| And you call yourselves middle class...I'd say NOT! Try the wealthy elite. |
You people act like this is an ENORMOUS rent. Have you looked at the rents in Bethesda or even Rockville? A STUDIO in Flats 8300 is almost $2200 mo NOT incl utilities. I have a 2-bedroom (all family lives out of state-don't want them sleeping in my bed) in Rockville in a newer building and I'm paying that, plus I had to pay electric/water but it's near the metro. As a single woman, I wanted a building with a concierge and keyed entrances/elevators as I work rotating shifts. I spend $ on rent, not a car or luxuries (If you got a MDU, you only pay about $1400 for the 2-bedroom, but I make over $50k so I don't qualify) And my 2 bedroom is nothing great- no palladium windows or city views or adequate closet space. It's an apt with loud/sloppy neighbors & rooms that my bedroom furniture is too big for & thin walls. Paying a ton in rent is NOT actually a choice - I need to be near the Red line & and I'm just hoping I will be safe. And with no car, I need to be near a supermarket. I just got a rent increase of over 4% because although it should be like 2%, the notice I got said building management can raise me according to the "market". (I didn't get a 4% raise this year). And I don't think Rockville, with its homeless & illegal immigrants is UMC. (but this is why I am getting experience and then moving out of this area, hopefully before my lease comes up again next year) |
Agreed, I'm starting to look elsewhere since my husband has 100% telework. As for me, 29 and 31 dual feds. HHI is currently 165k as we're both 12s, and at the top of our ladders so we'll only be getting step increases for the foreseeable future. Have two kids: 2 years and 8 months with both attending daycare at 1700 a month. We have 85k left in college loans, 6k in savings/emergency, 319k mortgage (2050 a month), 70k in TSP at 5% to get the matching, and a $600 car payment at 0%. We bought way out for $360k several years ago and I commute in once a week to keep our housing costs down. We haven't even started a fund for our kids colleges. We decided to stop at 2 kids since it'll coincide with several of our loans (car and husband's student loans) will finish around the same time. |
$600 car payment and you’re complaining you’re being “sucked dry”? Oy. Choices, people. |
You are overpaying. |
This is a joke, right? Did you read the "middle class" in the subject line?
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| At 33/34, our financial life in a nutshell: 33K cash, 137K retirement funds, 4K in credit card debt (current snapshot - we put all of our expenses on cards and pay in full every month), 350K mortgage, approximately 400K in student loan debt (90% of which was law school). We're public interest lawyers and are depending on public service loan forgiveness. If that gets messed up, our financial lives are screwed. So we'll see. No kids, but my in-laws have already explicitly stated they would help financially (they are a little desperate for grandkids). They've offered to contribute to the cost of daycare, which would mean we'd have room to save for college. I suspect they'd also contribute to college costs - DH's grandparents paid for half of all the grandkids' college costs, and my in-laws certainly appreciated the assistance and would likely offer us something similar. They get that the grandparent's assistance is part of the reason why they're set for retirement and in a position to help their own grandkids. Assuming they eventually have some. |
| ^couldn’t one of you move away from public interest law – either forever or for a handful of years – so you could afford kids? |
Agree. Why will this make people angry? lol |
We can afford to have a kid. People raise kids on far less than we make now (including my parents who never made close to what I make now). We have other reasons for waiting. |
| You’re rich. I’m rich. The majority of posters on this thread are rich. If you make more than 75% of Americans ($105k HHI in 2016) you are rich. And it doesn’t matter how much your mortgage is, you’re still rich. You have choices. |
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When I was 35 in 1998 my HHI income was $50,000. I was single lived in a tiny cheap apt and drive a 20 year old car and spent every cent.
Today family of five, three homes, three cars, stay at home wife. I make a lot more but pretty much HHI income is not as important as spending. |
You and your husband need to combine your bills and pay off that debt. You’re married! Also, you should be maxing retirement if possible for both of you. Your family needs to be on a budget and your siblings need to get cut off. You are in debt. You need to pay off your loans before helping them. |
The rest of the country is not relevant to costs here! As a single (only) parent of 2 elementary-aged kids, earning $130k, one month of summer camp for my two kids at our charter school or at the YMCA costs me more than my take-home pay after mortgage. That does not feel middle-class. To get any discount beyond the piddly sibling one at the Y or at the charter school, my kids would have to qualify for FARMs, which they obviously don't. I would feel middle-class at $200k in DC, by the simple calculation that for the next 8 summers I'd have a couple hundred bucks leftover outright after paying my mortgage and summer camps. |
Here we go. DC is sooooooo expensive that only 300k is barely middle class . . . . |