I address the parents by their last name and expect the same in return unless I tell you to use my first name. We (teachers) even refer to one another by last name out of habit. |
+1. DD’s teacher always signs them Ms. Last Name so I will call her that this year. I’m a teacher and prefer parents call me my first name. I would not say anything over email but if we meet in person and you say Hello, Ms. Last I’d respond with please call me Larla. |
I’m the above poster. I don’t know any teachers that call each other by last names. Where do you work? I’ve been in three schools and have not seen this. |
I prefer teachers to call me by my first name. I still use Ms/Me for them. |
I am a white parent addressing a Black authority figure. Always Ms. [lastname] unless/until she asks for something else. |
Whatever my kids call them. Until the teacher says "Oh, call me Lauren." And then I call them Lauren. |
Even if a teacher signs an email to me with their first name, I still email them Mr/Ms (and if they specifically go by Mrs, I use that). I think the school setting is just different. |
They're not YOUR authority. They're your child's authority. |
Always Mr./Ms. Whatever, unless they specifically request otherwise. |
Always Ms. unless I know they are married then Mrs. and their last name. Even teachers I'm friendly with I always use their last name when addressing them either in person or via email. I teach my daughter to do the same with all adults in her life. Unless they have said they prefer salutation and first name. Her cello teacher prefers Mr. First Name. |
+1… I find it very bizarre when I find social media photos of parents and teachers hanging out together outside of school hours. If it’s an event or fundraiser that’s one thing.. but at someone’s private home? |
That’s how you see it, I understand. It’s not how I see it. |
If I’m talking about my DD’s teacher in front of her I use Ms/Mrs, but if I’m emailing her I will address her using her first name. I wouldn’t expect a teacher to call me Ms/Mrs X. We’re both adults. I’m not too familiar, but it seems overly formal to call her by her last name - especially if she’s younger than me, which a lot of the teachers seem to be! Of course if a teacher signs their email Mr/Ms, I wouldn’t use their first name. My DD school seems less formal so it’s rare that a teacher would. |
This thread made me realize I don't know my kid's teacher's last name. Ms or Mr FirstName is norm at our school. |
It's weirdly patronizing and trying really hard. Why can't you just be a parent addressing a teacher? I promise, it's fine for you just to address your child's teacher by Ms. and not bring the white parent/Black authority figure part. |