Did you feel pride or concern when teen son told you he had sex 1st time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll

No, my BIL actually bragged about it with a smirk on his face. He’s a deadbeat dad who only sees his son once a year when grandma flies him in. But he’s the “cool” dad who buys teen beer and condoms.

At least he's buying them condoms. You know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll

No, my BIL actually bragged about it with a smirk on his face. He’s a deadbeat dad who only sees his son once a year when grandma flies him in. But he’s the “cool” dad who buys teen beer and condoms.

Quelle horreur!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course concern. I was sad. At the same time I was relieved to know he was being safe, and in a consensual relationship. I didn't freak out externally, but I did cry that night to my husband. I felt of course that he was too young, and his youth was over.

Yes exactly how I’d feel. Isn’t this really the only normal response?

Depending on age I wouldn’t be sad or more concerned than before. If kid is 16 or older I’d be totally fine, think it was normal, ask kid if they had any questions or concerns, and remind them to always practice safe sex. Remind them that we’re always there for them and that sex with someone today doesn’t mean that have to have sex with that person tomorrow, they still have choice. And remind them that sex is about pleasure for all participants.

Give them a stash of condoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assumed OP meant pride like proud of him for being open and honest w his parent(s).

This. If that's what OP means, likely not a troll- more about communication and raising a child to adulthood. If about the "slap on the back you stud" kind of pride, then 100% troll

[Anonymous]

I'm not there yet with my kids, but I see it coming in the next few years.

Isn't the reaction extremely situation-specific? If there was a real relationship and it was a safe and loving experience- Well then I guess I would feel happy for them, and maybe a bit proud that they made a good choice and were willing to share with me.

If it was a random hook-up that likely both parties did not fully enjoy and feel comfortable in? Well then I would be concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What was your reaction?

ewwwwww

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What was your reaction?

ewwwwww

That sounds productive. WTF

[Anonymous]

I would send my sons to a monastery and daughters to a nunnery