If you had to do it over again...would you spend as much as you did on your wedding?

[Anonymous]

10 years out, it seems like a collosal waste of money. All we needed was a few close family members and a priest. Wish I had stuck that money in an interest bearing account.

[Anonymous]

It was a rare and beautiful occasion. I don't regret it one iota. Especially the fact that we paid for everything ourselves and it was amazing. We learned a lot about our friends and family that day, for sure. I would do it again, given similar circumstances, in a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

This again?? Pass the popcorn.

[Anonymous]

Probably not. No regrets, but it's a different time now. My folks paid for it, and they had/have plenty of money, but if we got married today it would be smaller (we had 160 people) and probably wouldn't have spent as much time and money planning it (though my mom did most of the planning).

I wouldn't say it was excessive - we got married in my small town and the reception location was free. Nothing was really that expensive, but if I were doing it now we would probably have way, way fewer people, not have a band, and maybe even do appetizers instead of a seated dinner.

[Anonymous]

17 years ago, about 15k, with us paying for about 1/2. It was a great day, but that seems like a lot of money--22k today. Both ceremony and reception were at home. I think that may include the honeymoon, but I can't remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was a rare and beautiful occasion. I don't regret it one iota. Especially the fact that we paid for everything ourselves and it was amazing. We learned a lot about our friends and family that day, for sure. I would do it again, given similar circumstances, in a heartbeat.

Rare?

[Anonymous]

2.5 years ago, we paid 6K. If I had to do it over, we'd spend even less -- perhaps going to Vegas or an island and having a simple ceremony there.

[Anonymous]

Definitely. 10 yrs ago we spent:
$30 marriage license
$45 justice of peace to meet us (w 8 guests) at a park
$30 parking ticket expired meter outside city courthouse
$120 wedding bands
$80 dress and sandals

It was just right for us. Flowers and lunch after the wedding were gifts from our parents.

[Anonymous]

5K total.

We took our closest friends (family is overseas) for brunch in GGtown after a private ceremony at our apt building's recently renovated lobby.

It was Sunday Morning so besides us and the JoP there was nobody there. The front desk guy was the only witness... how romantic, huh?

I only wish we had taken more pictures. We were planing on dressing up again after a month or so and have more pics taken but I found out I was pregnant and began feeling extremely miserable so no mood for pics.

[Anonymous]

Hell yeah! Then again, we got married at the courthouse, and my parents paid the $300 or so for us and a few family/friends to have lunch afterwards. Totally worth it! But I always knew I wouldn't have a big, fancy wedding - I just have no patience for or interest in planning something like that.

[Anonymous]

I'm waiting for the 100k+ wedding posters.

[Anonymous]

$100k

[Anonymous]

We had a huge, fancy, over-the-top, and very expensive wedding that was entirely funded/hosted by my parents. It was, to this day, one of the best weekends of our lives and neither we (nor my parents) regret a dime that was spent. My father actually said he wished he had another daughter so he could do it all over again!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a huge, fancy, over-the-top, and very expensive wedding that was entirely funded/hosted by my parents. It was, to this day, one of the best weekends of our lives and neither we (nor my parents) regret a dime that was spent. My father actually said he wished he had another daughter so he could do it all over again!

Same here, except for the no regret thing. I would have loved just a fraction of that money for a down payment - it took us three and a half years to save it on our own. Of course, my other wasn't offering the money for any other purpose than throwing a showy wedding for her...er...uh...our friends.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Good question to ask on Sunday afternoon--which is probably the day of the week most people here got married and if you're are spending this beautiful afternoon inside on DCUM like me, right now, there is big trouble in River City...

fighting with DH at the moment, so yes I regret having my family shell out the obscene amount of money they did 14 years ago for me to marry my passive agressive, infuriating as hell DH. Yes. But ask me tomorrow when the kids have gone back to school and he and I are both at work and I will have calmed down and be willing to do it all over again.