Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dang, some of you all have never been betrayed on such a fundamental level that you completely lost it, and it shows. I genuinely hope you never know any different.

Who are you talking to?

I’m talking to the ones who are saying she’s super dramatic, and to the ones who say some types of affairs are “not that bad.”

I had the same feeling About some of these posters. I was pretty self righteous about infidelity and what I’d do. The total and complete devastation and the YEARS it took to even remotely recover from such a monumental betrayal/affair were nothing I could have remotely fathomed unless it had happened to me. The moment I found out is seared into my brain, my stomach dropped, I was severely disoriented (blindsided) and I threw up everything in my stomach. For a few months after I was still in complete shock and having to remind myself it was really happening.

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Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

We could have written the same post. We also went to their church for a few years and you're exactly right. We could write big checks (we did). Volunteer for everything (that too). And they would still ignore you as you sat there.
We stopped going after the performative shit got to be so out of control that the front row of church was a rotating display of the new flavor of the week "Look at us, we brought A GAY with us. TO CHURCH! Aren't we just like Jesus?! Go us."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

This doesn't surprise me in the least.

I lump Jen Hatmaker in with Glennon Doyle - both of their influence has vastly outpaced what they actually have to offer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

We could have written the same post. We also went to their church for a few years and you're exactly right. We could write big checks (we did). Volunteer for everything (that too). And they would still ignore you as you sat there.
We stopped going after the performative shit got to be so out of control that the front row of church was a rotating display of the new flavor of the week "Look at us, we brought A GAY with us. TO CHURCH! Aren't we just like Jesus?! Go us."

I really think even if you weren't narcissistic before, taking endless photos of yourself can set it off. I have never met her or been to her church. I do know people who put on a good show in public and they are they same people all over social media shouting...look at me...and all my friends...but I am humble...so here is an only semi-curated photo of me slightly messy....and look at me I believe in inlcusion (like most of you who don't need to brag about it) and I support the needy and I will humblebrag so well you won't even know I humblebrag.

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Anonymous wrote:She got off on it, I'm sure. Those type of women always do. There is a sickness inside thinking they 'won' against a beautiful woman that seemingly had it all.

What these homewreckers fail to realize is that what they got is a disgusting cheater that will do it to them down the road. #winning. NOT

Got off on it? Hardly. Everyone acts like the OW is some heartless, flat villain who delights in the breakdown of a family. No one "gets off" on being the other woman. While it's hidden, you are crushed when you are daily reminder that the man you love can't or won't choose you. Birthdays, Christmas...alone. It's the loneliest life imaginable. And then after D-day it gets worse. Everyone hates you and says "you were nothing. You were a fling. He didn't love you." And he just bows his head and goes along with it to save what was lost. She's angrier with you than him. Everyone is. And you have no one. Married women hate you because they fear your kind. They fear the one who "sees" your husband, laughs at his jokes, gets to know parts of him you sarcastically ridicule after twenty years of marriage.

There's "getting off" on being hated and not chosen while this is going on. There's just deep loneliness and a total loss of self.

Marriages that fall apart weren't strong. And the OW isn't too be blamed for that.

I'm sorry, are you actually asking people to feel sorry for the OW? Um, no. And I've never been cheated on so I don't have any personal feelings on this, but no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

We could have written the same post. We also went to their church for a few years and you're exactly right. We could write big checks (we did). Volunteer for everything (that too). And they would still ignore you as you sat there.
We stopped going after the performative shit got to be so out of control that the front row of church was a rotating display of the new flavor of the week "Look at us, we brought A GAY with us. TO CHURCH! Aren't we just like Jesus?! Go us."

How are there so many people in DC area that went to their church??? Isn't it in Texas or Kansas?? I never knew of this woman until this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

We could have written the same post. We also went to their church for a few years and you're exactly right. We could write big checks (we did). Volunteer for everything (that too). And they would still ignore you as you sat there.
We stopped going after the performative shit got to be so out of control that the front row of church was a rotating display of the new flavor of the week "Look at us, we brought A GAY with us. TO CHURCH! Aren't we just like Jesus?! Go us."

How are there so many people in DC area that went to their church??? Isn't it in Texas or Kansas?? I never knew of this woman until this thread.

I doubt they are in DC. This is one of the few unlocked threads discussing her. Reddit's most recent thread was locked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

We could have written the same post. We also went to their church for a few years and you're exactly right. We could write big checks (we did). Volunteer for everything (that too). And they would still ignore you as you sat there.
We stopped going after the performative shit got to be so out of control that the front row of church was a rotating display of the new flavor of the week "Look at us, we brought A GAY with us. TO CHURCH! Aren't we just like Jesus?! Go us."

I live in the Austin, Texas area. Just came here to find out any salacious details....I know it’s unbecoming but I am interested since I did go to their church for a few years. Nice enough people, but, in my opinion, they are way over the top. They have a bit of an air of superiority to be quite frank. Sorry this has happened, but they’re truly no different than anyone else. Trauma, tragedy, rough times— everyone will face some tough shit in their lives. Some more than others, and maybe at different times... mine came in my mid 30’s. They have theirs to face and endure.
How are there so many people in DC area that went to their church??? Isn't it in Texas or Kansas?? I never knew of this woman until this thread.

I doubt they are in DC. This is one of the few unlocked threads discussing her. Reddit's most recent thread was locked.

[Anonymous]

I live in the Austin, Texas area. Just came here to find out any salacious details....I know it’s unbecoming but I am interested since I did go to their church for a few years. Nice enough people, but, in my opinion, they are way over the top. They have a bit of an air of superiority to be quite frank. Sorry this has happened, but they’re truly no different than anyone else. Trauma, tragedy, rough times— everyone will face some tough shit in their lives. Some more than others, and maybe at different times... mine came in my mid 30’s. They have theirs to face and endure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in the Austin, Texas area. Just came here to find out any salacious details....I know it’s unbecoming but I am interested since I did go to their church for a few years. Nice enough people, but, in my opinion, they are way over the top. They have a bit of an air of superiority to be quite frank. Sorry this has happened, but they’re truly no different than anyone else. Trauma, tragedy, rough times— everyone will face some tough shit in their lives. Some more than others, and maybe at different times... mine came in my mid 30’s. They have theirs to face and endure.

So you thought they needed and deserved to be taken down a notch, and now they have, and they are to suffer because that's what fair. Wow you are so cool and amazing and wise and #justbeingreal, hope we are friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in the Austin, Texas area. Just came here to find out any salacious details....I know it’s unbecoming but I am interested since I did go to their church for a few years. Nice enough people, but, in my opinion, they are way over the top. They have a bit of an air of superiority to be quite frank. Sorry this has happened, but they’re truly no different than anyone else. Trauma, tragedy, rough times— everyone will face some tough shit in their lives. Some more than others, and maybe at different times... mine came in my mid 30’s. They have theirs to face and endure.

So you thought they needed and deserved to be taken down a notch, and now they have, and they are to suffer because that's what fair. Wow you are so cool and amazing and wise and #justbeingreal, hope we are friends.

Not at all. I don’t think they need to be taken down a notch. Just stating my observations and opinions. I don’t think it’s what’s “fair”. They are no better or worse than anyone else. I do think they are a bit over the top, but wish them no ill will. I get no joy in their suffering. Hope we can be friends too!

[Anonymous]

She still has up wife to BH on her IG and a link. I know it's hard to delete these things when you are hurting, but I am surprised she doesn't just take it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t her husband the pastor of a church? So it whatever happened was criminal, they for sure it’s going to come out soon.

Her husband is still on the board but I don’t think he actually preaches much if at all. He’s too busy getting tattoos and pretending to be hard like a biker wanna be. Personally, they put in the work they needed to get to where they wanted to be; it was a means to an end. They never really cared for much beyond their little clique of people. I went to their church for about 3 years and he never once tried to have a meaningful conversation with me or my family. If you were on of the 6-7 families who were “in”, you were part of the cool kids club. There were so many other really nice and sincere people who did a ton of work for the community and church. It feels like we weren’t good enough to be in their presence at times. Oh sure, they put on a facade of love and grace but it didn’t feel genuine with them. It was kinda like high-school and there were the popular kids and everyone else.

We could have written the same post. We also went to their church for a few years and you're exactly right. We could write big checks (we did). Volunteer for everything (that too). And they would still ignore you as you sat there.
We stopped going after the performative shit got to be so out of control that the front row of church was a rotating display of the new flavor of the week "Look at us, we brought A GAY with us. TO CHURCH! Aren't we just like Jesus?! Go us."

How are there so many people in DC area that went to their church??? Isn't it in Texas or Kansas?? I never knew of this woman until this thread.

Their daughter goes to American U

I doubt they are in DC. This is one of the few unlocked threads discussing her. Reddit's most recent thread was locked.

[Anonymous]

Yes, Sydney is at American. They have an apartment downtown.

[Anonymous]

Sydney transferred to UT for this year or even last year for the spring.