Would it be rude to ask for a covid test?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

Attempting to strong-arm him into getting vaccinated is wrong. Asking for the test is reasonable though not the most logical in this scenario.

[Anonymous]

Why not ask what he wants? Maybe he doesn't want to do a meal with you would be fine with a masked visit? Maybe he doesn't want to see you at all.

[Anonymous]

Our 100% vaccinated family (grandparents, aunts uncles, children) is gathering indoors at one home for Thanksgivong and we are all testing on Monday or Tuesday. Already agreed to, nbd. Gives us all peace of mind that 88 year old grandma won't inadvertently be made ill by someone asymptomatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

PP you quoted here

Testing is reasonable.
Being willing to leave an elderly parent alone at Christmas without even offering that option is cruel and heartless. OP writing that she was "rethinking the holidays" indicates that she was willing to cut grandpa off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

Yes, if he’s in vaxxed, his choice why should op risk her kids? Who knows he might even be dead by Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you just buy a rapid test and do it when he gets there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

Yes, if he’s in vaxxed, his choice why should op risk her kids? Who knows he might even be dead by Christmas.

Op didn’t mention kids. Are we sure she has any? And if so, are they too young to be vaxxed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

Attempting to strong-arm him into getting vaccinated is wrong. Asking for the test is reasonable though not the most logical in this scenario.

Oh I’m totally fine with strong-arming someone to get vaccinated. But this isn’t even strong-arming. I only want to be around vaccinated people. If you aren’t vaccinated stay at home! Everyone is then making their own choices. And is accepting the consequences of those choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

Attempting to strong-arm him into getting vaccinated is wrong. Asking for the test is reasonable though not the most logical in this scenario.

Oh I’m totally fine with strong-arming someone to get vaccinated. But this isn’t even strong-arming. I only want to be around vaccinated people. If you aren’t vaccinated stay at home! Everyone is then making their own choices. And is accepting the consequences of those choices.

You are never going to be able to eliminate the presence of unvaccinated people. They will still be in grocery stores, restuarants, your kids' schools, your work place (unless you exclusively work from home), and many other places.

[Anonymous]

OK to ask. Don't expect him to do it. Know beforehand what you will do then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

Attempting to strong-arm him into getting vaccinated is wrong. Asking for the test is reasonable though not the most logical in this scenario.

Oh I’m totally fine with strong-arming someone to get vaccinated. But this isn’t even strong-arming. I only want to be around vaccinated people. If you aren’t vaccinated stay at home! Everyone is then making their own choices. And is accepting the consequences of those choices.

You are never going to be able to eliminate the presence of unvaccinated people. They will still be in grocery stores, restuarants, your kids' schools, your work place (unless you exclusively work from home), and many other places.

Yeah, cool. We are talking about inviting an unvaccinated person over to your home to eat a meal. So that’s a situation OP can totally control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

Attempting to strong-arm him into getting vaccinated is wrong. Asking for the test is reasonable though not the most logical in this scenario.

Oh I’m totally fine with strong-arming someone to get vaccinated. But this isn’t even strong-arming. I only want to be around vaccinated people. If you aren’t vaccinated stay at home! Everyone is then making their own choices. And is accepting the consequences of those choices.

You are never going to be able to eliminate the presence of unvaccinated people. They will still be in grocery stores, restuarants, your kids' schools, your work place (unless you exclusively work from home), and many other places.

Yeah, cool. We are talking about inviting an unvaccinated person over to your home to eat a meal. So that’s a situation OP can totally control.

Of course she can. But "controlling" to the point of ostracizing an elderly parent on Christmas is pretty descpicable. OP, and those like her, should remember what behavior they are modeling for their own children.

[Anonymous]

^ oh stop with the dramatics. It's an invitation, that's all. And if the person wants to accept, they can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

Attempting to strong-arm him into getting vaccinated is wrong. Asking for the test is reasonable though not the most logical in this scenario.

Oh I’m totally fine with strong-arming someone to get vaccinated. But this isn’t even strong-arming. I only want to be around vaccinated people. If you aren’t vaccinated stay at home! Everyone is then making their own choices. And is accepting the consequences of those choices.

You are never going to be able to eliminate the presence of unvaccinated people. They will still be in grocery stores, restuarants, your kids' schools, your work place (unless you exclusively work from home), and many other places.

Yeah, cool. We are talking about inviting an unvaccinated person over to your home to eat a meal. So that’s a situation OP can totally control.

Of course she can. But "controlling" to the point of ostracizing an elderly parent on Christmas is pretty descpicable. OP, and those like her, should remember what behavior they are modeling for their own children.

Yeah, no. Don't invite anti-vax grandpa to Christmas. He has to live with the consequences of his choices and quite frankly, the anti-vax people deserve that they get. If that's getting COVID and dying when they could have gotten a safe, effective, and free vaccine any time in the last 6+ months, that's what they get. If that's being alone on Christmas because they refuse to participate in basic public safety decisions that are, again, safe, effective, and free, then that's what they get.

Honestly, I think it's admirable that OP is thinking about this at all. My husband's mother is also a strident anti-vaxxer and we are not seeing her either until the pandemic is over-over or she changes her mind. She understands that she's entirely in control of changing this dynamic and it's more important to her to cling her anti-vax propaganda than it is to see her son and granddaughters. If she called me today and said she was sad to be alone for the holidays, I would remind her that all she has to do is go get her vaccines (2 shot series, not J&J) and send me proof. Since she has lied to us in the past, "proof" needs to be a picture of her receiving the vaccine and a photo of the card with the date and dose # etc.

OP, don't listen to these PPs. You have the right to decide who comes in your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is insane. You and your husband are fine to have his elderly parent alone on Christmas?

He is choosing to remain unvaxxed.

I would tell him that if he gets vaxxed and is willing to do a covid test, you would love to have him for Christmas. Otherwise, no.

Attempting to strong-arm him into getting vaccinated is wrong. Asking for the test is reasonable though not the most logical in this scenario.

Oh I’m totally fine with strong-arming someone to get vaccinated. But this isn’t even strong-arming. I only want to be around vaccinated people. If you aren’t vaccinated stay at home! Everyone is then making their own choices. And is accepting the consequences of those choices.

You are never going to be able to eliminate the presence of unvaccinated people. They will still be in grocery stores, restuarants, your kids' schools, your work place (unless you exclusively work from home), and many other places.

Yeah, cool. We are talking about inviting an unvaccinated person over to your home to eat a meal. So that’s a situation OP can totally control.

Of course she can. But "controlling" to the point of ostracizing an elderly parent on Christmas is pretty descpicable. OP, and those like her, should remember what behavior they are modeling for their own children.

Yeah, no. Don't invite anti-vax grandpa to Christmas. He has to live with the consequences of his choices and quite frankly, the anti-vax people deserve that they get. If that's getting COVID and dying when they could have gotten a safe, effective, and free vaccine any time in the last 6+ months, that's what they get. If that's being alone on Christmas because they refuse to participate in basic public safety decisions that are, again, safe, effective, and free, then that's what they get.

Honestly, I think it's admirable that OP is thinking about this at all. My husband's mother is also a strident anti-vaxxer and we are not seeing her either until the pandemic is over-over or she changes her mind. She understands that she's entirely in control of changing this dynamic and it's more important to her to cling her anti-vax propaganda than it is to see her son and granddaughters. If she called me today and said she was sad to be alone for the holidays, I would remind her that all she has to do is go get her vaccines (2 shot series, not J&J) and send me proof. Since she has lied to us in the past, "proof" needs to be a picture of her receiving the vaccine and a photo of the card with the date and dose # etc.

OP, don't listen to these PPs. You have the right to decide who comes in your house.

oh yeah. I remember you.