Adopting newborn at 52 years old?

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Anonymous wrote:I actually had to turn it off when she announced this. I don’t have a problem with the age, but I do think she was able to get a newborn so quickly due to money. Also, she’s must work 60-70 hrs a week and when could she see the baby other than sleeping.

We do not know the circumstances of the adoption. However, she’s using her wealth to HELP children who could possibly be lost in the foster system and giving them a life that many children in the US could never hope to have. Most parents these days work long hours and hardly see their children, but somehow those children manage to survive. I’m sure Hoda can afford a nanny or two, or she may reduce her workload. Why would you have a problem with this?

Those are very young kids. There are plenty of families available to adopt them. She will no the parenting them and she will work long hours. The issue is her age and she may not make it till their 18th birthday.

How do you know there are plenty of families available to adopt them? And how do you know those families have the resources to take care of them.

There are over 440,000 children in the U.S. foster care system. They all deserve families of their own and Hoda has reached out to take care of two from birth.

Celebrate it.

PP here and my comment about this got buried a couple pages back.

My parents were foster parents for newborn babies; they cared for them while the mother decided to go through with the adoption or not. Newborns are adopted very quickly. There is a very, very long wait (years) to adopt a newborn.

Hoda is NOT a savior. If the baby had not been adopted by her, she would have been adopted by another family. Hoda didn’t rescue this child from a lifetime of foster care.

Okay, say that's true. Why is one family more 'deserving' of a foster child than another when many kids are languishing in the system.

Hoda has the means and the love available to give those kids a fantastic life. I don't get why you think she shouldn't be able to adopt these girls that she clearly desires and loves.

PP here and I agree. I don't care that she adopted them. I am arguing the idea of "thank God she "saved" this child from a possible life in foster care" because that, she did NOT do.

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Anonymous wrote:The news broke today that Hoda Kotb from The Today Show has adopted an 8 day old baby. I'm happy for her, but 52 and a single parent seems extremely old and frankly, unfair to the child.

No doubt, her daughter will have a great life with nannies, a nice lifestyle, hopefully a good inheritance. But it does seem awfully old to be starting your family, especially as a single parent where your chlid is left with a guardian if you die. She'll be 70 when her daughter graduates high school.

It's not easy to adopt a healthy infant, so it also feels like her money/fame is making it possible for her to get a child others wouldn't have the same chance at.

Thoughts? Should there be an upper age limit on adopting infants? (There already is with many international adoptions, not sure about domestic/foster care.)

You’re not happy for her so don’t lie

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How do you know there are plenty of families available to adopt them? And how do you know those families have the resources to take care of them.

There are over 440,000 children in the U.S. foster care system. They all deserve families of their own and Hoda has reached out to take care of two from birth.

Celebrate it.

That amount includes sibling groups and kids of all ages
The goal of foster care is family reunification. They do not all languish in foster care.
Some are semi permanently with grandparent or relative

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The double standard is appalling but not surprising. Men often have kids well into their fifties, sixties and even seventies. That doesn't seem to give anyone a case of the vapors.

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Anonymous wrote:The double standard is appalling but not surprising. Men often have kids well into their fifties, sixties and even seventies. That doesn't seem to give anyone a case of the vapors.

And it’s usually women who have a problem with older women.

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How do you know there are plenty of families available to adopt them? And how do you know those families have the resources to take care of them.

There are over 440,000 children in the U.S. foster care system. They all deserve families of their own and Hoda has reached out to take care of two from birth.

Celebrate it.

That amount includes sibling groups and kids of all ages
The goal of foster care is family reunification. They do not all languish in foster care.
Some are semi permanently with grandparent or relative

And? A child is a child - every child in the system deserves a loving family. And quite frankly - being adopted fully by a loving family is FAR preferable to being with grandparents or relatives part-time. It obviously wouldn't be semi-permanent if those family members have the ability, facilities, or financial means to take those children full time.

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She is not a single mom, she has a longtime partner.

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Meh, babies were born to ladies who died and raised by other women, including grandmas, for centuries. That kid is luckier than many. I say good for Hoda.

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Anonymous wrote:She is not a single mom, she has a longtime partner.

Yes, her longtime partner who lives with her is a finance executive. He also has a much older (adult) daughter from a previous marriage. He's also the adoptive father of Hoda's other adopted daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:The double standard is appalling but not surprising. Men often have kids well into their fifties, sixties and even seventies. That doesn't seem to give anyone a case of the vapors.

Yeah, but it's their younger wife who deals with pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and is almost always the default parent.

Hoda, of course, has adopted her children so she is not dealing with the physical part of it and she has lots of hired help. That's how she is making this all work. But the actual mental/emotional parenting part is going to take a different kind of energy from her as her kids get older. She's well connected and her kids will be, too, so that will also be a big help to her.

Synopsis: Hoda is Hoda. Do not try this at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoda is 52....??!

Wow she looks 35!

Just based on that fact alone then I think adopting a child for her is doable.

Didn't Madonna just adopt two four yr old twins as a single mom?
She is like fifty eight.

Twins=two so therefore you are saying she adopting four, not two. I know it total she adopted four but, you don't need to say two when saying twins. So annoying when people make this mistake.

PP didn't say anything incorrectly.

PP should’ve said, “Didn’t Madonna adopt four-year-old twins?”

Twins indicates two siblings. Saying two twins is just wrong.

Could you be any more tiresome?

I don’t think so!

I’m sorry you don’t like learning.

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Of course every story is different, but when I hear of an older mom having a baby on her own, I recall the sad story of playwright Wendy Wasserstein and her daughter (born when Wasserstein was 48,
left an orphan seven years later).

https://www.haaretz.com/jewish/.premium-2006-wendy-wasserstein-who-never-had-it-all-dies-1.5491957

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Anonymous wrote:Of course every story is different, but when I hear of an older mom having a baby on her own, I recall the sad story of playwright Wendy Wasserstein and her daughter (born when Wasserstein was 48,
left an orphan seven years later).

https://www.haaretz.com/jewish/.premium-2006-wendy-wasserstein-who-never-had-it-all-dies-1.5491957

Yes, of course this is sad, but what does it have to do with Hoda? Parents die all the time, but people keep harping on about age as if there’s a direct correlation between the mother’s age (of course it’s always the mother) and her age of death. Women live into their 80s and 90s and beyond, so someone in their 50s isn’t ancient despite the handwringing of so many. All this drama Is tiresome. Instead of feeling happy for her and her children, people like you and other PPs seem to be waiting for her to die so your little theory can be proven and you can shout ‘I told you so.’

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Anonymous wrote:Hoda is 52....??!

Wow she looks 35!

Just based on that fact alone then I think adopting a child for her is doable.

Didn't Madonna just adopt two four yr old twins as a single mom?
She is like fifty eight.

Twins=two so therefore you are saying she adopting four, not two. I know it total she adopted four but, you don't need to say two when saying twins. So annoying when people make this mistake.

PP didn't say anything incorrectly.

PP should’ve said, “Didn’t Madonna adopt four-year-old twins?”

Twins indicates two siblings. Saying two twins is just wrong.

Could you be any more tiresome?

I don’t think so!

I’m sorry you don’t like learning.

It’s a common mistake people make. It’s almost unavoidable, so don’t pat yourself on the back. I’m sure you’ve made a few yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Hoda is 52....??!

Wow she looks 35!

Just based on that fact alone then I think adopting a child for her is doable.

Didn't Madonna just adopt two four yr old twins as a single mom?
She is like fifty eight.

Twins=two so therefore you are saying she adopting four, not two. I know it total she adopted four but, you don't need to say two when saying twins. So annoying when people make this mistake.

PP didn't say anything incorrectly.

PP should’ve said, “Didn’t Madonna adopt four-year-old twins?”

Twins indicates two siblings. Saying two twins is just wrong.

Could you be any more tiresome?

I don’t think so!

I’m sorry you don’t like learning.

It’s a common mistake people make. It’s almost unavoidable, so don’t pat yourself on the back. I’m sure you’ve made a few yourself.

I absolutely have. That’s why I get the need for correction. I’m not at all trying to be a jerk. (By the way, I’m not the original PP who mentioned this, so there are two of us.)