How often are you having sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and I got pregnant easily both times. My DH refused to have sex with me during my pregnancies. I was very horny in my 2nd trimester but DH did not want to jeopardize the pregnancies in any way. Then when kids were born, I did not want to have sex for a long time because my libido just vanished. So for at least 2 years for each kid we did not have sex.

Would you believe it if I said that I actually have a great sex life and even in our 50s we have sex at least thrice a week? It is just that 4 years of my married life, there was no sex. My DH was very supportive for every thing and very loving, but did not want sex or care to be sexual with me.

Wow! That’s some pretty selfish behavior on his part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently 28 weeks and we’ve been pretty consistent at 3-4 times a week. What can I say, we love sex, lol.

Sometimes I do feel fat and gross and don’t want to, but H always makes me feel beautiful and it puts me right back in the mood.

Do you not have other children? How do you have the time?

Some people had kids who can be laid down in a crib at 7:30pm and go to sleep on their own. I may kidnap one some day and leave one of my nonsleeping babies. Mwahahahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Currently 28 weeks and we’ve been pretty consistent at 3-4 times a week. What can I say, we love sex, lol.

Sometimes I do feel fat and gross and don’t want to, but H always makes me feel beautiful and it puts me right back in the mood.

Do you not have other children? How do you have the time?

Yup, we have a 5yo.

Honestly the biggest reason is H pulls his weight around the house. Cooking/cleanup/childcare in the evening are pretty evenly divided, we don’t keep a schedule but we both pitch in fully. After dinner, I’ll shower and get ready for bed myself while he gets DC ready for bed. DC is in bed around 830. Whoever has the time does the kitchen cleanup. H and I talk/catch up for 30 minutes or so (so until 9ish), then sex, then I go to bed. H is a night owl so he’ll stay up another 1-2 hours getting ready for bed and doing anything that didn’t get done - kitchen, prep for the next day, etc.

DC likes to sleep in until 830/9 on weekends. I’m a morning person so I’ll wake up H for sex around 6/630, then he goes back to sleep and I get up and start getting everything ready for the day. I’ll take care of DC until H is up and moving, sometimes he’s up at 9, sometimes 10-11. I don’t mind him sleeping in because usually he got everything ready and cleaned up the night before.

1-2x a month we’ll both work from home or DC will have a ply date, so we get a couple hours kid-free and take full advantage, ha.

We wouldn’t be able to have sex that much if H didn’t contribute equally, although now with me being pregnant, he’s probably doing 75% because he wants me as stress-free as possible. And I’m in a VERY good mood when I get to take a long bath after dinner and come out to a clean kitchen, sleeping kid, and hour-long massage. I should ask H to go over to the Relationship forum and teach those sexless men how it’s done, ha.

[Anonymous]

We're averaging 2-3 times a week with this pregnancy. I don't remember having this much sex my last pregnancies. I'm especially horny, like all the time, like masturbating almost everyday. I actually feel terrible about it, but I can't help it. For reference, I was pregnant with girls before, and this is a boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and I got pregnant easily both times. My DH refused to have sex with me during my pregnancies. I was very horny in my 2nd trimester but DH did not want to jeopardize the pregnancies in any way. Then when kids were born, I did not want to have sex for a long time because my libido just vanished. So for at least 2 years for each kid we did not have sex.

Would you believe it if I said that I actually have a great sex life and even in our 50s we have sex at least thrice a week? It is just that 4 years of my married life, there was no sex. My DH was very supportive for every thing and very loving, but did not want sex or care to be sexual with me.

Honestly thank you for this post. I had at-risk pregnancies after a second trimester miscarriage and neither of us wanted to have sex while pregnant (too much anxiety). My libido also tanked while breastfeeding. Thanks for the hope that things will change for the better!

[Anonymous]

Get it ladies! This great to hear. Personally, I find sex while pregnant awkward and not much fun.