Ideal Age Gap Between Siblings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child’s therapist said that one cause of her anxiety was the three-year age gap between her and her younger brother. I guess at that age children have a greater awareness of the self so they feel it acutely when their parents’ attention is split in two. Two years is better than three for the older sibling.

But they have a *great* relationship and I don’t regret the age gap because I couldn’t have handled a two year age gap. I actually did get pregnant and there would have been a 2 year gap and I started having panic attacks. I had a miscarriage, and then when I got pregnant with my son I was so happy and everything felt so perfect.

With questions about “what is best” you have to consider everybody in the family, not just the kids.

This is kind of a f***ed up thing to tell a parent. especially because it was due to miscarriage. I would find a new therapist if my kid's therapist told me that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child’s therapist said that one cause of her anxiety was the three-year age gap between her and her younger brother. I guess at that age children have a greater awareness of the self so they feel it acutely when their parents’ attention is split in two. Two years is better than three for the older sibling.

But they have a *great* relationship and I don’t regret the age gap because I couldn’t have handled a two year age gap. I actually did get pregnant and there would have been a 2 year gap and I started having panic attacks. I had a miscarriage, and then when I got pregnant with my son I was so happy and everything felt so perfect.

With questions about “what is best” you have to consider everybody in the family, not just the kids.

This is kind of a f***ed up thing to tell a parent. especially because it was due to miscarriage. I would find a new therapist if my kid's therapist told me that.

Yeah that sounds bogus and not research based!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child’s therapist said that one cause of her anxiety was the three-year age gap between her and her younger brother. I guess at that age children have a greater awareness of the self so they feel it acutely when their parents’ attention is split in two. Two years is better than three for the older sibling.

But they have a *great* relationship and I don’t regret the age gap because I couldn’t have handled a two year age gap. I actually did get pregnant and there would have been a 2 year gap and I started having panic attacks. I had a miscarriage, and then when I got pregnant with my son I was so happy and everything felt so perfect.

With questions about “what is best” you have to consider everybody in the family, not just the kids.

This is kind of a f***ed up thing to tell a parent. especially because it was due to miscarriage. I would find a new therapist if my kid's therapist told me that.

Yeah that sounds bogus and not research based!

+1 what a terrible thing to say to someone!! I would find a new therapist stat.

[Anonymous]

3 years is perfect. Old enough to play independently and able to understand most things and communicate effectively.

[Anonymous]

Our boys are 4 years apart and have a great relationship. They’re 18 and 14 now and I’m not sure who will miss older DS more in the Fall, the parents or little brother.

Op as you can see it is family dependent. You could have kids 18 months apart who are not close or kids several years apart who are buddies.

[Anonymous]

Financially 3 years is pretty good if you have to pay for preschool. One in and one out.