Tired of people telling my son he has a “terrible” birthday
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Anonymous
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Not a big deal. Early February isn’t that bad, TBH.
FWIW, my child’s birthday is roughly a day or two zones and when someone mentions it, I joke that had I’d known he’d be a swimmer, I would’ve crossed my legs an extra six hours. Seriously, don’t sweat it. |
Anonymous
| We hear the same about my son's November birthday and soccer. I don't know why people feel the need to mention it at all, as if somehow we haven't figured it out after all these years. |
Anonymous
| No one is going on and on about it. It may be mentioned by someone or someone’s but that’s it. It isn’t like this is raised every single time your kid practices. |
Anonymous
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You are exhausting and super competitive.
My swimmer is a September kid. Makes it messy for age groupings. |
Anonymous
Why do you think you have any idea what’s going on? |
Anonymous
How would this make it messy? September is the ideal swim birthday! Over six months into age by short course champs and top of the age group for long course! Of course you don’t think birthdays matter. 
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Anonymous
What? They literally age up at the very beginning of the swim season. There is nothing messy about where to place them age wise. Do you actually have a year round swimmer? |
Anonymous
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Ok, why are you allowing people to have extended conversations with your DC about this, especially if these conversations are starting to impact him?
Jump in and say something like, “He loves chocolate, though, so a February birthday is perfect for that!” Just change the subject. Your swimmer will be old enough for this not to matter before you know it. So he’s not ranked as high right now as he would be if he had a March birthday? In the long run, maybe that’s less pressure and he sticks with the sport longer. |
Anonymous
| Teach HIM "Hey, I'm happy I was born and that's all I have to say about it!" with a cheery tone. |
Anonymous
| My kid has an April 29 birthday in a sport with an April 30th cut off. Yeah, people will comment but someone will always be the youngest. |
Anonymous
Basketball too |
Anonymous
Agree. And I’m doubtful that OP’s son is expressing any bad feelings about his birthday that is 2 months away. OP sounds a bit overly invested in this narrative. |
Anonymous
| He can still be good. Just doesn’t have the maturity advantage. If he sticks with it an as he ages, the big advantage of a kid being 11 months more mature goes away. |
Anonymous
| I actually planned what months my kids would be born in. |
Anonymous
| Maybe switch swim teams? |