How fake is Facebook? My sister's young adult children do not speak to her and her husband, yet...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Come from a place of compassion. They're posting what they wish for, not what they have.

I think it's more self-serving and showy than that.

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[Anonymous]

My brother and his wife do this. Usually they are drunk, overeating or leaving their kids for too long with my elderly parents. On social media you would think they are the most in love couple and parents of the year. You’d never know they’re cheating on each other and their kids are a mess because their parents can’t stand each other. My mom indulges their lies, which is the only part that bothers me. Try to ignore if you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother and his wife do this. Usually they are drunk, overeating or leaving their kids for too long with my elderly parents. On social media you would think they are the most in love couple and parents of the year. You’d never know they’re cheating on each other and their kids are a mess because their parents can’t stand each other. My mom indulges their lies, which is the only part that bothers me. Try to ignore if you can.

My sister hates my mother and says nasty things about her to all of her friends, but is completely fake to her face. My mom has no idea and fawns all over her. Hard for my other sister and me to watch.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a lie if they posted a real photo. There’s no obligation for a photo to be accompanied by a rundown of every relationship. If they never/rarely see one another, it sounds worthy of a photo. I never say this, but you sound jealous. Take a page from my book and just skip facebook altogether.

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen many, many pathetic and petty posts on DCUM before, but this one takes the cake. Going on an anonymous forum to bash your poor sister and her children? I am so grateful that no one in my family acts like this.

Shame on you OP. A little self-reflection is in order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen many, many pathetic and petty posts on DCUM before, but this one takes the cake. Going on an anonymous forum to bash your poor sister and her children? I am so grateful that no one in my family acts like this.

Shame on you OP. A little self-reflection is in order.

Over react often??

[Anonymous]

I get why people do this but I also think there are consequences far beyond their reasons for doing it and it’s a net negative.

Lots of people saw that photo and caption and probably felt bad because the photo looked so nice and the caption was so loving (I’m guessing) and that’s not how their family is and that’s not how their holiday went. Sure, they should remind themselves that you can’t trust the image projected on Facebook. But when you are aching from sadness over what your family is not, that image impacts you no matter how much you tell yourself it’s not real.

I know because I used to be one of those people. I left Facebook because so often when I was on there, I’d just feel so sad not to have this perfect family and life that everyone else was pretending to have. It didn’t matter that I knew they were pretending. Just seeing those images a lot was bad for me. The fakery was bad for me.

So I get why people do it but we’d all be better off if they didn’t. We could empathize with each other instead of competing. But Facebook doesn’t encourage empathy. They want you feeling a little less than all the time, it’s good for their bottom line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen many, many pathetic and petty posts on DCUM before, but this one takes the cake. Going on an anonymous forum to bash your poor sister and her children? I am so grateful that no one in my family acts like this.

Shame on you OP. A little self-reflection is in order.

Over react often??

I mean, why do so many DCUM women feel the need to post awful and nasty stuff about their family members? It’s so odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a lie if they posted a real photo. There’s no obligation for a photo to be accompanied by a rundown of every relationship. If they never/rarely see one another, it sounds worthy of a photo. I never say this, but you sound jealous. Take a page from my book and just skip facebook altogether.

(DP)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Come from a place of compassion. They're posting what they wish for, not what they have.

I think it's more self-serving and showy than that.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let it go. Anyone who knows them will know it’s fake. The image she’s presenting to anyone else is a non-issue since they’re obviously not close.

Only family will know it's fake, all of their friends and co-workers have no idea. Typical social climbing phonies.

It’s social climbing to post pictures of your family?

[Anonymous]

It seems to me you are trying to find a way to speak poorly about your sister and/or Facebook. If this is what your sister chose to do why do you care? There are a lot of fake things on Facebook and lots of other places. Unless it's impacting you or others personally why do you care?

[Anonymous]

That’s so sad. Do you want to change places with your sister? Didn’t think so. Let her post whatever gives her comfort in a sad situation.

[Anonymous]

It's fascinating how many people come on here the defend the fakery. They tell you to just never check social media, yet they can't stop posting on this thread defending someone's right to create false images and be a phony. Fascinating. (oops i just choked on my popcorn)

[Anonymous]

Some of it is fake. My friend has blow out, wall punching fights with her husband and then posts loving sappy family pictures. I figure it’s just her trying to cope.