Dinner plans??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok now I'm really starting to wonder if I have been ghosted. I texted and called her before work and nothing. I tried calling her multiple times after work and nothing. I even left messages just saying to let me know if she is ok because I'm worried and still no response. I'm so hurt because I thought this was a super close friend and I am honestly going back in my mind thinking of what I could have said or done.

The last time we spoke and hung out everything seemed completely fine and we had a great time. I don't know what could have changed since then. I know she has a super busy schedule but she always gets back to me eventually and especially if I leave a VM saying I'm worried about her just to let me know if she is ok.

Maybe her phone got damaged or lost?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this was a friend that's as close as you say and she didn't respond at all on the day we have set plans and I knew her as a person to always get back to me and not be a flake I would be blowing up her phone worrying. If hours went by if it was the type of friendship where I can pop over to her house I would honestly probably do that and check on her. That's really odd for someone to suddenly ghost you like that with no signs or warning. It's not like you guys seemed to have any issues before so I would be like WTF is my girl ok.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok now I'm really starting to wonder if I have been ghosted. I texted and called her before work and nothing. I tried calling her multiple times after work and nothing. I even left messages just saying to let me know if she is ok because I'm worried and still no response. I'm so hurt because I thought this was a super close friend and I am honestly going back in my mind thinking of what I could have said or done.

The last time we spoke and hung out everything seemed completely fine and we had a great time. I don't know what could have changed since then. I know she has a super busy schedule but she always gets back to me eventually and especially if I leave a VM saying I'm worried about her just to let me know if she is ok.

Maybe her phone got damaged or lost?

I thought about that then I ruled that out since the original text I sent her yesterday about confirming our dinner plans it said she read it. It showed the little eye icon

[Anonymous]

I would just drive by the apartment and look for signs of life. If you see lights on, her car in the parking spot, etc, then just give her space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just drive by the apartment and look for signs of life. If you see lights on, her car in the parking spot, etc, then just give her space.

NP this is a super close friend though? This isn't a casual friendship from the sounds of it. Clearly close enough that the OP decided to post it in the family category. If a su sendper close friend suddenly ignored all my texts and calls out of the blue I would definitely be knocking on her door after a couple da send ys. If the friend needed space wouldn't the courteous thing be to s it send a quick text at the very least to someone you supposedly consider a best friend and say, "hey girl I'm ok I am just dealing with some stuff and I need a little space I'll get back to you soon." Instead of this immaturity of just ignoring someone leaving them to worry and wonder?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure why everyone is acting like this is ok behavior for someone to treat someone they call a best friend. Best friends don't just ghost someone and not respond and make them worry like the poster above said. It really isn't hard because apparently this friend isn't in a dire situation since she read OP's text to just let her know she is ok. Literally takes less than a minute out of your time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok now I'm really starting to wonder if I have been ghosted. I texted and called her before work and nothing. I tried calling her multiple times after work and nothing. I even left messages just saying to let me know if she is ok because I'm worried and still no response. I'm so hurt because I thought this was a super close friend and I am honestly going back in my mind thinking of what I could have said or done.

The last time we spoke and hung out everything seemed completely fine and we had a great time. I don't know what could have changed since then. I know she has a super busy schedule but she always gets back to me eventually and especially if I leave a VM saying I'm worried about her just to let me know if she is ok.

Maybe her phone got damaged or lost?

I thought about that then I ruled that out since the original text I sent her yesterday about confirming our dinner plans it said she read it. It showed the little eye icon

Has she read subsequent texts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok now I'm really starting to wonder if I have been ghosted. I texted and called her before work and nothing. I tried calling her multiple times after work and nothing. I even left messages just saying to let me know if she is ok because I'm worried and still no response. I'm so hurt because I thought this was a super close friend and I am honestly going back in my mind thinking of what I could have said or done.

The last time we spoke and hung out everything seemed completely fine and we had a great time. I don't know what could have changed since then. I know she has a super busy schedule but she always gets back to me eventually and especially if I leave a VM saying I'm worried about her just to let me know if she is ok.

I sent her one text after the first one and it said she read it and then after then I tried calling her multiple times but no response.

Maybe her phone got damaged or lost?

I thought about that then I ruled that out since the original text I sent her yesterday about confirming our dinner plans it said she read it. It showed the little eye icon

Has she read subsequent texts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok now I'm really starting to wonder if I have been ghosted. I texted and called her before work and nothing. I tried calling her multiple times after work and nothing. I even left messages just saying to let me know if she is ok because I'm worried and still no response. I'm so hurt because I thought this was a super close friend and I am honestly going back in my mind thinking of what I could have said or done.

The last time we spoke and hung out everything seemed completely fine and we had a great time. I don't know what could have changed since then. I know she has a super busy schedule but she always gets back to me eventually and especially if I leave a VM saying I'm worried about her just to let me know if she is ok.

Maybe her phone got damaged or lost?

I thought about that then I ruled that out since the original text I sent her yesterday about confirming our dinner plans it said she read it. It showed the little eye icon

Has she read subsequent texts?

Oops sorry that got quoted weird. But to answer your question I only sent one text after the first one and it said she read it after that I called multiple times but no answer. I'm just trying to go over in my head what I could have said or done to upset her and everything seemed completely fine and normal when we talked over the phone Saturday and she told me how the first day of her new weekend job went.

[Anonymous]

Are your messages going straight to voicemail? Her phone might have gotten lost or broken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your messages going straight to voicemail? Her phone might have gotten lost or broken.

No it's ringing a normal amount of times and then going to VM. I also started in my earlier responses that it shows the eye icon meaning she has read my texts so clearly her phone isn't lost or broken..

[Anonymous]

Send another text saying just let me know you’re okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send another text saying just let me know you’re okay.

Yes.... I would be worried.

[Anonymous]

Someone is reading her texts, maybe it’s not her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone is reading her texts, maybe it’s not her.

I thought that too.

What about sending a really incorrect message - something referring to fake people ("Hey did you talk to Tim or Veronica? They heard my big news" when you know this person doesn't know a Veronica or Tim and you haven't shared exciting news) and see if it prompts her to reply.