Can we analyze jennifer lopez?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now Jen Lopez is getting jealous of Jen Garner.
https://www.express.co.uk/celebrity-news/1907073/jennifer-lopez-warns-ben-affleck-ex-wife-stay-away-from-jennifer-garner/amp

Tabloid trash. People has a different spin

https://people.com/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-at-his-son-game-is-good-sign-exclusive-8658214

Remember, People is always paid-for PR. Fluff pieces for purchase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this whole break up publicity was to give Jennifer a smoke screen to cancel her tour. If she canceled the tour due to low sales, she would be professionally embarrassed. But if she cancels the tour “to save her marriage”, she can spin that story that her “sacrifice” was “worth it”.

At one point; she was on QVC and American Idol. She doesn’t care about the word flop that much. She’s flopped many times and always comes back.

Another Divorce is far worse for her brand than another flop. I don’t see the logic in playing with divorce rumors when the whole premise of her project is she got her fairytale ending with Ben.

[Anonymous]

She probably is not narcissistic, but shares similar traits as a narcissist. The traits of a narcissist are Overinflated and an unjust sense of self-importance. How many times have we seen Jlo express this trait? In a clip from her documentary, she was trying to get some guy to cancel his wedding just so he could appear in her movie. Another trait of a narcissist is that they are preoccupied with fantasies. Miss Girl believes she is a wild child from the Bronx when in actuality she was raised with a proper education and attended a private school. Believing in fantasies is alright but the issue is that she tries so hard to sell this fantasy to the rest of the world. If that doesn't formulate some evidence of narcissistic traits I don't know what does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably is not narcissistic, but shares similar traits as a narcissist. The traits of a narcissist are Overinflated and an unjust sense of self-importance. How many times have we seen Jlo express this trait? In a clip from her documentary, she was trying to get some guy to cancel his wedding just so he could appear in her movie. Another trait of a narcissist is that they are preoccupied with fantasies. Miss Girl believes she is a wild child from the Bronx when in actuality she was raised with a proper education and attended a private school. Believing in fantasies is alright but the issue is that she tries so hard to sell this fantasy to the rest of the world. If that doesn't formulate some evidence of narcissistic traits I don't know what does.

Maybe she’s just.. a hopeless romantic?

That her vulnerability is seen as so alien and juvenile that it’s worthy of mass mockery maybe speaks more about us as a society than it does about her.

I can’t think of anything less narcissistic than being a romantic of any sort but I’m no expert on the subject

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She probably is not narcissistic, but shares similar traits as a narcissist. The traits of a narcissist are Overinflated and an unjust sense of self-importance. How many times have we seen Jlo express this trait? In a clip from her documentary, she was trying to get some guy to cancel his wedding just so he could appear in her movie. Another trait of a narcissist is that they are preoccupied with fantasies. Miss Girl believes she is a wild child from the Bronx when in actuality she was raised with a proper education and attended a private school. Believing in fantasies is alright but the issue is that she tries so hard to sell this fantasy to the rest of the world. If that doesn't formulate some evidence of narcissistic traits I don't know what does.

Maybe she’s just.. a hopeless romantic?

That her vulnerability is seen as so alien and juvenile that it’s worthy of mass mockery maybe speaks more about us as a society than it does about her.

I can’t think of anything less narcissistic than being a romantic of any sort but I’m no expert on the subject

Hopeless romantic refers to her fantasy life, of one "perfect" love (see the title "The greatest love story never told"). It's an idealization, a type of defense that involves mirroring and projecting idealized fantasies on to another and believing idealized fantasies about oneself (while at deeper levels there is shame and deep insecurity). It's very much tied to narcissism. True romantics tend to stay married in my opinion. They don't easily let go, if ever. They're grounded in reality. No matter how hard it may get. We saw this more in other generations. J lo bails quickly, her reality testing is not good. She's a workaholic, her first love is her career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ben looks like John Corbett in that close-up photo above.

He's so interesting in that to me he can look so different one day from the next, it's interesting. He can bloat so quickly, one day he's tan one day he's pale, one day he's groomed, one day he's slovenly, moreso than most people. Maybe it reflects how erratic he can be internally, or how unstable, I'm not sure. For all of j lo's issues, she's consistent. Much more controlled. And self possessed. I'm sure his instability makes her crazy and I'm sure she noticed all the shifts. It must have been challenging for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ben looks like John Corbett in that close-up photo above.

He's so interesting in that to me he can look so different one day from the next, it's interesting. He can bloat so quickly, one day he's tan one day he's pale, one day he's groomed, one day he's slovenly, moreso than most people. Maybe it reflects how erratic he can be internally, or how unstable, I'm not sure. For all of j lo's issues, she's consistent. Much more controlled. And self possessed. I'm sure his instability makes her crazy and I'm sure she noticed all the shifts. It must have been challenging for her.

Poster above, maybe it's part of addiction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ben looks like John Corbett in that close-up photo above.

He's so interesting in that to me he can look so different one day from the next, it's interesting. He can bloat so quickly, one day he's tan one day he's pale, one day he's groomed, one day he's slovenly, moreso than most people. Maybe it reflects how erratic he can be internally, or how unstable, I'm not sure. For all of j lo's issues, she's consistent. Much more controlled. And self possessed. I'm sure his instability makes her crazy and I'm sure she noticed all the shifts. It must have been challenging for her.

It's not like she was some virgin who'd never lived with him and didn't know all of this about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now Jen Lopez is getting jealous of Jen Garner.
https://www.express.co.uk/celebrity-news/1907073/jennifer-lopez-warns-ben-affleck-ex-wife-stay-away-from-jennifer-garner/amp

Tabloid trash. People has a different spin

https://people.com/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-at-his-son-game-is-good-sign-exclusive-8658214

Remember, People is always paid-for PR. Fluff pieces for purchase.

Right. While this is definitely coming from one if their PR it's still most likely not the truth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She probably is not narcissistic, but shares similar traits as a narcissist. The traits of a narcissist are Overinflated and an unjust sense of self-importance. How many times have we seen Jlo express this trait? In a clip from her documentary, she was trying to get some guy to cancel his wedding just so he could appear in her movie. Another trait of a narcissist is that they are preoccupied with fantasies. Miss Girl believes she is a wild child from the Bronx when in actuality she was raised with a proper education and attended a private school. Believing in fantasies is alright but the issue is that she tries so hard to sell this fantasy to the rest of the world. If that doesn't formulate some evidence of narcissistic traits I don't know what does.

Maybe she’s just.. a hopeless romantic?

That her vulnerability is seen as so alien and juvenile that it’s worthy of mass mockery maybe speaks more about us as a society than it does about her.

I can’t think of anything less narcissistic than being a romantic of any sort but I’m no expert on the subject

Hopeless romantic refers to her fantasy life, of one "perfect" love (see the title "The greatest love story never told"). It's an idealization, a type of defense that involves mirroring and projecting idealized fantasies on to another and believing idealized fantasies about oneself (while at deeper levels there is shame and deep insecurity). It's very much tied to narcissism. True romantics tend to stay married in my opinion. They don't easily let go, if ever. They're grounded in reality. No matter how hard it may get. We saw this more in other generations. J lo bails quickly, her reality testing is not good. She's a workaholic, her first love is her career.

She said her parents were loving but she knew her mother was unhappy as a stay at home mom . They were married for 33 years because they wanted to stay together and raise the girls together. They divorced in 1999 when Jennifer was 30 years old.

I think Jennifer doesn’t want her kids to see their mom unhappy . That’s why she doesn’t believe in staying together forever if it’s not happy or fulfilling. It’s probably why she works so much too because she saw how bored or miserable her mother was at home . I don’t know but Jennifer has always been the richer partner and the larger breadwinner in each relationship and marriage she’s been in . Ben said he is shocked by how hard she works and he’s met nobody in the business who works as hard as she does . I am sure being such a workaholic, needing to travel long distance often, and being the breadwinner is intimidating to even the most evolved men.


In fact, the first song on her album This is me now says this.

“I watched my mother miss out on her life.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She probably is not narcissistic, but shares similar traits as a narcissist. The traits of a narcissist are Overinflated and an unjust sense of self-importance. How many times have we seen Jlo express this trait? In a clip from her documentary, she was trying to get some guy to cancel his wedding just so he could appear in her movie. Another trait of a narcissist is that they are preoccupied with fantasies. Miss Girl believes she is a wild child from the Bronx when in actuality she was raised with a proper education and attended a private school. Believing in fantasies is alright but the issue is that she tries so hard to sell this fantasy to the rest of the world. If that doesn't formulate some evidence of narcissistic traits I don't know what does.

Maybe she’s just.. a hopeless romantic?

That her vulnerability is seen as so alien and juvenile that it’s worthy of mass mockery maybe speaks more about us as a society than it does about her.

I can’t think of anything less narcissistic than being a romantic of any sort but I’m no expert on the subject

Hopeless romantic refers to her fantasy life, of one "perfect" love (see the title "The greatest love story never told"). It's an idealization, a type of defense that involves mirroring and projecting idealized fantasies on to another and believing idealized fantasies about oneself (while at deeper levels there is shame and deep insecurity). It's very much tied to narcissism. True romantics tend to stay married in my opinion. They don't easily let go, if ever. They're grounded in reality. No matter how hard it may get. We saw this more in other generations. J lo bails quickly, her reality testing is not good. She's a workaholic, her first love is her career.

She said her parents were loving but she knew her mother was unhappy as a stay at home mom . They were married for 33 years because they wanted to stay together and raise the girls together. They divorced in 1999 when Jennifer was 30 years old.

I think Jennifer doesn’t want her kids to see their mom unhappy . That’s why she doesn’t believe in staying together forever if it’s not happy or fulfilling. It’s probably why she works so much too because she saw how bored or miserable her mother was at home . I don’t know but Jennifer has always been the richer partner and the larger breadwinner in each relationship and marriage she’s been in . Ben said he is shocked by how hard she works and he’s met nobody in the business who works as hard as she does . I am sure being such a workaholic, needing to travel long distance often, and being the breadwinner is intimidating to even the most evolved men.


In fact, the first song on her album This is me now says this.

“I watched my mother miss out on her life.”

And now her kids are missing out on her life because she's so often busy with her career, travels, exercise, boyfriends, breakups, marriages, husbands, and divorces.

[Anonymous]

Some indications that the mansion monstrosity is on the verge of being listed for sale.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13497301/Photos-Jennifer-Lopez-Ben-Affleck-60million-home-tell-tale-sign-marriage-over.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ben looks like John Corbett in that close-up photo above.

He's so interesting in that to me he can look so different one day from the next, it's interesting. He can bloat so quickly, one day he's tan one day he's pale, one day he's groomed, one day he's slovenly, moreso than most people. Maybe it reflects how erratic he can be internally, or how unstable, I'm not sure. For all of j lo's issues, she's consistent. Much more controlled. And self possessed. I'm sure his instability makes her crazy and I'm sure she noticed all the shifts. It must have been challenging for her.

His instability being anxiety inducing to her is a great point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She probably is not narcissistic, but shares similar traits as a narcissist. The traits of a narcissist are Overinflated and an unjust sense of self-importance. How many times have we seen Jlo express this trait? In a clip from her documentary, she was trying to get some guy to cancel his wedding just so he could appear in her movie. Another trait of a narcissist is that they are preoccupied with fantasies. Miss Girl believes she is a wild child from the Bronx when in actuality she was raised with a proper education and attended a private school. Believing in fantasies is alright but the issue is that she tries so hard to sell this fantasy to the rest of the world. If that doesn't formulate some evidence of narcissistic traits I don't know what does.

Maybe she’s just.. a hopeless romantic?

That her vulnerability is seen as so alien and juvenile that it’s worthy of mass mockery maybe speaks more about us as a society than it does about her.

I can’t think of anything less narcissistic than being a romantic of any sort but I’m no expert on the subject

Hopeless romantic refers to her fantasy life, of one "perfect" love (see the title "The greatest love story never told"). It's an idealization, a type of defense that involves mirroring and projecting idealized fantasies on to another and believing idealized fantasies about oneself (while at deeper levels there is shame and deep insecurity). It's very much tied to narcissism. True romantics tend to stay married in my opinion. They don't easily let go, if ever. They're grounded in reality. No matter how hard it may get. We saw this more in other generations. J lo bails quickly, her reality testing is not good. She's a workaholic, her first love is her career.

She said her parents were loving but she knew her mother was unhappy as a stay at home mom . They were married for 33 years because they wanted to stay together and raise the girls together. They divorced in 1999 when Jennifer was 30 years old.

I think Jennifer doesn’t want her kids to see their mom unhappy . That’s why she doesn’t believe in staying together forever if it’s not happy or fulfilling. It’s probably why she works so much too because she saw how bored or miserable her mother was at home . I don’t know but Jennifer has always been the richer partner and the larger breadwinner in each relationship and marriage she’s been in . Ben said he is shocked by how hard she works and he’s met nobody in the business who works as hard as she does . I am sure being such a workaholic, needing to travel long distance often, and being the breadwinner is intimidating to even the most evolved men.


In fact, the first song on her album This is me now says this.

“I watched my mother miss out on her life.”

And now her kids are missing out on her life because she's so often busy with her career, travels, exercise, boyfriends, breakups, marriages, husbands, and divorces.

Perhaps but they also are rich and they’ll inherit a fortune when she dies . There’s always therapy they can pay for with mommy’s money .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ben looks like John Corbett in that close-up photo above.

He's so interesting in that to me he can look so different one day from the next, it's interesting. He can bloat so quickly, one day he's tan one day he's pale, one day he's groomed, one day he's slovenly, moreso than most people. Maybe it reflects how erratic he can be internally, or how unstable, I'm not sure. For all of j lo's issues, she's consistent. Much more controlled. And self possessed. I'm sure his instability makes her crazy and I'm sure she noticed all the shifts. It must have been challenging for her.

It's not like she was some virgin who'd never lived with him and didn't know all of this about him.

She probably didn’t think a man 50+ was still binge drinking, going to Dunkin Donuts hung over, and getting kicked out of casinos like he was at age 29.

Neither of them have learned or changed a bit since 2003 . The addiction to attention/fame /self image /romantic grand gestures is still there for her . The addictions to gambling , alcohol, paparazzi , and commitment phobia is still there for Ben.

Ben always checks out and gets depressed on year 2 of a relationship and goes back to drinking. He did so with Paltrow, Garner, Ana de Armas.