Accidentally found out about a relationship

[Anonymous]

I do not know why you are posting. They are single. MYOB. Even if they were married MYOB.

I am not even sure what the point of the post is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they both single? If so, then what’s the big deal? It’s understandable they’d want to keep a relationship under wraps to avoid being the subject of office gossip. Especially if it’s a new relationship.

+1. I know a few couples that met at work. In some cases they kept it under wraps until they got married! There are only three reasons as a co-worker that I would even care about this - if I am trying to date one of them (awkward), if I say so and so is a jerk and that’s their SO, or if the person is getting special treatment because of that relationship and it impacts my opportunities. Two of those scenarios are within my control - me personally not trying to date someone at work, and not badmouthing anyone even when they are being a jerk. So basically unless there is favoritism, not my business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not know why you are posting. They are single. MYOB. Even if they were married MYOB.

I am not even sure what the point of the post is.

OP is desperate to gossip about this with someone but her co-worker isn’t biting so she’s doing it here instead.

[Anonymous]

What a boring thread. I thought OP was going to say one or both of them were married to other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does this matter? Obviously they want to keep it quiet, so if you respect them you will drop it.

I'm just surprised that she has said nothing about it to me at all. Like not even a He's cute , wonder if he's seeing anyone? Type of thing. I have so many questions, like when and how did this start

Some people keep early romances private. Just like some people keep early pregnancies private. That way, no explanation is needed if it ends unhappily.

[Anonymous]

When is the last time you had sex, if ever, OP?

[Anonymous]

OP you are the one with the boundary issue here. Your message was inappropriate and nosy and she was 100% correct to avoid your gossipy implication. You need to not mention it again or apologize with a “sorry/happy for you” BRIEF note and then keep your mouth shut forever. MYOB you self-centered teenager.

[Anonymous]

Listen nosy Nancy, you followed them to the car on purpose. You were already suspicious when his kids were comfortable with her. You are not her friend and she knows it. Stay away and don’t expect her to trust you with anything ever.

[Anonymous]

Met my DH at work, we were both sinks, told no one, surprise surprise I heard about it from third parties asking if it was true.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. I get that you’re curious, but that unsatisfied curiosity is your problem. Don’t make it hers.

[Anonymous]

If it was any of your business, you would know. She is not as close of a friend as you thought. MYOB and do not mention it to her or anyone at work.

[Anonymous]

Op, you owes you nothing. Stop making this about you.

[Anonymous]

Neither is married so good for them.

[Anonymous]

Wait she didn’t respond to your passive aggressive text with all the details of their relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it was any of your business, you would know. She is not as close of a friend as you thought. MYOB and do not mention it to her or anyone at work.

OP has already acknowledged she’s not close to them.