates or be a driver for events.

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Both Dh and I work from home full time. The kids are in full time daycare so they are not home. We love it. We each have a separate dedicated office in our home so we aren’t on top of each other. And we get to sometimes eat lunch together and connect during the day which is really nice.