Friend sent her kid to daycare after close covid contact

[Anonymous]

This is probably happening left and right, this is just the one case you know about.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is going to get it. Stop pointing fingers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

OP here. So their daughter is actually a close contact of a confirmed covid case. My son is a close contact of a close contact (their daughter), not a confirmed case, so he doesn't need to quarantine or test. If my friend told me her or her daughter were covid positive, yes I would have kept my son home.

Oh really? Did you phone the parent on the morning of school and confirm her child was negative before sending your child? No, you didn't. You knew you had potentially been exposed, but you didn't bother to confirm, quarantine, or test. You're as bad as everyone else OP. So save your outrage.

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You just "didn't yet know" whether your daughter was a close contact or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

OP here. So their daughter is actually a close contact of a confirmed covid case. My son is a close contact of a close contact (their daughter), not a confirmed case, so he doesn't need to quarantine or test. If my friend told me her or her daughter were covid positive, yes I would have kept my son home.

Oh really? Did you phone the parent on the morning of school and confirm her child was negative before sending your child? No, you didn't. You knew you had potentially been exposed, but you didn't bother to confirm, quarantine, or test. You're as bad as everyone else OP. So save your outrage.

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You just "didn't yet know" whether your daughter was a close contact or not.

What? The only way anyone knows if they are a close contact is when they are told. I hope the people I associate with are responsible enough to do their diligence and contact trace if they test positive. Because my friend did tell us about the potential exposure I think it's fair to assume she would also have told us if she or her daughter subsequently tested positive.

And to the poster above you, I didn't know my son had been potentially exposed - he was a close contact of a close contact, which according to literally every public health authority is not someone who needs to quarantine, test, or isolate.

I'm not "outraged" just a little concerned. I posted here to try to gauge how reasonable my neighbor's actions were, and whether other people think it's okay. My actions in this situation are totally in line with public health guidance and I'm not sure why you're suggesting I needed to do anything differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is probably happening left and right, this is just the one case you know about.

Yeah, that's concerning to me. I sort of thought most people were still trying to be responsible about this stuff, but maybe I'm wrong.

[Anonymous]

I'm in a similar situation as your friend, OP, and I'm sending my kid to school. (Albeit, he's 11 and vaxxed.) We were at a get together Saturday evening with 3 other couples. Yesterday, one family tested positive. We spoke with the school and health department, and no one, including unvaxxed and preschoolers, besides the family who tested positive, is required to quarantine. A year ago I would have paused longer and thought the responsible thing would be to stay home for a few days. Now, I realize 15 people, none with symptoms, can put life on hold, missing school/work, "just in case".

[Anonymous]

"Responsible" is noble, but most of us are vaxxed and boosted (adults) and low-risk (kids) and NEED TO WORK -- not "work" with a dependent toddler wreaking havoc in the Zoom background, but actually work. Something has to give.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in a similar situation as your friend, OP, and I'm sending my kid to school. (Albeit, he's 11 and vaxxed.) We were at a get together Saturday evening with 3 other couples. Yesterday, one family tested positive. We spoke with the school and health department, and no one, including unvaxxed and preschoolers, besides the family who tested positive, is required to quarantine. A year ago I would have paused longer and thought the responsible thing would be to stay home for a few days. Now, I realize 15 people, none with symptoms, can put life on hold, missing school/work, "just in case".

And to further clarify, the get-together was 4 couples and their 7 children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in a similar situation as your friend, OP, and I'm sending my kid to school. (Albeit, he's 11 and vaxxed.) We were at a get together Saturday evening with 3 other couples. Yesterday, one family tested positive. We spoke with the school and health department, and no one, including unvaxxed and preschoolers, besides the family who tested positive, is required to quarantine. A year ago I would have paused longer and thought the responsible thing would be to stay home for a few days. Now, I realize 15 people, none with symptoms, can put life on hold, missing school/work, "just in case".

This is different because your son is vaxxed. According to the CDC fully vaxed people don't need to quarantine unless they develop symptoms. Maybe that guidance is outdated because of Omicron, but at least based on the technical current guidance you are perfectly fine here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in a similar situation as your friend, OP, and I'm sending my kid to school. (Albeit, he's 11 and vaxxed.) We were at a get together Saturday evening with 3 other couples. Yesterday, one family tested positive. We spoke with the school and health department, and no one, including unvaxxed and preschoolers, besides the family who tested positive, is required to quarantine. A year ago I would have paused longer and thought the responsible thing would be to stay home for a few days. Now, I realize 15 people, none with symptoms, can put life on hold, missing school/work, "just in case".

This is different because your son is vaxxed. According to the CDC fully vaxed people don't need to quarantine unless they develop symptoms. Maybe that guidance is outdated because of Omicron, but at least based on the technical current guidance you are perfectly fine here.

SP as above - I glossed over the part where you said the health department told unvaxed preschoolers who were exposed that they do not have to quarantine. That's news to me. The health department told you there are just no quarantine requirements whatsoever anymore for close contacts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Responsible" is noble, but most of us are vaxxed and boosted (adults) and low-risk (kids) and NEED TO WORK -- not "work" with a dependent toddler wreaking havoc in the Zoom background, but actually work. Something has to give.

This. It's been nearly two YEARS of this crap. The kid had a negative rapid test that morning, which is plenty good enough for me. There are so many other things to be concerned about in pandemic times, but this specific scenario is not one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in a similar situation as your friend, OP, and I'm sending my kid to school. (Albeit, he's 11 and vaxxed.) We were at a get together Saturday evening with 3 other couples. Yesterday, one family tested positive. We spoke with the school and health department, and no one, including unvaxxed and preschoolers, besides the family who tested positive, is required to quarantine. A year ago I would have paused longer and thought the responsible thing would be to stay home for a few days. Now, I realize 15 people, none with symptoms, can put life on hold, missing school/work, "just in case".

This is different because your son is vaxxed. According to the CDC fully vaxed people don't need to quarantine unless they develop symptoms. Maybe that guidance is outdated because of Omicron, but at least based on the technical current guidance you are perfectly fine here.

Yes, but of the 7 kids, 1 preschooler is unvaxxed, 2 adolescents have only 1 of their shots, 1 adolescent is less than 2 weeks out from his 2nd shot, my son is fully vaxxed, and the other 11 year old is covid positive. None of us - except the family that tested positive - is required to quarantine. Obviously if symptoms appear, we will - but as of now, all are in school/daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

OP here. So their daughter is actually a close contact of a confirmed covid case. My son is a close contact of a close contact (their daughter), not a confirmed case, so he doesn't need to quarantine or test. If my friend told me her or her daughter were covid positive, yes I would have kept my son home.

Oh really? Did you phone the parent on the morning of school and confirm her child was negative before sending your child? No, you didn't. You knew you had potentially been exposed, but you didn't bother to confirm, quarantine, or test. You're as bad as everyone else OP. So save your outrage.

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You just "didn't yet know" whether your daughter was a close contact or not.

What? The only way anyone knows if they are a close contact is when they are told. I hope the people I associate with are responsible enough to do their diligence and contact trace if they test positive. Because my friend did tell us about the potential exposure I think it's fair to assume she would also have told us if she or her daughter subsequently tested positive.

And to the poster above you, I didn't know my son had been potentially exposed - he was a close contact of a close contact, which according to literally every public health authority is not someone who needs to quarantine, test, or isolate.

I'm not "outraged" just a little concerned. I posted here to try to gauge how reasonable my neighbor's actions were, and whether other people think it's okay. My actions in this situation are totally in line with public health guidance and I'm not sure why you're suggesting I needed to do anything differently.

You can't be outraged that the friend sent her potentially positive child to school while also being feigning ignorance that your child might also have already been exposed to the very same child OP.

[Anonymous]

The madness of quarantines is done. It is too wide spread now.

The only people that need to be quarantining are those that are actually sick and/or those that test positive.

Free for all for everyone else. You just have to accept that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend/neighbor has a daughter in the same daycare class as my son. The kids are too young to be vaccinated.

Friend told me Monday that she found out they had a close contact with a positive COVID case on Saturday (1/1). It was her brother, who visited them inside for the afternoon and ate dinner with the family, then developed symptoms and tested positive for covid on Monday (1/4). She told me this because we had hung out together on Sunday (1/2) - so the day after she and her daughter had the close contact - and she wanted us to know about the potential exposure. We hung out outside only and were not very close to one another, although the kids did play together on the playground.

Neither my son or I developed any symptoms and since we did not actually have a close contact with a positive covid case, I took him to daycare today (1/5), which is the first day it reopened after the snow. I was shocked to see her there dropping her daughter off at school. Their close contact was on Saturday so even by the most liberal standard, they should be quarantining at least through tomorrow, right? I didn't say that directly but I think she could tell I saw surprised, and told me that her daughter had a negative rapid test this morning.

I feel like she is being irresponsible and potentially exposing my son and the rest of the kids at daycare. I get that keeping her kid home another two days is a pain but that's kind of just what you have to do, right? Technically according to our school's policy she needed to notify them of the close contact as well, which obviously she did not.

Would you be annoyed by this? Or I am being too much of a stickler?

You are just as irresponsible as your neighbor and both of you should be kicked out because you have deliberately exposed other children to Covid. However, I would bet a lot of money that 95% of DCUM parents have done, or will do, exactly the same as you. In no way does this excuse your behavior.