Apartners- Would you do it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confused about how this arrangement allows for the couples’ sex life? Do they simply not have sex / are asexual?

He'll come by on the way home from work or we have sex on the nights we sleep next to each other. I think we have more sex than the majority of married people I know.

[Anonymous]

This basically sounds like an amicable divorce but without the one amazing benefits of divorce which is having a great sex life with lots of new people.

I can see the benefits of this arraignment but now way I would be faithful with my own place and freedom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confused about how this arrangement allows for the couples’ sex life? Do they simply not have sex / are asexual?

I’m confused.do you think people must live together in order to have sex? Because that is not accurate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confused about how this arrangement allows for the couples’ sex life? Do they simply not have sex / are asexual?

I think this actually leads to MORE sex.

[Anonymous]

Robert and Joan Parker did this decades ago in a huge house off Brattle Street in Cambridge. Money helps!

[Anonymous]

My husband and I sleep in separate rooms and no, it doesn’t affect your sex life.

[Anonymous]

It sounds great if you have enough money to run two houses

[Anonymous]

Hiw does it work with parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We live in separate wings of the house. Separate bedrooms, bathroom, living room and small kitchen. Their is a main kitchen where the whole family has dinner. But DH eats breakfast and lunch in his kitchen. I eat in the main kitchen with the kids. Their bedrooms are in my wing. It's been like this ever since they were toddlers so they don't think it's weird but I do!

We do something similar, different floors instead of wings.

Do you own 2 condos one on top of the other? Or did you build your house this Ray?

[Anonymous]

I would totally do this if I were widowed or divorced. Love my husband but wouldn’t feel a need to co-habitat in the same way again (especially with kids).

[Anonymous]

I would do this in a heartbeat and have thought so for years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner and I have this arrangement but we don't need to get married. I don't think it's that big of a deal or anything revolutionary esp for divorced people with kids.

The bold is right. I'm older than most on this site, I think, and I know that in my family, there were two married couples who did this, in the 1890s and the 1920s. One couple had kids, some in each household. The other couple had no children but "loved each other so much they couldn't get along" as my grandmother once put it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This basically sounds like an amicable divorce but without the one amazing benefits of divorce which is having a great sex life with lots of new people.

I can see the benefits of this arraignment but now way I would be faithful with my own place and freedom.

DP. Not a fan of "apartners" as a concept for me, but if it works for others, that's fine.

But the bold above is just

There is a myth prevalent on DCUM that divorce = "a great sex life with lots of new people." It's...a myth. Does that happen for some, after divorce? Of course it does. But saying it'll happen as if it's a guaranteed "benefit"? That's laughable. So is the guarantee of "great" sex. That's pretty naive. Look at post after post after post here, and letter after letter to every advice columnist everywhere, complaining about how hard it is to date after a divorce, and how if you do get dates and plenty of sex but want anything more -- that's even harder to find. But maybe you think sex with randos you meet online or pick up wherever is a great life goal.

[Anonymous]

Yes I would do this dive in divorced with young kids.

[Anonymous]

I would do it if i were in a second childless marriage for the sake of my kids( kids from first marriage). It gives the kids more space.

It's definitely not ideal for me because I am clingy as f#ck.

I need physical contact with my DH throughout the day and at night( even if it's just his elbow touching me). I like him brushing past me throughout the day. 8-10 hours of work plus time spent running errands away from home is already too much non- touching time for me. Another house will mean less time touching during the day and at night.