My kid is sick so I have to miss thanksgiving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can't dh stay back with kid and you go see your family?

I was with you for sec, but then thought what if OP had covid but didn't know it yet.

Just get rested for a peace of mind.


Is everyone (you'ypyr parents, sister) vax'd op?

[Anonymous]

Ugh, OP -- this might be us. DH had a cold over the weekend (tested for Covid, negative) and is recovering, but now DD has it. We are supposed to be driving 6 hours to see his family tomorrow. We are staying in an AirBnB there so will probably go unless DD is sick enough to be miserable in the car. Hoping it's short lived and she can still go to dinner Thursday and see relatives. We'll be taking rapid tests with us so we can test daily while there just in case. But if she's symptomatic I just don't see how we go to Thanksgiving with her. Everyone there is vaccinated for Covid except the under-5s, but obviously we don't want to give a cold to anyone and especially not kids who would then have to miss school or daycare.

So there is a decent chance that I will wind up spending Thanksgiving in an AirBnB with a sick child by myself while my DH has dinner with his family. It sucks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, OP -- this might be us. DH had a cold over the weekend (tested for Covid, negative) and is recovering, but now DD has it. We are supposed to be driving 6 hours to see his family tomorrow. We are staying in an AirBnB there so will probably go unless DD is sick enough to be miserable in the car. Hoping it's short lived and she can still go to dinner Thursday and see relatives. We'll be taking rapid tests with us so we can test daily while there just in case. But if she's symptomatic I just don't see how we go to Thanksgiving with her. Everyone there is vaccinated for Covid except the under-5s, but obviously we don't want to give a cold to anyone and especially not kids who would then have to miss school or daycare.

So there is a decent chance that I will wind up spending Thanksgiving in an AirBnB with a sick child by myself while my DH has dinner with his family. It sucks!

Oh god stay home! What is wrong with people!

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for the sympathy — especially those who are or have been in similar situations!

I wasn’t asking if we should go to thanksgiving (my family are immigrants so the holiday itself isn’t super meaningful to us and I don’t want to give anyone a cold either!) just venting that I don’t get to loved ones I haven’t seen in months sooner. If my parents want, we may see them outside later in the week but clearly a full day hanging out at my sister’s place is a no-go with a coughing toddler, regardless of why the cough.

Hope everyone gets to catch up with their families soon and their kids feel better!

[Anonymous]

NP. Stop with the "what's wrong with people." Whats wrong is that a lot of us missed all the winter holidays with our families last year and it's a reallybhard choice to cancel at the last minute this year, especially when we don't live close and see them frequently. For my husband and his family, it's the first holiday since his mom died a couple months ago, after we missed out on a lot of what we didnt know would be her last year of life, so yeah, it's kind of a big deal to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get a test. It’s probably a cold.

You don’t make everyone sick.

Exactly. Jesus people. Why are all these threads about whether or not you should go to Thanksgiving when you’re sick? Covid or cold, nobody wants it. Stay home.

This. People are getting flattened for days by “just a cold” spread by family, friends, coworkers. DD got it at work, spread it to her BF, who spread it to three people at his small employer. No idea if they also spread it to their families, but DD is pretty annoyed at her coworker who could have WFH.

[Anonymous]

So the rule now is if you have a cold you have to isolate and miss family who have come in from out of town?

Did the CDC issue that?

[Anonymous]

Do a covid test, go if it’s negative. It’s just a cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just get a test. It’s probably a cold.

You don’t make everyone sick.

Exactly. Jesus people. Why are all these threads about whether or not you should go to Thanksgiving when you’re sick? Covid or cold, nobody wants it. Stay home.

This. People are getting flattened for days by “just a cold” spread by family, friends, coworkers. DD got it at work, spread it to her BF, who spread it to three people at his small employer. No idea if they also spread it to their families, but DD is pretty annoyed at her coworker who could have WFH.

That’s how colds have spread since the dawn of time. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Coughing kid stays back with dh.

You go hang out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the rule now is if you have a cold you have to isolate and miss family who have come in from out of town?

Did the CDC issue that?

I guess we as a society will be forever living in a sterile evironment. Really fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the rule now is if you have a cold you have to isolate and miss family who have come in from out of town?

Did the CDC issue that?

It’s called not being a selfish a-hole. No one wants to be sick for days and miss school and work because you had to eat a bunch of food with grandma Larla and Uncle Joe. You are not that important, sorry. DH caught a nasty cold from a coworker that went through our house right after Halloween- we missed a ton of work and school, had to do covid tests and ended up with a horrible cough that lasted weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So the rule now is if you have a cold you have to isolate and miss family who have come in from out of town?

Did the CDC issue that?

I guess we as a society will be forever living in a sterile evironment. Really fun.

There’s a difference between a sterile environment and not going out and purposely infecting others with a cold that should be kept home.

[Anonymous]

My DD has cold symptoms too. Ugh.

Two negative tests (different days) and we are keeping her out of preschool today.

We are letting family know about it to give them first right of refusal, but we're still planning to visit family now that we've ruled out COVID. Let your family decide. Colds are not the end of the world, but I do understand if people are dealing with restrictive quarantine policies that would upend their life.

[Anonymous]

Your parents have probably already been exposed to way worse germs during their travels to your sister's house then whatever common cold your toddler has.