Splitting elder care with siblings

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Anonymous wrote:OP I would open the conversation with your siblings about supplementing mom's income to afford assisted living or a nursing home depending upon her level of need.

Trust me, it'll seem like a bargain.

Parent can get long term care Medicaid for nursing home care. V

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Anonymous wrote:My advice is if you are thinking about assisted living at all,and they are accepted into a facility, better to do it now then later as that window closes very quickly and you will be left with no options. Four months ago I toured multiple senior care places with my mom and she decided to just stay in her home. I am back to visit and in just under 4 mos, her decline is unbelievable and shocking. She’s burned any unassisted/assisted living cards and would have to go into a nursing home- which she would never survive,

Most people don't survive being in a nursing home. It is the last stop so to speak. OP your parent likely would qualify for Medicaid, which would pay for a nursing home and may also pay for home care. In some states you can even get paid for taking care of a parent.

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Anonymous wrote:If they have no money, why would you bother charging them rent, food and cleaners? They won't be able to pay it. What's the point?

Reading comprehension. OP is talking about charging her siblings for the rent/food/cleaners.

New poster here.
Siblings are under no obligation to pay OP.

I would expect them to agree to pay when approached then be unreliable and turn you into the golddigger monster.

Don't move a narc parent into your home. If they are a beloved parent and you love them to pieces that is your choice, but a narc parent is a clear big fat NO. Even if they are 70 and in bad health they could easily live another 20 years. Then you will become the monster excising them from your home to a nursing home after they fall and break a hip or drive your car through the garage door or something.