Every morning DS, 3, says he doesn’t want to go to preschool.

[Anonymous]

He’s three. You have a nanny. Why would you push this. He doesn’t NEED preschool. If you want a child who will grow up to share with you then you probably want to listen to him now. If you had no other choice it would be a different situation but you do and the world and preschool will still be there next fall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s three. You have a nanny. Why would you push this. He doesn’t NEED preschool. If you want a child who will grow up to share with you then you probably want to listen to him now. If you had no other choice it would be a different situation but you do and the world and preschool will still be there next fall.

OP here. He definitely needed the socialization. Covid cut all his venues to meet and play beside kids his own age - no music class, no library, no playgrounds. DS was way, way ahead academically but wasn’t comfortable being near other kids. We absolutely made the right decision.

And as I updated, today (Sunday) he asked to go to school. Yay!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s three. You have a nanny. Why would you push this. He doesn’t NEED preschool. If you want a child who will grow up to share with you then you probably want to listen to him now. If you had no other choice it would be a different situation but you do and the world and preschool will still be there next fall.

OP here. He definitely needed the socialization. Covid cut all his venues to meet and play beside kids his own age - no music class, no library, no playgrounds. DS was way, way ahead academically but wasn’t comfortable being near other kids. We absolutely made the right decision.

And as I updated, today (Sunday) he asked to go to school. Yay!

Sorry, but what’s this “academics” for two and three year olds you’re talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids at that age just don't want to change whatever they're doing at that very moment, so I'd chalk it up to that.

I think OP's child may be like my puppy (yes, sorry to compare your child to a dog!). In the morning after she has spent 10 hours by herself in her crate, she wants nothing more than to be with her people. It's the only time of the day I can get the dog to snuggle with me.

I imagine the child waking up surrounded by all his favorite people. Mom?? Nanny?? Dad?? Wooohoo this is the best thing ever, the kid is thinking. Wait, they want me to go away and miss out on whatever fun thing is about to happen with all my favorite people?

It may be as simple as he wakes up and is happy to be with everyone so why would he want to change that happy feeling? I'm sure he's over it two minutes after arriving at school.

[Anonymous]

This happened to my DD when she was 3 pre covid. Every morning was no school and please no school etc. heartbreaking. changed daycares and she was a different kid in a few days. Sometimes it really is the environment and/or teachers.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He wanted to go to school today! He wanted to go yesterday too so I hope this continues. Thanks for the responses.

[Anonymous]

NP here, my DC 3 also does not want to go and has a very difficult time at the drop off each morning. It’s mid October and I was hoping it would get better but it hasn’t. DC loved nursery and is ordinarily very social with other kids. I don’t know what to do either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He wanted to go to school today! He wanted to go yesterday too so I hope this continues. Thanks for the responses.

Yay!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here, my DC 3 also does not want to go and has a very difficult time at the drop off each morning. It’s mid October and I was hoping it would get better but it hasn’t. DC loved nursery and is ordinarily very social with other kids. I don’t know what to do either.

That’s a problem, PP. It’s been over six weeks. Something is wrong here. What do his teachers say? Why does your child say he doesn’t want to go?

[Anonymous]

OP we went through this recently with my 3.5 year old who has been in daycare since he was 5 months old. Hes been with this current program a little over a year.

We were having such fun on the weekends (pumpkin picking, hiking, big adventures, etc.) that he wanted everyday to be family time. Its really sweet but not realistic. Weve created a better routine during the weekday and ask better questions (IG is good for some parenting stuff) and we talk about the days of the week. Yesterday was Saturday, today is Sunday, tomorrow is Monday, Yesterday and Today are family days and tomorrow is a St. Daycare day. Before bed we talk about our day and then say tomorrow is X. It is a school day. Mommy will drop you off at school.

Kids go through phases. All we can do is meet them where they are and walk through it with them. We cant push or cajole. Sometimes they wont like their teacher or their classmates. Sometimes they will feel left out. Sometimes they would rather be at home. I find that during big developmental spurts- mental ones in particular- daycare was very overwhelming for my son. You may find a similar pattern but it may be during growth spurts or during big changes like new teachers/etc.

Youre doing all the right things <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t cry a at drop off and says he has fun but every morning he says he doesn’t want to go. It’s a five hour preschool program five days a week. All play based at a lovely school. He loves his teachers.

Is this normal? DH and I are still working from home and he loves his nanny (whose home with the baby) but I was really hoping he’d be excited to go to school. It’s been almost eight weeks minus two colds.

He loves his nanny who is home with the baby. You and DH are at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t cry a at drop off and says he has fun but every morning he says he doesn’t want to go. It’s a five hour preschool program five days a week. All play based at a lovely school. He loves his teachers.

Is this normal? DH and I are still working from home and he loves his nanny (whose home with the baby) but I was really hoping he’d be excited to go to school. It’s been almost eight weeks minus two colds.

He loves his nanny who is home with the baby. You and DH are at home.

Yeah I’m guessing it would be different if he were leaving an empty house behind. Heck when I go to work, I want to stay home with my dh who WFH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s three. You have a nanny. Why would you push this. He doesn’t NEED preschool. If you want a child who will grow up to share with you then you probably want to listen to him now. If you had no other choice it would be a different situation but you do and the world and preschool will still be there next fall.

OP here. He definitely needed the socialization. Covid cut all his venues to meet and play beside kids his own age - no music class, no library, no playgrounds. DS was way, way ahead academically but wasn’t comfortable being near other kids. We absolutely made the right decision.

And as I updated, today (Sunday) he asked to go to school. Yay!

Sorry, but what’s this “academics” for two and three year olds you’re talking about?

+ 1. WTF