Women who've dated men considerably younger... tell me about it

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I’m 50 but I only look 49. I thinks because I’m fit and still have all of my hair.

[Anonymous]

LOL at all the comments about folks who look younger than they are. Who cares? IMO, what matters the most for physical attraction is (i) fit/toned/slim; (ii) clear, wrinkle free skin; (iii) teeth; (iv) posture; and (v) hair. There are plenty of 50-year-olds who are more attractive than 30-year-olds, especially now that we have botox, medical grade skin care, cosmetic dentistry and solutions for grey or thinning hair.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know who married a younger guy got pregnant right away with no fertility issues. You also may be just slightly more likely to have a first-born girl. Many oldest-born girls with baby brothers fall easily into relationships like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good luck to you the one guy I dated who was younger was only 4 years younger and he was a total pain in the ass. The sex wasn't even worth it.

How so? That's barely noticable. I met my husband when he was 26 and I was 31, We were together for 20 yrs before he died. i am currently dating men 8 yrs younger and it's no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women who think they look 10 years younger don't.

Most men learn at a young age that the best way to lie-flatter a woman is to tell her she looks 10 years younger than she really is.

You sound bitter.

Now I'm in my 50s and my hair is grey I look OLD but even at 32 I was being asked when I'd be turning 21. Sometimes age catches up with you, but sometimes it gives you a long period of looking youthful. It helps if you're thin, actually.

+1. There is a certain population of women (like 10%) that actually DO look 10 years younger. It is not because men are telling them this. It is because EVERYONE tells them this. When I was 26, I would get questioned for being 18 to buy a lotto ticket. I am mid-40s. People at work are shocked to find out that I am not not early to mid-30s. Men and women. OP is not necessarily lying at all. She really could look 10 years younger. I do. And yes, being in shape helps a lot with this.

[Anonymous]

Younger men are actually nicer than men closer in age - probably the same can be said of younger women! They’ve all (likely - hopefully) experienced fewer of the things that can make us bitter and crafty.

I think it can be a wonderful experience. I had a fling with a 20 year old when I was 33. It was beautiful and a lovely experience and he remains one of the best guys I’ve known - he was very soulful and grounded and bright, more so than most people I’ve known of any age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 35 and he was 22. We had tons of fun together; he was sweet and spontaneous.

But most of us are at 22.

For me, it was fun. For him, it was a "real thing" and he was devastated when I broke it off after my good time was over.

Yes, men do this all the time. No, it's not the same. I'm a hard core feminist but I didn't see it working. Not in society, not for me personally. We had totally different life experiences and perspectives. Once the fun part petered out there wasn't much to share. He thought the GOP was a rap group.

People are like campgrounds; try to leave them better than when you found them. I'm not sure that happened here for him and it was a good lesson for me.

tldr; have fun but be gentle with his soul. He doesn't know what he doesn't know.

THIS. So this. -woman who was devastated when someone 16 years older was done having his good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women who think they look 10 years younger don't.

Most men learn at a young age that the best way to lie-flatter a woman is to tell her she looks 10 years younger than she really is.

You sound bitter.

Now I'm in my 50s and my hair is grey I look OLD but even at 32 I was being asked when I'd be turning 21. Sometimes age catches up with you, but sometimes it gives you a long period of looking youthful. It helps if you're thin, actually.

+1. There is a certain population of women (like 10%) that actually DO look 10 years younger. It is not because men are telling them this. It is because EVERYONE tells them this. When I was 26, I would get questioned for being 18 to buy a lotto ticket. I am mid-40s. People at work are shocked to find out that I am not not early to mid-30s. Men and women. OP is not necessarily lying at all. She really could look 10 years younger. I do. And yes, being in shape helps a lot with this.

+1 I am like this too. No one believed I was 35, 40, 45. Now they are starting to believe I am 50.

[Anonymous]

I'm 52 and have no idea if I look it or not, my BF is 43, so not a huge gap but enough that when people find it they think its uncommon. That said, we get a long great and with long term goals of being together. We both have our own children from first marriages and no one wanting more, we are white collar professionals with our careers already in place. These two items definitely make a big difference. I joke about "people of my generation" and he gets a good laugh out of it and rolls his eyes.

[Anonymous]

I was 44 and he was 25. Banged me like a screen door in a hurricane. We were together for three years until I said he should be with someone his own age as he might want a family one day. He told me he didn’t want children.

I ran into him years later, he was single and still looked good. Asked him why he was single and he said, “I never got over you and was perfectly happy with you.”

Damn I let that one slip away…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good luck to you the one guy I dated who was younger was only 4 years younger and he was a total pain in the ass. The sex wasn't even worth it.

How so? That's barely noticable. I met my husband when he was 26 and I was 31, We were together for 20 yrs before he died. i am currently dating men 8 yrs younger and it's no big deal.

He was incredibly immature, and I have always been more mature. I guess it's more maturity level that age that matters if you and he are both similar levels of immaturity it works.

[Anonymous]

I dated a 30 year old when I was 42. It lasted about a year. The sex was amazing and we had a lot of fun together. Neither of us has dated anyone for very long since then. We're still in touch.
More recently, I dated a 28 year old when I was 45. I broke it off because he was annoying AF. I thought he wouldn't care, but he was pretty hurt.

[Anonymous]

Is your name by any chance Kim? And is the guy in question named Pete?
Because the ages just fit.

[Anonymous]

I was 32 and he was 25 (not that huge, but never dated a younger guy until that point). He cheated on me with his ex who was older than me. They are still together 5 years later. He still cheats on her too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women who think they look 10 years younger don't.

Most men learn at a young age that the best way to lie-flatter a woman is to tell her she looks 10 years younger than she really is.

You sound bitter.

Now I'm in my 50s and my hair is grey I look OLD but even at 32 I was being asked when I'd be turning 21. Sometimes age catches up with you, but sometimes it gives you a long period of looking youthful. It helps if you're thin, actually.

+1. There is a certain population of women (like 10%) that actually DO look 10 years younger. It is not because men are telling them this. It is because EVERYONE tells them this. When I was 26, I would get questioned for being 18 to buy a lotto ticket. I am mid-40s. People at work are shocked to find out that I am not not early to mid-30s. Men and women. OP is not necessarily lying at all. She really could look 10 years younger. I do. And yes, being in shape helps a lot with this.

+1 I am like this too. No one believed I was 35, 40, 45. Now they are starting to believe I am 50.

Yep, you and PP and every woman on DCUM must be part of the youthful 10%