Did you feel pride or concern when teen son told you he had sex 1st time

[Anonymous]

What was your reaction?

[Anonymous]

Pride?? Oh my.

[Anonymous]

Wtf?

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Creeper alert.

[Anonymous]

Pride, like get him a bourbon and a cigar? I wouldn't be concerned, but pride is not the first thing that comes to mind

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll

No, my BIL actually bragged about it with a smirk on his face. He’s a deadbeat dad who only sees his son once a year when grandma flies him in. But he’s the “cool” dad who buys teen beer and condoms.

[Anonymous]

I assumed OP meant pride like proud of him for being open and honest w his parent(s).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assumed OP meant pride like proud of him for being open and honest w his parent(s).

This was my take as well. Your son feels comfortable sharing this milestone with you. I think that's great. It's good to have open conversations about sex.

[Anonymous]

I was happy for both my kids (son and daughter). I was also happy we had thr type of relationship where they were comfortable telling me. I didnt have that with my mom. Beyond that i felt nothing

[Anonymous]

Of course concern. I was sad. At the same time I was relieved to know he was being safe, and in a consensual relationship. I didn't freak out externally, but I did cry that night to my husband. I felt of course that he was too young, and his youth was over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course concern. I was sad. At the same time I was relieved to know he was being safe, and in a consensual relationship. I didn't freak out externally, but I did cry that night to my husband. I felt of course that he was too young, and his youth was over.

Yes exactly how I’d feel. Isn’t this really the only normal response?

[Anonymous]

I was angry inside but tried to hide it. DS was 17 and in a relationship but I definitely did not want one more thing to worry about. I knew his girlfriend well and she’s great and responsible as is DH. IUD and condoms but still...

I hope my younger kids wait longer.

[Anonymous]

Neither. He was in college and it wasn't a big deal (to me; I'm sure to him it was a huge deal).

[Anonymous]

Pride that he got laid or pride that he was comfortable telling me?

We're a sex-positive household, so I wouldn't be surprised he was sharing his loss of virginity with me.

I do not know the statuses of my two teen sons and I'm fine with that. I know that my college aged DD has had sex and I'm fine with that. I think my reaction when she told me was something like "thanks for telling me. Do you have any new questions?"