Cannot pick between these two names for daughter

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Anonymous wrote:What result? That you're going to run into another kid with the same name? THE HORROR!

I think we all know why people like PP are worried about their kid having the same name as someone else in the class. They think they are just oh so special and their special unique snowflake has to have a special unique name, when the reality is they know they're so basic if they don't name their kid something like "Brixton" no one will pay attention to them.

I don't think the people squelching "Charlotte" are naming their children "Brixton". I suspect they chose Caroline or Penelope or any of the other names that are rising in popularity and are going to be the Charlottes of 2025.

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Anonymous wrote:What result? That you're going to run into another kid with the same name? THE HORROR!

I think we all know why people like PP are worried about their kid having the same name as someone else in the class. They think they are just oh so special and their special unique snowflake has to have a special unique name, when the reality is they know they're so basic if they don't name their kid something like "Brixton" no one will pay attention to them.

I don't think the people squelching "Charlotte" are naming their children "Brixton". I suspect they chose Caroline or Penelope or any of the other names that are rising in popularity and are going to be the Charlottes of 2025.

There were more girls named Caroline in 2020 than Sophie.

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Anonymous wrote:Heather redux.
Charlotte has more class.
Sophie is a nickname in itself. It’s Sophia.

Sophie is the French version and is a stand-alone name. Do you also feel Christine is a nickname for Christina, Isabel(le) is a nickname for Isabella, and Anne is a nickname for Anna?

I feel a French spelling for an American girl is pretentious.

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Anonymous wrote:What result? That you're going to run into another kid with the same name? THE HORROR!

I think we all know why people like PP are worried about their kid having the same name as someone else in the class. They think they are just oh so special and their special unique snowflake has to have a special unique name, when the reality is they know they're so basic if they don't name their kid something like "Brixton" no one will pay attention to them.

I don't think the people squelching "Charlotte" are naming their children "Brixton". I suspect they chose Caroline or Penelope or any of the other names that are rising in popularity and are going to be the Charlottes of 2025.

Not necessarily. We’ve seen posters here naming their kids Blythe, Melanie, Susan, Prudence, Daisy, Belinda, Laura, etc. All names outside of the top trends purposely. Not weird names, just currently not-popular names.

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Just so we know what we're talking about here, there were 3200 girls named Sophie in 2020. UVA has about 4200 students per class year. So you're likely to be the ONLY SOPHIE in your college graduation class.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this some kind of personality disorder? These people who are obsessed with the idea that every baby must get a unique, rare name? That if your child shares a name with other children it means you have ruined your child’s life. Although honestly, many of these comments aren’t even about the baby. It’s more like you’re all mad because OP and people like her have failed to entertain you or interest you with their name choices. Why is that important? If you don’t hear a novel baby name every day, you’re mad? I do not get it.

I can’t figure out another explanation for why there are 8 pages of comments berating OP for wanting to use one of two popular (and pretty!) baby names, when one of the first things OP said was “I know they are popular.”

Seriously, she knows. She doesn’t care— these are the names she likes. Do you honestly think she or her child would be better off if she picked some name that she didn’t feel connected to or didn’t like as well? Think this through. You are all being insane. Stop trying to shove your values onto someone who doesn’t share them, and maybe take a minute to ask yourself why “giving babies original names” is so important to you. I think a lot of you need therapy because this is honestly weird.

People are just cautioning OP not to saddle her daughter with a fad name. And that’s all Sophia and Charlotte are - names that are current fad. No is is saying name her something made up or unique - just not a name where there will be millions with her first name in her generation.

Both of these names have been within the top 100 or 200 names for over 100 years. That's the opposite of a fad. A baby Charlotte or Sophie is likely to run into children with her name, as well as adults and older relatives. She is likely to encounter children with her name even once she is an adult. This is the experience of millions of people all over the world every day. People are very into using different names right now. One could argue that that is the trend. Giving your kid one of these names is literally never trendy.

If OP was thinking about naming her child after a Game of Thrones character, maybe I get the "concern". But she's not. These are classic names that have been popular in English-speaking countries for over a century (probably longer, but I could only look them up on the SSA site going back to 1900). Cautioning someone against naming their kid Charlotte or Sophie is deranged.

My name is Sophie. I was named for my father's aunt, who was named for her grandmother. Hardly a fad!

Oh, come on! If you’re old enough to post here, it wasn’t a fad when you were born. That’s really not a hard concept to grasp, PP. If you are a Susan born in 1960, your name was part of the fad. If you’re baby is named Susan today, you’re clearly not.

You're completely missing PP's point. A name like "Jennifer" is a fad. Sophie and Charlotte have been top 100, common names for hundreds of years.

Ha ha delusional.

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A lot of women like me avoid the trendy-overused names of this generation because we have one of the trendy-overused names of our generation (and HATE it).

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of women like me avoid the trendy-overused names of this generation because we have one of the trendy-overused names of our generation (and HATE it).

Grow up

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Anonymous wrote:Is this some kind of personality disorder? These people who are obsessed with the idea that every baby must get a unique, rare name? That if your child shares a name with other children it means you have ruined your child’s life. Although honestly, many of these comments aren’t even about the baby. It’s more like you’re all mad because OP and people like her have failed to entertain you or interest you with their name choices. Why is that important? If you don’t hear a novel baby name every day, you’re mad? I do not get it.

I can’t figure out another explanation for why there are 8 pages of comments berating OP for wanting to use one of two popular (and pretty!) baby names, when one of the first things OP said was “I know they are popular.”

Seriously, she knows. She doesn’t care— these are the names she likes. Do you honestly think she or her child would be better off if she picked some name that she didn’t feel connected to or didn’t like as well? Think this through. You are all being insane. Stop trying to shove your values onto someone who doesn’t share them, and maybe take a minute to ask yourself why “giving babies original names” is so important to you. I think a lot of you need therapy because this is honestly weird.

People are just cautioning OP not to saddle her daughter with a fad name. And that’s all Sophia and Charlotte are - names that are current fad. No is is saying name her something made up or unique - just not a name where there will be millions with her first name in her generation.

Both of these names have been within the top 100 or 200 names for over 100 years. That's the opposite of a fad. A baby Charlotte or Sophie is likely to run into children with her name, as well as adults and older relatives. She is likely to encounter children with her name even once she is an adult. This is the experience of millions of people all over the world every day. People are very into using different names right now. One could argue that that is the trend. Giving your kid one of these names is literally never trendy.

If OP was thinking about naming her child after a Game of Thrones character, maybe I get the "concern". But she's not. These are classic names that have been popular in English-speaking countries for over a century (probably longer, but I could only look them up on the SSA site going back to 1900). Cautioning someone against naming their kid Charlotte or Sophie is deranged.

My name is Sophie. I was named for my father's aunt, who was named for her grandmother. Hardly a fad!

Oh, come on! If you’re old enough to post here, it wasn’t a fad when you were born. That’s really not a hard concept to grasp, PP. If you are a Susan born in 1960, your name was part of the fad. If you’re baby is named Susan today, you’re clearly not.

You're completely missing PP's point. A name like "Jennifer" is a fad. Sophie and Charlotte have been top 100, common names for hundreds of years.

DP. You're completely missing PP's point. The practical result is the same.

And what exactly is the practical result? That a girl has a pretty, classic name that's been around for hundreds of years? The horror! And please, tell us what your kids name is? Brixxleigh? Neveah? Palmer? I promise you people roll their eyes at your kids "unique" name too.

Are you kidding me? There’re many “normal” names that aren’t trendy.

Like?

Juliet, Natasha, Clarissa, Giselle, Nina, Celeste, Priscilla, Bianca, Marina, Jacqueline, Nadia, etc.

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OP I think you are very late to the Sophia / Charlotte trend. It’s not classic name in the sense of common usage for “hundreds of years”. Yes you can find them in history.
It’s the Heather/ Alexa/ Jennifer/ Emily/ Emma /Ava stage right now. A trend that’s old. But that’s fine. Just kind of a dated trend.

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Sophie is less common than Charlotte. I know 5 Charlottes between the ages of 2 and 8. 2 of them are in DD1's grade, 2 are in DD2's preschool class of 15 kids, and the fifth is the child of a good friend. I don't know a single Sophie. I think it's a very pretty name, and far less stuffy than Charlotte.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I think you are very late to the Sophia / Charlotte trend. It’s not classic name in the sense of common usage for “hundreds of years”. Yes you can find them in history.
It’s the Heather/ Alexa/ Jennifer/ Emily/ Emma /Ava stage right now. A trend that’s old. But that’s fine. Just kind of a dated trend.

How old are you kids that you think any of these are popular now? The only kids I know named Emily/Emma/Ava/Alexa are teens. Heather and Jennifer are in their 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Heather redux.
Charlotte has more class.
Sophie is a nickname in itself. It’s Sophia.

Sophie is the French version and is a stand-alone name. Do you also feel Christine is a nickname for Christina, Isabel(le) is a nickname for Isabella, and Anne is a nickname for Anna?

I feel a French spelling for an American girl is pretentious.

So you would only name your child an English name? And a name/spelling of a name from England is less pretentious than France?

What's YOUR name, PP? I'm guessing...boring Sarah or plain Jane?

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Anonymous wrote:What result? That you're going to run into another kid with the same name? THE HORROR!

I think we all know why people like PP are worried about their kid having the same name as someone else in the class. They think they are just oh so special and their special unique snowflake has to have a special unique name, when the reality is they know they're so basic if they don't name their kid something like "Brixton" no one will pay attention to them.

This, 100%.

I also think it stems from this very deep seated insecurity about their own place in the world. They fear that they don't matter and they are determined to make their child matter, and it starts with giving them a name that NO ONE else will have. But they don't get that a lot of parents don't think that way at all, that we give our kids names that sound nice and make us feel good, and if they are common oh well. Our child will be special and important to us and that is what matters most. My child has a popular-sh name but she is my only child of that name, and my only child period, and the fact that there may be other kids out there with the same name doesn't even cross my mind when we are together. Nor does the fact that there are likely other children who have similar interests or similar senses of humor. There are billions of people on the planet. We all share lots in common. That doesn't mean we don't matter, it just means we aren't the only ones who matter.

Kudos to OP for not caring about this stuff and just picking a name she likes.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of women like me avoid the trendy-overused names of this generation because we have one of the trendy-overused names of our generation (and HATE it).

Grow up

So being a grown up in your book means loving everything? Hate to tell you, sweetie, but you just failed.