Is timing everything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a way to tell yourself, you would be happy if only time I had been different. It keeps people stuck in the past. No, it's not everything. Eyes forward, not back.

+1 people that can never be happy think this way. They wallow in the past. They look up old boyfriends on Facebook, etc.

[Anonymous]

It's funny to me how the posters who are so adamant that timing isn't everything or relevant at all actually prove that timing does matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Timing is not everything. I am a firm believer that if it didn't work out, it wasn't meant to be.

Romanticizing the past through rose-colored glasses comes into play.

I believe we meet people at different points in our lives, friends or lovers, etc., and not all are meant to be carried through our entire lives.

It's also why I hated Facebook from it's first inception. I really don't think there are some people we were meant to know about and stay in contact with through our life's journey. It has taken away serendipitous connections.

I love nothing more to run into someone decades later that I knew in a past life and hadn't seen a pic or heard a word about them.

I'm not all into this 'timing is everything' BS. I really think, it wasn't meant to be. You can look back and say 'yes. this person was 100% right for me', but it takes away how much you change over time and how experience shapes you.

Funny you mention that, I was reading about how social media has increased affairs with exes because it’s so easy to find them online. And you slip back into nostalgia for your past self and the possibilities you foreclosed by making choices and decisions that took you to where you are today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If timing is everything, than so is 'love at first sight', 'meeting the one'. Someone in the universe put the right person in front of you at the right time.

I met my husband on a night we both were in places we weren't supposed to be. Work happy hour was changed on my day off (this was before cell phones and email). My husband had something similar with his group of friends. I forgot my license and had to cab back to get it. And, when I arrived, there we were looking at each other across the room. Did all those factors line up to make the 'timing right'? I had also just come out of a period in my life (ended a relationship a few months prior) in which I said I was going to be single and not date anyone for a good time. I had my first apartment solo. I had my first 'big, new job', etc. I met him that night and we were inseparable.

Fate. Works for me.