What is the best age gap in a couple?

[Anonymous]

I think same/similar age is ideal. Anything over 6 or 7 is problematic.

[Anonymous]

The man being 3-5 years older is generally ideal. Gives him more time to mature. Slightly evens out a natural sex drive disparity between men and women.

Usual disclaimer that everyone is unique.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that some women who are looking to get married might feel like a man 3-5 years older is more on their schedule than someone their ages. But everyone varies.

DH is 3 years older than me and it has always felt like the perfect gap. IME women are generally more emotionally mature than men so the guy being just a bit older is good.

My DH is 3 years also and I think this is a good age difference. I dated one guy in my 20s who was 8 years older and it seemed like too much for me at the time, it probably seems less weird the older you get, like a 30-38 pair instead of 25-33.

[Anonymous]

I think the guy being anywhere from 5-10 years younger is ideal. Most men act like children anyway, and benefit from being kind of bossed around by a woman. That ends up being the dynamic for most couples anyway, so when both parties go into it with that dynamic at play already (she's older and in authority), then there's no weird rebelliousness that happens, like the men you see here whining that their wife asked them to take out the trash. the rules get established from the jump

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over ten years reveals hidden mommy/daddy issues.

True, sometimes. However, I know that in HCOL cities a lot of it has to do with the older person having way more money.

People are going to deny this but it’s true.

[Anonymous]

I have always dated older men because I was attracted to knowledge, confidence, life experiences, depth, etc. my ideal partner has always been 5+ years older. DH is 13 years older than me and it works out great for us. We have 3 kids and have been married for 10 years. He is super fit and loves clubs and extreme sports. He is fitter and has miste stamina at 50 then most men I know in their mid 30s.

After 10 years (more than that together), I can say that we work… whether age plays a role in this I don’t know.
I might feel different in 20 years… we’ll see…

[Anonymous]

15 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have always dated older men because I was attracted to knowledge, confidence, life experiences, depth, etc. my ideal partner has always been 5+ years older. DH is 13 years older than me and it works out great for us. We have 3 kids and have been married for 10 years. He is super fit and loves clubs and extreme sports. He is fitter and has miste stamina at 50 then most men I know in their mid 30s.

After 10 years (more than that together), I can say that we work… whether age plays a role in this I don’t know.
I might feel different in 20 years… we’ll see…

Same here (though I have no doubt I'll feel the same in 20 years).

My parents are the same age (within a few months) and their marriage is pretty rocky, fwiw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the guy being anywhere from 5-10 years younger is ideal. Most men act like children anyway, and benefit from being kind of bossed around by a woman. That ends up being the dynamic for most couples anyway, so when both parties go into it with that dynamic at play already (she's older and in authority), then there's no weird rebelliousness that happens, like the men you see here whining that their wife asked them to take out the trash. the rules get established from the jump

This is actually a really good point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think same/similar age is ideal. Anything over 6 or 7 is problematic.

What's problematic about a six year age difference? DH is six years older. We haven't had a problem. We are in our 50s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think same/similar age is ideal. Anything over 6 or 7 is problematic.

What's problematic about a six year age difference? DH is six years older. We haven't had a problem. We are in our 50s.

NP. It's just kind of weird and creepy tbh

[Anonymous]

Man four years older.

[Anonymous]

Same age is pretty fantastic. We’re a month apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think same/similar age is ideal. Anything over 6 or 7 is problematic.

What's problematic about a six year age difference? DH is six years older. We haven't had a problem. We are in our 50s.

NP. It's just kind of weird and creepy tbh

Omg. Six or seven year difference is absolutely fine and not weird or creepy at all. Not even pushing it. Example - 56 husband and 50 wife? He may even look younger. Come on now. It’s not like at 27 year difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the guy being anywhere from 5-10 years younger is ideal. Most men act like children anyway, and benefit from being kind of bossed around by a woman. That ends up being the dynamic for most couples anyway, so when both parties go into it with that dynamic at play already (she's older and in authority), then there's no weird rebelliousness that happens, like the men you see here whining that their wife asked them to take out the trash. the rules get established from the jump

Plus less ED!!!