Surrogacy

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Anonymous wrote:Never had a child herself is disqualifying on its own, but with anxiety and depression too... yikes. The clinics want to be really, really sure that the surrogate won't freak out and decide she wants to keep the baby after it's born, even if it's not genetically hers.

I hired a surrogate, and the post-birth court order naming me as the parent of my own children wasn't completed for 3 days after they were born. That's 3 days for a surrogate with severe postpartum anxiety and depression to decide not to cooperate with the process of transferring parental rights. That's what clinics want to avoid.

Yike. I thought all the legal things get taken care of in the surrogate agreement and that the surrogate never has parental right on the baby? She has problem with boundaries in the past, so as family member, I can see she will try to get involved with the parenting. Also, she is on government's help and can't afford her own place, so we'll have to let her stay with is during the pregnancy.

You can't possibly be serious, right? This has to be a troll post? Just FYI, being on government assistance disqualifies surrogates as well (because agencies/ clinics don't want desperate women to feel coerced into doing this for money... or shelter).

There's no way any clinic, lawyer, or psychologist (surrogacy requires psych clearance for everyone involved) is going to allow this, OP. Also, she's going to lose her government assistance if you pay her... you were planning to pay her, right??

Stop making me sound like a villain. I don't want to do it but feel forced into accepting the offer because it's from a family member. Do you not read the boundary issues? I just need a valid answer from someone who went through this, and I got that from the previous replies.

Sounds like OP is the one with boundary issues. Nobody can force you to use a surrogate you don't want to carry your baby, unless you're in an incredibly abusive situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone know SGF's requirement for a surrogate? Would it work for someone who is single, early 30, never been pregnant, has pcos/anxiety/depression but never smoke or drink (family members who offers to help)?

Having had successful pregnancies and no plans for future pregnancies of their own is a requirement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never had a child herself is disqualifying on its own, but with anxiety and depression too... yikes. The clinics want to be really, really sure that the surrogate won't freak out and decide she wants to keep the baby after it's born, even if it's not genetically hers.

I hired a surrogate, and the post-birth court order naming me as the parent of my own children wasn't completed for 3 days after they were born. That's 3 days for a surrogate with severe postpartum anxiety and depression to decide not to cooperate with the process of transferring parental rights. That's what clinics want to avoid.

Yike. I thought all the legal things get taken care of in the surrogate agreement and that the surrogate never has parental right on the baby? She has problem with boundaries in the past, so as family member, I can see she will try to get involved with the parenting. Also, she is on government's help and can't afford her own place, so we'll have to let her stay with is during the pregnancy.

You can't possibly be serious, right? This has to be a troll post? Just FYI, being on government assistance disqualifies surrogates as well (because agencies/ clinics don't want desperate women to feel coerced into doing this for money... or shelter).

There's no way any clinic, lawyer, or psychologist (surrogacy requires psych clearance for everyone involved) is going to allow this, OP. Also, she's going to lose her government assistance if you pay her... you were planning to pay her, right??

Stop making me sound like a villain. I don't want to do it but feel forced into accepting the offer because it's from a family member. Do you not read the boundary issues? I just need a valid answer from someone who went through this, and I got that from the previous replies.

Sounds like OP is the one with boundary issues. Nobody can force you to use a surrogate you don't want to carry your baby, unless you're in an incredibly abusive situation.

Trolls abound. While the official rights can take a few days - you have binding contracts and if the child is biologically yours, you still have the legal rights at the end of the day in every state that allows gestational surrogacy.