Friend sent her kid to daycare after close covid contact

[Anonymous]

My friend/neighbor has a daughter in the same daycare class as my son. The kids are too young to be vaccinated.

Friend told me Monday that she found out they had a close contact with a positive COVID case on Saturday (1/1). It was her brother, who visited them inside for the afternoon and ate dinner with the family, then developed symptoms and tested positive for covid on Monday (1/4). She told me this because we had hung out together on Sunday (1/2) - so the day after she and her daughter had the close contact - and she wanted us to know about the potential exposure. We hung out outside only and were not very close to one another, although the kids did play together on the playground.

Neither my son or I developed any symptoms and since we did not actually have a close contact with a positive covid case, I took him to daycare today (1/5), which is the first day it reopened after the snow. I was shocked to see her there dropping her daughter off at school. Their close contact was on Saturday so even by the most liberal standard, they should be quarantining at least through tomorrow, right? I didn't say that directly but I think she could tell I saw surprised, and told me that her daughter had a negative rapid test this morning.

I feel like she is being irresponsible and potentially exposing my son and the rest of the kids at daycare. I get that keeping her kid home another two days is a pain but that's kind of just what you have to do, right? Technically according to our school's policy she needed to notify them of the close contact as well, which obviously she did not.

Would you be annoyed by this? Or I am being too much of a stickler?

[Anonymous]

You are being too much of a stickler. If you gathered with anyone during the holidays (and most people I know did), you probably had a Covid contact whether you know it or not. Chill out.

[Anonymous]

If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

OP here. So their daughter is actually a close contact of a confirmed covid case. My son is a close contact of a close contact (their daughter), not a confirmed case, so he doesn't need to quarantine or test. If my friend told me her or her daughter were covid positive, yes I would have kept my son home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

Nooo playground is not equivalent to indoor contact that tested positive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are being too much of a stickler. If you gathered with anyone during the holidays (and most people I know did), you probably had a Covid contact whether you know it or not. Chill out.

I guess that's true but if I was notified that my unvaccinated son did indeed have close contact with a covid case, I would have in quarantine. Because that's the responsible thing to do, I thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

Nooo playground is not equivalent to indoor contact that tested positive.

Close contact is defined by being near someone with COVID for 15 minutes; indoor/outdoor is not specified. If the daughter was a confirmed case, OP's child would have had close contact.

[Anonymous]

Did she test? They say the at home tests are good at telling someone they are contagious that day, so if she tests every morning, I could see why it could be fine.

Also, a PCR yesterday (day 4) would be pretty accurate, so maybe they did that.

[Anonymous]

Does your daycare have specific rules about how long to quarantine? I might call the director and ask that my kid not be in the same room as your friend’s daughter. That may be obnoxious but I’m willing to be obnoxious for my kid’s safety.

Also, I wouldn’t trust that negative rapid test. I’m only trusting PCR and only if it’s done on the correct day.

Why are you friends with someone so irresponsible?

[Anonymous]

CDC identifies a close contact as have been exposed within two days prior to symptoms/positive test, so if your friend saw her brother on 1/1 and he did not develop symptoms until 1/4 then they are not required to quarantine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think their daughter has COVID, logic dictates you think you are now a close contact of someone with COVID (close contact is defined by 15 minutes, and you admit the kids were together on the playground). And yet, here you are at school, and I am guessing you did not get a PCR test. So, if you are going to be upset at her, you also have to be upset at yourself.

OP here. So their daughter is actually a close contact of a confirmed covid case. My son is a close contact of a close contact (their daughter), not a confirmed case, so he doesn't need to quarantine or test. If my friend told me her or her daughter were covid positive, yes I would have kept my son home.

Oh really? Did you phone the parent on the morning of school and confirm her child was negative before sending your child? No, you didn't. You knew you had potentially been exposed, but you didn't bother to confirm, quarantine, or test. You're as bad as everyone else OP. So save your outrage.

[Anonymous]

If she had a negative rapid test this morning, she's safer than anyone else there who hasn't even tested.

[Anonymous]

I might have taken my kid home with me once I saw that she was dropping her child off. Then again, chances are she is not the only parent in the class doing this. So I could run into the same issue every day, but just not know about it.

[Anonymous]

We are all going to be in close contact at this point. It seems pointless to even try to quarantine unless you have symptoms. Covid isn’t going anywhere. And now we have a brand new variant - IHU. This is just life now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CDC identifies a close contact as have been exposed within two days prior to symptoms/positive test, so if your friend saw her brother on 1/1 and he did not develop symptoms until 1/4 then they are not required to quarantine.

Sorry I wrote the date wrong. She saw her brother on 1/1 and he tested positive 1/3.