The school likely said their kid had autism or was cognitively impaired. |
I wonder if it was the same provider. Do you mind saying who your son saw? |
That’s not a good developmental pediatrician. They are supposed to see your child several times a year and for as long as the child needs it (which might be through age 18) , offering advice to the parent as to what services to use or what activities or school programs might be helpful for the child. It’s not supposed to be a short term evaluation experience. |
You’re talking probably 20-25 years ago here. |
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My current 34 months son has been seen & evaluated by a developmental psychologist & also a developmental pediatrician from children hospital since last year summer. Still, no one has given him ASD diagnosis yet even though they are suspicious of it.
Each evaluation is ranged from 1 hour to 3 hours. He has severe expressive delays, not awesome eye contact, some flagging hands/tiptoe walking, loves abc/numbers/shapes/colors, loves to play with kids/adults, and also he does not understand personal boundaries (too friendly to strangers). No one can give diagnosis yet because he could be just a normal kid with some delays, per professionals. Even though everyone (his daycare teachers, speech therapists, pediatrician & friends/family) say he is not ASD, but we still keep seeing them every couple months for evaluation. He is on the waiting list for ADOS test now, could be a year of waiting. We will see how it goes. Someone tell me that it is difficult to give ASD diagnosis to a young kid unless the symptoms are really obvious or just like the textbooks ones. |
It is in fact difficult to diagnose ASD in young children. The main thing to do now is treat the symptoms. |
PP here. Forgot to mention that both professionals comment that he is too social & affectionate (loves to give hugs, hold hands, grab strangers legs) even to selective strangers in a new environment. He smiles & laugh all the time, feeling comfortable & not feeling nervous at all in a new environment surrounded by strangers as long as he can play. He enjoys companies, and love to interact with others (kids & adults) & super good in pretend-play. They are concerned the most is he is too affectionate to strangers, and his 11 daycare kids' parents are all hugged by him already within the first 2 weeks. Even the daycare administration knows who he is because he loves to visit them daily at drop off/pick up. |
sounds like a great kid the concern about being "too affectionate" is likely that he doesn't understand "normal" social boundaries - which could be a sign of social delays. Things will become much more clear over the next 2 years as you can see how he's developing and what kind of support (if any) he needs to be in a regular classroom. In the meantime, one of the best things as a parent you can do is spend a lot of time observing how he interacts with other children, and how other children interact with each other. in my experience 3 can be a really hard age to discern what's going on, because all the kids have some areas where they're still babies. by 5-6 you can see much more of what an "average" kid looks like.
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PP here. Both, actually. Our current district decided our son was autistic without actually ever doing the testing and would keep us in IEPs for hours trying to convince us to let them "test" him (they had already made up their minds) so they could put him in their autism program, which was basically glorified babysitting. Ironically, we discovered when we went through his school records that his previous public preschool had tested him for autism without our knowledge -- and it came up in the non-autistic range. Neither district ever told us this as it did not fit their agenda. They were doing this to other parents as well, and we found out when all the kids hit the same middle school that the kids who went into the autism program were massively behind where my kid was. It was Dr. Camarata who told the IEP team that they should provide the data on how many kids made it out of the segregated autism program into gen ed. The team got real quiet then and dropped the fight. The three times we had Dr. Camarata conference in on IEPs were really different experiences than when we were on our own. But having all the information of my son's social scores and his nonverbal IQ led us to fight the good fight at every IEP. One of the Camaratas big points that not only was our son not autistic, he was also not cognitively impaired and therefore needed access to the gen ed curriculum. We had followup testing from a different provider and then with the school district itself that verified my son has a typical nonverbal IQ. There are some parents whose children didn't have language delays who always chime in on these threads. Having a child with a receptive language disorder is a very different journey. Schools don't understand language kids. They just dump them in special education and call it a day unless you are vigilant. My son is in high school now, passing grade level classes. He's not the best student because his poor receptive language, but he's learning and progressing. He has had some special ed classes, and they seem to do little in there. There are no tests, books or curriculum. OP, if you look at the stats, the younger they try to diagnose autism, the more often they are wrong. Below age 2 the accuracy is incredibly off. I'd trust your instincts. For now, you can just think about what your child needs and work on that. Have her retested at 3 or above. Tests are so much more accurate then. But always, always, vet the person or clinic first. Ask if they do a differential diagnosis. Ask how often the diagnose autism. |
NP. In practical terms, how do you do this? Who do I talk to? I'm imagining what usually happens when I call Childrens for anything . . . . |